I had been dating this guy for about 6 wks. He knew I was looking for a relationship and not a sex buddy. We have not had sex yet. I told him that when or if we do, I want it to mean something. He respects that. Well we hang out all the time. He plans all our dates, it's really cool. I've never dated a guy that is like this. But we got talking one nite & red flags came up all over. It comes down 2 this. I am looking for a relationship down the road & he isn't sure he wants one but wants sex. Well like I said I'm not looking for that. I want more & I'm tired of settling for less, so this time I'm not! I called things off between us. It was only last wk this happened and I haven't seen him since then. He emails me though, but pretty much about nothing. Except last night he emailed me & he asked if I had changed my mind about hanging out again. He said that it would be fun. He tells me that he enjoys spending time with me. I miss him & want to but do I tell him ONLY as friends ....
2006-09-26 03:02:55 · 9 answers · asked by browneyegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do I tell him that we can hang out as friends and that I am going to be dating other people??? I want to date this man but I am not going to waste my time on wanting something I can't have. I don't know what to do. Can anyone please help me?????
2006-09-26 03:04:59 · update #1
I am 26 and he is 31
2006-09-26 03:22:52 · update #2
Let me get this straight, you dated this guy for 6 weeks and did not have sex. Hey, honey, if any man will wait 6 weeks and still not get laid than he is a saint. Grab him quick. This is a serious man and he has much potential to be the one that you want.
2006-09-26 03:09:09 · answer #1 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally clear where he is...and I'm sure that he does miss your friendship.
I think you should be clear on what you want and stick to it...that doesn't even mean that you have to tell him.He cant take it any further unless you want to.
He will realize that you are seeing other people, when you happen to mention it...
Don't stress it so much though, as a friend, you will be able to see what he is really ready for and get to know a lot more about him from a safe distance, without getting sexually involved that is. If it is meant to be then you will notice him become serious, and relationship minded...and if he is interested at that point, he will ask.
2006-09-26 10:16:59 · answer #2 · answered by Patience 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are young (20 and under) then I would say he is just wanting you for sex (because he probably knows you have been THINKING about it).
If he has nothing interesting to talk about with you, since you called it off, he is just trying to get with you, sexually. If he cared about you, you would see it in his emails...or hear it in his voice that he misses you.
He very well may enjoy just hanging out with you...and if you tell him that it's okay to hang out, but there is no chance of sexual acts, then that is fine...but be up front right from the start. If he doesn't come around after that, you have your answer.
2006-09-26 10:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by brianwerner1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to hang out with this guy as friends then do. However, do not let him talk you into anything you do not want to do. You said that you were tired of these kinds of relationships so stick to what you believe and don't let him talk you into anything. It sounds like he is after sex but he could also like spending time with you. Just make sure he knows that you are not willing to have sex. Good luck.
2006-09-26 10:09:41 · answer #4 · answered by Midnight Blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. dont do it..i got sucked into the same thing and each time we hung out he tried to touch me ina way that i was uncomfortable. At the movies he'd puthis arm around me and id tell him im not comfortable. Im ghetto so it sounded liek this in the theater," Get the hell off me! didn't i tell you we aint like that studpid?" and he'd just smile and say we're just at the movies, adn im relaxing or sumthing dumber than that. Id just get up and leave cuz he'd keep doing it. One day he tried to corner me and i twisted his arma dn pushed him against the wall and i told him that if he ever tried to touch me after i said no, id chop his fingers off...then i said that if he just wanted to hang then keep calling. he never called back again. SO! he was a sex buddy.. C the differnece? hope that helps!
2006-09-26 10:08:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,,its easy..just tell him that you havent changed your mind about being intimate at this time in your life but that you can both go & do stuff together or hang out or whatever.If he wants to date others as well,,then you can both agree to see others.
2006-09-26 10:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cared about you, he'd be talking about other things too. You would feel it when in his presence and wouldn't have to be so worried. I wouldn't even hang out with him anymore, if there's no like or love. That's just me.
2006-09-26 10:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep it as only friends for now and when u see that he if trying to get in your pants laugh at him and say calm down i want a friendship
2006-09-26 10:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by yourgirl1517 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to tap that a s s.
2006-09-26 10:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋