My husband has been treating me pretty bad for a while now. A lot of flirting, wanting to leave me when he gets angry with me, going out, being secretive, talking to other women on the phone etc. He has tried changing his career at least 3 times this year but has been unsuccessful. I've been supportive each time but I feel he takes it for graned and still does what he wants. My friends question why I am still with him. I do love him and I want things to get better so I pray for our marriage daily. Some days are harder than others. Do you think the way he is treating me is why he has not been successful in career changing?
2006-09-26 03:22:23 · 11 answers · asked by Skypride 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
He might be feeling the conviction of the Holy Ghost, and he is trying to find something that will take his mind off of what God wants him to do.
Keep praying. Make sure that you stay close to Jesus no matter what (it could get worse, or just wear you down spiritually).
Get more people to pray for you. Do a web search with these key words "pentecostal prayer request". That will get you to many sites were you can send in your own prayer requests (I have had a question that I am looking to God for the answer, and as I am not spirit baptized I needed to find people who can hear from God).
God be with you.
2006-09-26 03:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by tim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Curious,
First quit praying.
Second, do something positive. Stop being in denial. I know it will be painful but admit to yourself he is having an affair. You have enough proof already, but if you want more spend 100 bucks on a phone bug from Radio Shack and record his conversations.
Third, give him tough love. Get him out, or leave yourself. He will not change his behaviour unless he loses you.
As to why he is treating you badly, I can only guess that it is because he craves the excitement and attention of relationships with different women. If he treats you badly as well, it because he does not respect you. This may be because he has little self respect, possibly related to his career failures. Look, you deserve his respect, and now is the time to make him wake up.
2006-09-26 10:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by Pastor Sauce 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know either him or you, so it's very difficult to answer. But what I can say is this: whenever I've seen one of my gf's husbands or their bf's "going out, being secretive, talking to other women on the phone etc.," he's either been contemplating having an affair, or actually having one. The fact that he wants to leave you and change his job shows he's feeling restless. I suspect he's not being truthful with you about these issues. Honey, you must remember: being a Christian wife does NOT equate to being a doormat.
Seek counciling now, before things get worse.
Peace.
2006-09-26 10:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Suzanne: YPA 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need professional councelling. Really get things out in the open. You will probably discover a side of yourself and a side of your husband that you didnt know. Sometimes when there is a non-partial person in the room, it helps you see things better. Sometimes emotions gets in the way of seeing true things.
2006-09-26 10:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Clock Watcher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The will of God: "I will have mercy, and not sacrifice"; And the "not" part is not then, not now, not ever with God never desired sacrifice for sin(is of the law and by the law), nor ever took pleasure in watching such law law.
Perhaps your husband is not a man, but rather a childish-man. The head of the woman(dec'd) is "the man", not an oxymoronic man child. And perhaps you are wrongly focused on sacrifice. So, as the first post aptly says: perhaps you both need counselling.
With all thy getting, get understanding.
Result: thy head crowned with "grace".
The GRACE of our Lord Jesus Christ WITH YOU ALL. AMEN.
2006-09-26 10:31:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He can only treat you with the same respect he has for himself.
Sounds like he has some issues he needs to address. A good marriage counselor could get to the bottom of it. I said good, there are bad marriage counselors. They usually try to get God involved somehow.
2006-09-26 10:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Real Friend 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just might be. Keep praying for him--but be specific--pray for the coversion of his soul, his relationship with God. If this is fixed, the marriage will be too.
2006-09-26 10:25:08 · answer #7 · answered by CatholicMOM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's funny how good things happen more often when you do good things and bad things happen more often when you do bad things. Unfortunately, while God may comfort you, It will have no effects on your choices. God feels your pain and does not want you to allow yourself to be tortured but It will not help you with your decision.
2006-09-26 10:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both need to get counseling.
2006-09-26 10:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating on you. I guarantee it.
2006-09-26 10:25:55 · answer #10 · answered by lenny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋