i think honestly most men say things which they dont mean...agree?
2006-09-26 02:30:45 · 32 answers · asked by SULTANA V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think you are insecure at all because men....are liars. I mean for real ladies, out of all your relations with men i know that at least 85% of them hurt you some how with their bullshit. so when they tell you things or other compliments.....thank them with a smile but dont be blind to the b.s. That doesnt mean dont have fun or dont allow someone to get to know you. In time you will find someone who is honest and sincere with their compliments and you will feel whats true in your heart and he will understand that you are protective of your love. Take care sweety
2006-09-26 02:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by nicky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because obvioulsy you have been hurt too many times before. And its going to take along time to get your trust back. I think female or male are very capable of saying things they dont mean. Its not just the men. Get your self esteem back,,,and if you think a man is being sincere by complimenting you Just smile and say thank you. Try not to judge every man the same because they are not. You need to find the right man thats all.
2006-09-26 02:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it is true that some men say things with a hidden agenda, still your comment says more about you than it does about men. You have issues with trust, most likely because you have been burned before. That is understandable but does the person who experiences an accident in their car stop driving? Do people stop eating apples because they had one that was rotten? Your bitterness and resentment is showing. Resentment is like you drinking poison and hoping I die. I am sure you are very attractive and some men say that because they are really appreciating your beauty. You can take the risk to trust and live, or fold up into a shell and merely exist. The choice is yours.
2006-09-26 02:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by charleyit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way, anything that comes out of a man's mouth is blah, blah, blah, i think it's because men have demeaned woman for so long, played with our emothions, that's it is a natural function. We put these walls up to protect our feelings. All i see nowadays is that chauvanistic way men come across. You have older men, who are great, but old fashion, younger guys that have no manners, but fun to be with. I trust no man. Sorry to feel that way, because I love the way a man makes me feel. physically that is. Compliments are another issue. I say I know, when I get complimented. But I was told that's rude so just say Thank You and smile, and you'll be good to go. Believe it, you know what you are. Positivity !!!!!
2006-09-26 03:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Low self-esteem I'd say. You just cant help feeling that way I'm afraid. What if a guy compliments you even though he might be lying or saying that just to get something from you? It's still a compliment and you should be somewhat happy that you got one. It doesnt mean you'd have to act differently or compliment him back, just feel a bit better from it. No matter why he said what he said. Same as with insults, you dont have to believe them or notice them in any way.
2006-09-26 02:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by Bastard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are probably exercising the better part of wisdom. You are going to meet all kinds of people and when you get that gut instict that a compliment is not to compliment for you, but to work to someone's advantage, then yes, do not believe a word they say.
There are men who know that they need to be friends with the person they develop a relationship with. These guys know that when they respect their woman, she will respect him in return. This mutual respect allows for trust. Trust and respect together make a feeling we call love. And friendship is the bond that keeps people who are in a relationship and not madly in love every moment together. I commend you for not falling for every word a man says just to feed your self image. Remain self confident and cultivate the things that make you the person you are and the right guy will come to you.
2006-09-26 02:43:50 · answer #6 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do agree with you that most men say things to get what they want. But then again women do it too at times. But also keep in mind that not ALL men do it and not ALL women do it. You need to find the one person you can really trust and you will feel much better. I dont know the people you hang out with but maybe you arent hanging out with people who should be trusted. Take a close look at your friends (mainly male friends if you are having trouble trusting males) and assess your relationships with them. If you cant trust them find people you can trust.
2006-09-26 02:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you have not found that right man. honestly is a hard thing to get. guy are hunter and they will do anything to get what they wont. but there are some guys out there that just wont to be loved and to love back. keep looking and you will find him someday just stop looking and let him come to you.. good luck
2006-09-26 02:36:48 · answer #8 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you have been hurt in the past and find it hard to rust a man again? I know its hard and some of them probaly are lying but if they are genuine you can normally tell. You can feel it if the are are after one thing or taking the mick get rid of thier a**
2006-09-26 02:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like either a self esteem issue or you've been around to many jerks. To categorize all men is foolish. First ask why you feel this way. How did you get to this point? Is it a daddy issue?
2006-09-26 02:35:37 · answer #10 · answered by Jeffer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋