Is a woman in her early forties too old to become a mother? I am talking about conceiving naturally, not using IVF with can result in women of 60 getting pregnant.
2006-09-26 03:00:11 · 28 answers · asked by MissEssex 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think around 45. You want to be around to meet your grandchildren.
2006-09-26 03:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by carolinethompson83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the key point is to be realistic (even brutally so).
Even if you are still getting a regular period it doesn't mean you will have a healthy baby into your late forties. Ask yourself if you really want to have a disabled child or could live with a still birth or miscarriage? Nobody would choose those things but it's what you realistically have to be prepared to accept if you are anywhere between 40 and 50.
A friend of mine got pregnant naturally and very easily at the age of 45 and was overjoyed but very worried about having a child with Downs Syndrome (although she wanted it and would have loved it anyway). This was all that was on her mind when she went for her first scan. She was totally distraught when she was told that her baby was dead and had been so for up to 3 weeks. She has been advised that age is not on her side and to consider giving up on having a child. I would go as far as to say that it's beginning to take over her life; partly as an obssession to go ahead, partly worry that she shouldn't and partly depression.
Although many healthy babies are born to many women over 40, being realistic, you have more chance of ending up in a situation like my friend. If you can really live with that kind of thing being a very real possibility then you're braver than I would probably be.
(Sorry about the essay length)
2006-09-26 05:51:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
My Lil girl is 6 and in her class is a boy who's mum is 50, ( i am 30 by the way) she is a very good mother and is still able to do every thing I can do probably with a bit more patience!!!
Hers was 'a change of life baby' so it was natural, y ' never know, good luck!
Oh, and an auntie of mine had twins at 40 so anything is possible!
2006-09-28 00:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by EMA 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a person in her early forties is too old at all. It's more common than ever these days to wait and have children at a later age. I think whatever age the woman feels comfortable with is the right age.
2006-09-26 04:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by Ms M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so fed up with the pc rubbish that we live in and with.
As far as I am concerned if a woman, regardless of her age, conceives naturally, then if she wants it then it is still ok with her body. We know there are risks with pregnancy in older women - but then there are risks with pregnancy full stop. And not all of the handicapped and other deformities that children are born with are as a result of their mother being older. It happens to young people too. My advice is if this is your situation - look after yourself properly, take all the advice you can and ignore the political correctness of whether it's 'right' or not - it's right for you.
2006-09-26 03:14:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that the human body has a pretty good way of telling you when you're too old to have children. If your body's saying that you still can then why not?
The only thing to consider is that the risks of certain conditions IE Downs Syndrome can increase with the age of the mother.
2006-09-26 03:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by Jooles 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Early forties isn't to old to be a mother you see too many young girls pushing prams they should enjoy life a bit first! and to the person who doesnt believe in ivf...you have obviously never needed it then!!!
2006-09-27 08:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by buttercup 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i work in an obgyn and you would not believe the ages of the women that are pregnant! some are as old as my mom! but there is one thing you need to think about is that the older you get when you get pregnant the higher the risk of having a child with birth deffect or down syndrome, i believe the are starting to discourage women over the age of 37 to have kids because of that reason, but if its something you want to do you need to ask a doctor, good luck and god bless
2006-09-26 03:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by hannah and hailyn's mommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Other than those poor girls that go through it early, when menopause hits. That's mother natures way of saying time's up hun.
I'm in my 20s and have two children. If a woman feels she has to make a choice between career or kids she should just make it and live with the consequences.
2006-09-26 03:05:40 · answer #9 · answered by DemonicaB 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
physically a woman can have a baby until she reaches menopause ... altho the older a women is the higher the risk of having genetic problems and its harder to concieve as well the older a woman is , would also like to point out the older a man is when he fathers a child there is also an increased risk of genetic defects.....
but each to their own and if a woman wants a baby later in life then why not !!
2006-09-26 03:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have seen women in their 40's and 50's get pregnant naturally. The best thing to do is talk to your doctor about it. And see what he/she has to say. Most women can conceive clear up to menopause.
2006-09-26 03:04:20 · answer #11 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋