my frnds' relationship is 2 years, my 2nd friends' is 4 years, mine is 3 years.
all of us get bored to our bf.
now lets focus in my relationship...
i think i get bored w this long relationship.
n if i away from him, lets have sum long distance relationship for a month, i hv tendency not to miss him n start to flirt w guys i attracted to ( doesnt really mean to go out for a date or anythin, so far i only flirt to hv fun)
but when i get back to the same place n we start to see regulary again i kinda feel the need to see him again....i think i only need "sumone " to accompany me n he is a very nice guy, but i dont love him as much as he loves me.
the prob is, i cant break him up becoz its hard to find guy as nice as him, i still love him ( just get used to him too much) but not as much as he loves me...
but..i get bored n i dont feel the old thrill...........i dont know how to put this into proper question but i hope i have describe this gud enough...
2006-09-26 03:34:43 · 12 answers · asked by facobasten1984 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hope you realise that the problem lies within yourself not with your boyfriend.
You can't even type out full words. All the abbrevations you use tell me that you, like the vast majority of the MTV generation, have a very short attention span. I believe that if you end the relationship with this guy that you'll get bored with the next an so on and so on.
I wasn't trying to be mean with the MTV comment but sometime a little kick in the pants is what we need.
If you're bored it's up to you to spice things up in the relationship. You need to focus more of your attention on your relationship instead of flirting around.
Start talking with your boyfriend and you may just realize that you have a great relationship that just needs to be spiced up once in a while.
I've been with the same woman for 15 years and yes sometimes things get "boring". When we come to realise this we talk about it and do stuff fire up out relationship and each time we find we become closer and more in love than we've ever been.
2006-09-26 03:52:24 · answer #1 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should just let him go to find the person that will love him the same. Not trying to be mean, you are being selfish right now by tying him to this relationship and u know you do not want to give as much as he is giving you.
He may be a nice guy, but not the right nice guy for you, even if you eventually get marrried, u may get so bored of him and cheat on him, can u stand to hurt him in this way? I've been with my boyfriend for (going on) 6years. We don't get bored of each other at all. We want to spend as much time as possible together (our alone time). Just an example. Well, basically what I am saying is, it doesn't sound like you two is right for each other. And just the nice guy he is, he's gonna keep putting his 120% to make things work out. Look deep into your heart, u'll know that there is just SOMETHING miossing, he's not the one, nice or not. You'll find another guy that is perfect for u. Good luck!
2006-09-26 03:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by ladida 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is really sad - you are basically depriving him of the ability to find someone who really does love him, because you are selfish. You "can't" break up with him? No, YOU CAN. You just won't, because you are a chicken shi*. You are only with him because you are afraid of being alone. Show some respect for him and break up with him.
It doesn't sound like you've experienced life enough to be in a long term relationship. You need to get some balls, and find the strength to be alone, even if it sounds scary.
2006-09-26 03:43:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to watch soccer games on tv at home. watch some good movies as well with him at home and prepare some good snacks that u can share together while watching. Try to have mutual friends that u can both hang around with. Do ask him to have lunch or dinner out sometimes even when there is no special occasion so u can have bonding moments. or walk around in ur village with him holding each other's hands and u can catch up on the things that happened with both of u for that day.
2016-03-27 10:41:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is part of a long relationship.The fun comes in when you can find some new things to do together.There is so much to do out there in the world.Find so of them together and you both will grow in the prosess.Change helps a lot .You don`t always have to change partners just things to do .Try it ,it may help. Good luck!
2006-09-26 03:48:21 · answer #5 · answered by Step 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its ok to want and enjoy time to yourself, but the flirting tells me this is probably not the love of a lifetime. You will experience many different depths and kinds of love throughout your life. I believe each one is a learning experience until we find someone that we are truly compatible with and want to spend the rest of our lives with.
Once we are settled in to a relationship, it will never again feel the same as it did when you first started dating, but in order to last you still have to have some sort of thrill and desire.
My advice to you is to enjoy yourself, but don't lead your boyfriend on. If you know he loves you more than you love him, don't pretend or play games. Go with it but, never pretend to feel something you don't. Either you will grow closer or you will eventually want to move on. Just don't worry, its natural.
2006-09-26 03:44:24 · answer #6 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bored- Deftones
2006-09-26 03:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by rastapharri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has become your co-depend ant.
Get out quick you're using this nice guy. He needs to be with someone who thinks he is more than a nice guy. He will hate you for stringing him along.
2006-09-26 03:37:52 · answer #8 · answered by Jazz 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wish I could help you on this one....Im in the same situation and it sucks, coz u feel guilty and u dont know y.
Good luck though
2006-09-26 03:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by Ocean 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
we all get bored sometime espeacially if the family is geting in are relation ship you get more tired so i understand why your looking somewhere else
2006-09-26 03:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋