Or In this day and age where shivelry no longers exist sadly, do we split the bill.....???
2006-09-26 02:34:42 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh i think that really sweet keep it up but let her pay now and again its only fair...
2006-09-26 02:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by dizzymooo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never LET a woman pay whilst on a date - thats frightfully decent of you. You are in control then. I have been out with blokes who always LET me pay. Hell i have been in company where women do not pay for anything not even buying around of drinks and not just with the guys also the women. This comes across badly and people no longer want them in the company. It is really decent of you but could be misconstrued as somrthing else. Do you choose where to go since you are paying for instance ? I do not mind carrying my mates as and when - as long as this is reciprocated. Would you feel uncomfortable if a woman took you out and chose the venue and paid the whole evening. If that is the case you have to ask yourself why. In fact I love when a man takes me out and pays for the evening as long as I can return this at least now & again. I feel special and important. But going dutch all the time sucks! There, I have probably totally contradicted myself but I hope you can understand my reasoning.
2006-09-26 03:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a lovely sentiment but with the expense of things these days its not really done anymore! Maybe on the first date - yeah spoil the lady - and after that every now again - but usually if I go on dates, Id pay my fair share - like Id always buy a guy a few drinks back - or if it was at dinner - Id always at least offer to go dutch - if both people are working then its only right really!
2006-09-26 02:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww you are a true gentleman. Keep up the good work. Shame there aren't many more like you.
However there are some women who prefer to go dutch. What I do is offer to pay, but if that doesn't work and if I go on another date with the guy I'll pay for the second date. If the guy lets. Sometimes they don't.
2006-09-26 02:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by yes darling 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think in the beginning of a relationship it is best if the Man picks up the tabs on the first few months of dating. Once you two are going good and are more comfortable with each other. I think theres nothing wrong with the woman paying once in a while. Maybe taking turns. For me, I either take turns with my boyfriend or maybe when going out to the movies, you pay for the tickets and she can pay for the food. This shows she's not taking you for granted and can hold her own.And you guys are each putting in 50/50. At the same time it shows she cares and is willing to compromise. This is a good indicator of marriage material. TRUST ME!... Alot of women are about me me me..and take and take and never give. Its good to treat your man once in a while. They deserve it!!! And you will appreciate her more. Hope this helps.
2006-09-26 02:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by Life Goes On 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its great when men offer to ay the bill it shows they are generous, have abit of money and kind. Sometimes women do like to split the bill though to show they are independant but deep down you know they don't wanna be paying half to a £200 bill lol!
2006-09-26 02:40:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its good to offer, but don't insist as this could make the girl think you're being a chauvinist, that she can't afford to pay. I enjoy it when my fella pays, but at the same time i don't want him to think im taking advantage. If its a new relationship, i would definately advise to offer t pay, if its a steady relationship the other should be at least contributing! Chivalry was more about defending a ladies honour, paying her compliments and fighting for what you believe.
2006-09-26 03:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends what sort of girl you want to attract! Although it's very sweet the way you think and I'm not a feminist in any way, I like to go halves. It only feels right. I work hard to earn my money and my boyfriend does too, so why should he have to spend all his money on me, doesn't seem fair. Also, if it's someone I don't really know, I worry that they might expect something back for their money, I don't like to feel like I owe anything! That's just me, everyone's different I suppose.
2006-09-26 04:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by Oldfruit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I still believe in chivalry. My husband and I probably would not be married if he had asked me to pay for a meal or whatever. I am not materialistic but I thought it was important for him to treat me like a lady. That is not to say that I didn't treat him to meals. I would also cook for him so he would not go broke while we were dating. I also did not order the most expensive thing on the menu. I expected him to open doors and such and he did. Of course, married and 3 years later I wish he would still do that but with kids and life in general, that all goes out the window except for our date nights. But I do not expect it so much now. He is there every day working hard for us showing me his love.
2006-09-26 02:48:56 · answer #9 · answered by peach 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are a very generous guy, but in this day and age split the bill unless it is your treat, hence the other way around
2006-09-26 02:40:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's certainly good for you to pay on the first date or two but then give the woman the chance to pay if she wants to. If a woman has been brought up to feel she ought to pay her way, it might make her feel uncomfortable if you make a big thing of always paying - she might think she owes you. Let her pay sometimes - it's no reflection on your masculinity and doesn't mean that chivalry is dead!
2006-09-26 02:40:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋