gourmet lunch shop and she is working there. At this shop things are so busy and noisy, there is no time to strike up ANY conversation. I just smile and place my order..... at the church where I have been seeing her for the past 5 wks, I see her sitting in the sanctuary, but there is NO opportunity to sit close to her, nor to make any eye contact nor any conversation. When church is over I can't get to her before she leaves. I DO know, from asking around at the church that she is divorced, and very, very unlikely dating anyone.....and that she is a very sweet person who has a 5 year old son.Question: The lunch place has a slow time around 3:00 in the afternoon and maybe I can talk to her then......... Is it ok to ask her out on a date the first time I talk with her, because who knows I never get another opportunity to ask her out again... I have not even said a word to her yet.....because of the lack of opportunity. Help !!!!!
2006-09-26 03:20:51 · 7 answers · asked by JustPeachy !!! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sure. Go for it! Confidence is sexy, and you never know when you will see her again. Be sure to maintain good eye contact (This implies that you are interested in her & self-confident; and if you are always glancing down at your shoes, like shy people always do, she might assume that you are looking at her boobs and slap you.).
But act calm & casual about it. If you act too nervous or eager, she might feel pressured into a relationship and she will say no. No one likes someone who acts desperate and needy.
2006-09-26 03:30:07 · answer #1 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Opportunity is often created out of the desire to make it happen. Sounds like you may be a bit afraid of rejection so you don't push it. Trust me I know that feeling.
Try this. Go to the restaurant at 3:00 pm and when you talk to her tell her you see her at church. Talk about that for a bit so she knows you have something in common.
Ask her if she is single. Ya I know you know she is but she doesn't know you and it is a great way to lead into asking for her phone number or e-mail address. I would try to get both.
Once you get that let her get back to work. Wait a couple of days and call or e-mail her and then maybe you can set up the date.
She may not be into dating at all depending on how hurt she was with the divorce or how soon that happened. So take it easy and do not push. When you are together think of ways to make her laugh. She will find you interesting then and remember you.
What ever you do....do not put this off. If you don't try someone else will so go for it.
2006-09-26 03:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to tell you to talk to her a couple of times first. If the two of you have never exchanged words you must like her because she is pretty. If she is pretty then the chances are she gets asked out all of the time. You should score some points for going to her church. If it she that is new to the church you might think anbout asking her if she is going to be at the next church funcion. also, if she is new to church, try not to come of like religion is all you think about. (To other christians I know that sounds bad and I'm sorry), Chances are she feels she is missing something from her life (It might have something to do with her divorce). If you two do go out and take rhe child please try not to come off as the childs best friend, kids can spot a phoney.
Anyway, I say go to her job during a slow hour and see about the chance of running in to her at a church gathering. Ask her out about the third time meeting with her. And don't be nervus. Even if she did rejected you she would still be flaterd. Oh by the way, if you have asked around about her the chances are someone has told her.
2006-09-26 03:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by dumbblond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
each mom in some unspecified time interior the destiny purely needs the toddler out of her...it has no mirrored image on how she will experience approximately her toddler interior the long-term. do no longer do something to 'help' her, considering which you may finally end up doing her extra injury than sturdy. If she's interior the wellness center, she's being taken care of medically, and there is quite no longer something you men can do yet wait.
2016-10-18 00:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by turrill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok thats stalking, but if you come up strike up a convo, like "hey I see you at church(which is a good place to meet nice ladies...not hoes) and if the convo goes well then proceed to ask her out but if not, then save it for later...
2006-09-26 03:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by J from O 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
once in a while we get rejected. i'd say go for it and if she says no then at least u tried and u won't have to look back one day and ask the question "what if..."
you'll only know how she feels if you try.
2006-09-26 03:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by ice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her out, all she can say is no. She also may welcome the opportunity to have a friend.
2006-09-26 03:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by goodbye 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋