my boyfriend already cheated on me with his ex but i gave him another chance is he going to do it again? was i stupid for doing this?
2006-09-26 02:47:58 · 24 answers · asked by wondergurl3211 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
usually if they cheat the first time, they are always a cheater, its hard to think you can change a person but you cant
2006-09-26 02:50:10 · answer #1 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he will cheat again. I strongly believe that. I had been involve w/this guy for 2 1/2 yrs now. He cheated on and I took him back. But I know he is still cheating. You deserve someone that only wants to be with you and not with anyone else. You are a good person. Just take your time and there is someone else out there that would treat the way you need to be treated.
2006-09-26 09:52:35 · answer #2 · answered by JUSTME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to forgive and forget infidelity as long as you can truly forgive it but if you are posting this I suspect you are not comfortable with forgiving a cheater and you never will be from this day forward you will always wonder where he is what he's up to so no you can't trust him again I think you already know that just tell him say your sorry you thought you could get over it but there is no trust Don't waste your time agonizing because eventualy it will end and sooner is better than later with relationships.
2006-09-26 09:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he might just do it again. By him cheating with his ex tells me that he may still have unresolved feelings for her. You were not stupid for taking him back but just keep your guard up and make sure to put honesty at the forefront of your relationship. You be honest with him about your feelings concerning his cheating and you must stand firm on what you say. I bet you told him that if he does it again you will be gone. If he does it again...GO!!! We all have to live with the choices we make in our lives so make good choices.
2006-09-26 09:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by ga_gyrl91 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a man cheats on me,,then hes out the door for good...no ifs ands or buts about it. Obviously hes not over his ex,,and you are on the rebound. Move on and find a man who will treat you with respect. Dont have any contact with him. Let him stay with his ex...You will never be able to trust him again. You cant have a relationship if there is no trust,,which i cant blame you.
2006-09-26 09:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a chance to proove himself. In the mean time think about if this is how you want to live your life. Worrying everyday if he is going to do it again. Let him wonder about you for a change. That's what I'm going through right now. Good Luck and be STRONG
2006-09-26 09:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by dazedandconfused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave him.....unless you were giving him serious reasons that he had to look elsewhere for sex.
I don't believe once a cheater always a cheater....there are reasons....sometimes they are lousy and inexcusable(which is what you have to decide) and sometimes people have a reason for doing so....(alot of people get stuck in relationships they don't want to be in because it will cost them too much financially an emotionally(because the other person will not let them get on with their lives).
It's not a black and white issue
2006-09-26 09:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by kardea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. But no right answer. Look at the sustenance's, how long the two of you been together. How you found out. How it happen and where it happen. How does he feel and how does she feel. weight it all out. if it doesn't sound or feel right with any of the facts. then yes it will most likely will happen again but maybe this time you will be dump first
2006-09-26 09:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard for a man to change his behavior and he may have a pattern of doing these bad things. I think u have given him ample time to straighten up and fly straight and if he likes u enuf he wil make the most of his extra chance. keep him on a short leash
2006-09-26 09:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jim G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to ask yourself why he cheated with her in the first place. Sounds to me that he still has feelings for her...and you didnt say whether you caught him or admitted it. My personal experience says to hold onto your heart because "once a cheat always a cheat".sry hon but it's true
2006-09-26 09:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by solsbj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋