This will probably be based on clothes for outside school, and with me still paying for her social activities (eg guides etc).
2006-09-26 02:56:05 · 28 answers · asked by honeypot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
At 12, she doesnt need a clothing allowance. Nor does it matter what other parents are doing. YOU are the parent in your home, and YOU decide what flies. Does she have any chores that she's responsible for at home? Does she get an allowance of any kind?
2006-09-26 03:32:55 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think you should say no to this one. If she gets pocket money (i don't know if she does), and her activities paid for, whatever they are, i think she gets quite enough. I'm only 21 and i didn't get anything like that. I had pocket money, and not very much at that, i think i got £5 a week. If she wants clothes i would suggest taking her, that way, she can't squander her 'clothes allowance' when out with her friends...trust me, that is what my friends who got this sort of thing, did...it didn't work!
She's a bit young to understand the value of money and that it doesn't just appear in you bank so i would just keep paying for what you're paying for and forget a clothes allowance. Besides, if you buy her the clothes, she can't come home with something that you highly regard as unappropriate and you'll know what she has in her wardrobe. Trust me, it saves on arguments like "you are NOT going out like that!"
2006-09-26 03:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by mother knowledge 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your child is 12. If she needs clothes, take her shopping and buy clothes that YOU deem suitable or acceptable. Kids today are of the idea that just because their friends get something that they should have it also.
Wrong, wrong, wrong.
YOU DECIDE what would be appropriate for YOUR child. If her having a clothing "allowance" means that she can go out and buy and wear whatever she wants, then I would say keep your money in your pocket. She is twelve but may want to dress in a manner that you don't approve of. If that's the case, set the ground rules now.
If you catch her wearing something out in public that you don't approve of, make her take it back and accompany her in doing so to make sure that it has been done.
good luck,
J
2006-09-26 03:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by frankly2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what she likes. If she is into "names" (brand) then you are looking at $60 to $80 for an outfit or perhaps more. That means $20 a week for her to be able to purchase an outfit once a month. I think it's fair if you can afford it. If she's not into names, then $10 is more then enough. she doesn't have to buy a complete outfit. She can buy her self a pair of pants or a shirt every two weeks.
My daughter loves limited too (she's 10) That is how I'm providing the allowance cost to you.
To be honest with you, If it was up to me; I wouldn't think about allowance for clothing at her age, just give her spending money (weekly) as her allowance to do as she please movie's etc... If she wants clothing then take her with you. It will allow you to monitor what she is wearing for "one", and you can set limitations on how much she spends on an outfit.
:)
2006-09-26 03:19:29 · answer #4 · answered by E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't give her a clothing allowance, make her earn money for her clothes and teach her the value of the dollar. Give her chores to do for a certain amount, and be a little tight with the money for the chores. The clothes will mean more to her when she has to pay for them with money she earns and she will be in control of how much money she has. Do more chores, have more money, sit and watch TV, get no money. You can teach value, responsibility, get her doing something productive and she will learn that things in life are not free... Give her the money and she will not respect what she gets...
2006-09-26 03:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to pay for everything. My daughter is 13, I pay for things that have to do with school, cheerleading, sports, etc. She has chores around the house that she is responsible for. She does some laundry, vacuum house, dusting, dishes, etc. I give her $10.00 per week (if she does more than what's on her "chore list", she can earn up to $20. per week) If she wants a new outfit or a new pair of shoes, or a purse...something that is over and above what I would normally provide, then she has to use "her" money. Believe me it teaches her to save her money for what she wants. It also teaches her that if she really wants something, she has to work to get it, it's not just handed to her. Hope this helps!
2006-09-26 03:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by lil_rowdy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she's planning on buying all her clothes from Walmart or Kmart I wouldn't go along with it... Simply because clothing from malls and designer stores are priced over the roof... You'll wind up having to give her an extravagant amount of money... even for just a pair of socks...
2006-09-26 03:02:54 · answer #7 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a recipe on how to raise a spoiled brat. She wants it all, doesn't she? If she wants any extra money she should do chores for it, or wait for birthdays and christmas. In a few years time she will be able to get a Saturday job and then have money to spend on clothes.
Who's in charge here?
2006-09-26 05:30:12 · answer #8 · answered by Thia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the child that, if he or she wants a clothing allowance, then they have to do a certain number of chores every week. For example, wash dishes, take out the trash, etc. etc. That way, she will learn what it's like to have a job, and she will be able to manage her money.
2006-09-26 02:58:12 · answer #9 · answered by poeticjustice 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That is an excellent idea! My daughter had expensive taste, then one year I gave her $200.00 for school stuff. Let me tell you, that girl came home with a bunch of stuff. No more $50.00 jeans. She went bargain hunting!
I don't know where you live or what the cost of clothing is there. But that is what I gave my daughter for the beginning of the school year.
But I let her shop with her friends, I didn't want to hear can I just have $20.00 more? To this day, she's an adult now, she still looks for bargains.
2006-09-26 03:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋