I am 32 year old female and I have everything going for myself. Great career, I own my own home, I have a dog and no boyfriend or serious relationship. I take care of myself and I am very attractive. I am doing everything a good descent women would do but I am not meeting the right men. My last boyfriend was in Iraq for 12 months and I waited for him and he cheated on me as soon as he got back. Why is it so hard to meet the right person? It seams like there are too many games and BS and I so tired but I do not want to be alone. I just want to share my life with a great man.
2006-09-26 03:50:08 · 20 answers · asked by raerae 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The one thing you DON'T want to do is look for a guy in a bar, that is more than likely not the kind of person you will want to spend the rest of your life with. If church is a thing you do, which I do recommend, that would be an ideal spot to meet someone. Maybe try asking friends if they know of any decent single guys and find a way to meet them. Have a mutual friend invite you both to dinner, I know, a set up, blind date, ugh...but you never know.
2006-09-26 03:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by hopetohelpyou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are you looking for the one at? This could have a lot to do with the problems you are having... If you are going to a bar that would be very bad news. Nothing but cheating men and AA meetings there. If you find someone you fancy out side of the bars, you should be bold and ask them out... what is the worst that they could say NO! Ok great, they missed out then not you. Then move on to the next. Dating is very difficult for people that are not in the right mind set. You have to be positive and think highly of your self or no one will. So if you are having problems finding singles try a blind date. Have one of your friends set you up or at least keep a look out for you. Use all your resources. Old high school friends look up a guy and see what they are doing. Maybe there taken maybe there not but it is worth a shot at happiness to ask. Keep trying and keep your head up; and if all else fails then keep smiling. Everyone likes a happy person.
I found the love of my life while I was working between semesters at a factory. He and I have been together now for 4 years. It's not easy, we have to really work at it sometimes, but it is worth every second of the relationship. You too will find that, and maybe it will fall in your lap if you just stop looking. I wasn't looking when I found my man. I was determained to be a single girl for my first summer back from college.
2006-09-26 11:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by marcie2000k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many, many eligible men who I'm sure would love nothing more than to be with you. However, women are only sexually attracted to a small percentage of men, and those men are precisely the ones who are most likely to cheat on them, because they have options know what to do. This sounds like your last guy. You say you don't want games, but that's the only stuff women respond too. As soon as you treat them like human beings, they lose interest. It's crazy but that's how they are. Try hard to look for something you like in the normal nice guys, even if at first they don't appear as confident or unpredicatable as the sexually exciting guys.
2006-09-26 10:54:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sisonpyh 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wish I knew the answer, I am 36, male, attractive, great job, house, 2 cars, and a dog, but no woman. It makes no sense to me either. Keep searching though, the right one is out there somewhere. Good Luck
2006-09-26 10:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by russp321 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best things come to those who wait, it's just not your time yet. Don't sound so discourage, if he cheated on you after having to wait for him 12 months! Then he did you a favor Hun.
Try going on a single cruise etc...The right one will come along, and when he does you will be thankful that you were available!
Best of luck :)
2006-09-26 10:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want something good in life you need to work on getting that. Same with relationships - you got to be strong and keep looking, until you find the one and only HIM. Such guys are out there, but there are not a lot of them and it takes time to find one.
Don't give up.
Good luck.
2006-09-26 10:53:16 · answer #6 · answered by Michael R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not about meeting the right person; it's about BEING the right person. In other words: you have nothing to worry about. But the right guy will come to you at the right time. And that'll make your final relationship even greater and more enjoyable than anything else. Think about it: for every heartbreak you experience, that's one more heartbreak that your final relationship will eliminate. I know it sounds cheesy, but it's completely true. Patience is the key. He will come to you, when the time is right.
2006-09-26 10:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where are ya from sweetheart? I know a great guy who's turning 27 in a little over a week. If you're what you say you are, he'll appreciate that a lot... and take very good care of you.
Plus from what I hear.. he's pretty good in the sack.
2006-09-26 10:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question seems to answer your question. You are tired of trying. Part of dating is the BS. I say take a break . It will happen when you are ready to get into the swing of things again. Good luck.
2006-09-26 10:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by rollerbabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two possibilities: Are you not too full of yourself? Are you not putting the guys off by your attitude? Secondly, are you socialising in the right places? Sometimes we expect things to happen out of the blue. Try going to places where there are usually lots of singles.
2006-09-26 11:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Jorge E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋