I very much dislike dogs. As a kid I was very allergic to dogs, and I am still a little allergic to this day. I don't like the smell, the noise, the mess, or the work associated with them. We will be renting, so we have much fewer options for places to live, and it will be more expensive (pet deposits, monthly fees, etc). I know in my heart I am going to resent the dog immediately, and then my girlfriend later on. I work full time, and have meetings, etc most evenings. She will be working full time and finishing school. Aside from my dislike of dogs.... I don't think we'll have a lot of time to take care of it, and the extra money could be put to better use. Her parents won't take her anymore, but the dog could live in Georgia with my girlfriends aunt.... they have a 3500 sqft house and 4 acres or property.
She knows how I feel about dogs and could care less... she just HAS to have it.
What should I do!?!?
2006-09-26 03:37:55 · 23 answers · asked by wvukid21 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Pull the plug. This relationship is dead, you just don't know it yet.
2006-09-26 03:46:02 · answer #1 · answered by SPLATT 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Run over it
Spike its food with about 4 aspirin
Take it for a walk .... down the interstate.
Take it for a drive and dump it in a trailer park.
I dislike dogs as well.
More rationally.....
Perhaps suggest that you two get an agreeable pet if she has to have a pet. Maybe start up a nice aquarium....they are very relaxing...and add to the style of the place. Or maybe rent a house with a fenced backyard. If it's more than two bedrooms, find another tenant...the more people sharing a place, the cheaper it is.
2006-09-26 10:49:41 · answer #2 · answered by jaike 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that you are not right for each other, because if you love this woman then you love her for her and her love of animals. did she know that you did ot like dogs, or did she find out later after you have been with her for awhile?you can't make some one get rid of a pet that they have had just because you don't like them, i think that it is wrong and selfish. but if you still feel this way then i don't think it would be a good idea for you to move in together because you won't be happy and you will make your girlfriend feel uncomfortable to be around. if i was you i would end it now before it gets worse because it won't get any better down the road, you will fight about the dog and either you or her will leave the relationship. plus dogs are like having children and if you plan to have kids then you wil need to do the same thing and care for that chiid. and yes kids do smell, they cost money, they make alot of noise, and you will have to work for them to keep them healthy.
2006-09-26 11:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The dog is obviously part of the package deal. When she adopted the dog, she made a committment to take care of it from then on, not only when it was convenient and she has clearly taken that to heart. It isn't fair of you to ask her to part with the dog--like another answer said, it is now part of the family. It is fair of you to say that you won't move in with her because of the dog, but not to ask her to get rid of it.
When you said "she knows how I feel about dogs and could care less..." I have to ask--do you know how SHE feels about her dog and understand why she "just HAS to have it"? It's not property, it's a friend/companion/etc. that is not disposable. Just because there is someone else will to take the dog that has more land, doesn't mean the dog will be happier. It craves companionship and has most likely formed a bond with your girldfriend that cannot be replaced with a big house and yard.
2006-09-26 10:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie H 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Find another girlfriend. I'm dead serious.
There's nothing wrong with either of you....but the love for dogs is deeply ingrained. Generally, you either have it or you don't. If you have it, you cannot give it up without being miserable. There's nothing wrong with you, either. But if you don't have that deep love for dogs, you're right....you'll always be resentful, because you'll never really and truly understand where she's coming from (and vice versa.) Every once in awhile, a non-pet person will be 'converted' once they experience the love our pets have to offer....but the opposite never happens, in my experience. Once a pet-person, ALWAYS a pet-person.
As much as you might love each other...trust me, this is not a match made in heaven. Life is too short for either of you to have to make that kind of sacrifice for each other, imo.
2006-09-26 10:55:21 · answer #5 · answered by A Veterinarian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make her choose point blank...she must have the dog?or does she need you more???does she love the dog more or can she live without you??...she obviously doesn't respect your condition . she shows no concerns at all. maybe she has a relative or friends who can adapt the dog so she can visit it.?that is IF she choose you. maybe if she doesn't realize or can't understand your situation, keep something she hates- like ex maybe?--kidding.
hope i helped a little.
you're gonna get a lot of breaking up advice.don't be surprise because she very much make it seem like she care less about you. she's not even thinking about the money she's gonna have to pull out to keep this dog. you're gonna need a lot of money to start a home together, she can't realize that now, then you're doomed. review my advice above if you wanna work it out and can't live without her. if it doesn't work...cut the string off. it ain't gonna work.
2006-09-26 10:47:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. JSV 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a tough question! Do you care about her enough to get past this and try to negotiate? If you can't come to a happy medium BEFORE you move in together I think there will be some issues right away. She needs to do some soul searching and decide if the dog is important enough to her to sacrifice your relationship. I guess If it were me , I would tell her that it is me or the dog - omgosh, Good luck with this one!
2006-09-26 10:45:28 · answer #7 · answered by onewikkedwoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would you be willing to settle if she got a hypoallergenic dog (one that doesn't shed and won't give you allergies)? dogs can bring a lot of joy into your life if you let them.
if you're not willing to go for this, don't move in together. having a pet is like real family, and if the relationship goes any further, chances are your gf will want a pet somewhere down the road, and it's very difficult for people who love pets to live without one!
2006-09-26 10:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to put your foot down then. Explain to her that it's come down to either her or the dog and let her know of your feelings towards resentment.
May I offer another suggestion? Don't move in together anyway. It really doesn't sound like you're ready. She's not paying any attention to your feelings so that's not a good start to this.
2006-09-26 10:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
a dog eating a good food will not have a smell and will poop WAY less than a dog eating a cheap food (any from grocery store or wal mart)
I assume you have met her dog - I would have wanted to know the breed ( some breeds are more maintanace than others and some are easier to rehome)
to be fair though - its like kids - if your girlfriend had kids would you ask her to leave them behind?? possibly - but how do you think it will effect her and how she sees you in the years to come...
if you ask her to get rid of the dog.. then 5 years from now if she asks you to throw out something you love (a t-shirt or whatever) and you refuse - she will say "I gave up my dog for you" etc... so it will always haunt you
disguss the aunt but if thats a no-go you will have to accept the dog,
a pet is a LIFETIME commitment.. she needs to honor that before you.. sorry
2006-09-26 10:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by CF_ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is her dog. When you have them, they become part of the family, not just a pet. They are like your baby, not just a dog. It's sooooo hard to just get rid of it if you love it like that. If you can make sure the apartment stays clean, etc. and you take allergy shots or whatever, you may be able to tolerate living with a dog. Who knows, you may start to love it as much as she does. At least try it out. If you love her that much, you should at least try to make it work. Try to compromise instead of making her give up something she loves so much.
2006-09-26 10:47:42 · answer #11 · answered by puoL 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋