If your 15 year old daughter snuck out of the house at 2:00am, how long would you ground her ?

Question

And then lied to my face three days later when the policeman came and told me, (yeah...) and my daughter denied it to me and to him, when he was the one who picked them up for being out past curfew. The police didn't bring them back to my house, but they lied and said they were staying somewhere else, so that he wouldn't bring them to me, parents, what do you say to this?

Answer 1

2 weeks sounds like a fair punishment if you really stick with it. No friends, on line or phone, I would also have her home earlier than the usual time you set for 2 weeks after her grounding period to teach her she has to earn privileges and your trust. Explain to her that on top of breaking your rules and the law she is putting herself in a situation to make bad choices and have bad things happen. There is nothing to be done at 2 am that she needs to be doing and if she wants to be trusted and have privileges and freedom she needs to show she can handle it. I would also check into how she got out and install some extra locks. Best of luck!!

Answer 2

Been there, done that....I got grounded for a month with no privileges whatsoever. No phone, TV only if my chores & homework was done and then not all that much! No friends were allowed to come over and I barely went outside at all. I ended up having to do more chores and stay home by myself some evenings knowing that any of my parents friends or my grandma could just pop in unexpectedly to make sure I was there.
Luckily that was the only time I actually got caught! LOL Actually, I toned it down after that made curfew for the rest of the year. The next year, however, was not so pretty when I got my license, but that's another story. I was a rotten teenager but now understand and appreciate my parents for being hard on me!!!

Answer 3

I don't have a 15 year old, but I did things like that when I was 15. I would ground her for 2 weeks, and try some public humiliation. I have heard of this working for teens. Where they have to wear a sign at an intersection telling what they did. I would tell her that after her punishment is up that it is going to be a while before you trust her again and that means many of the freedoms she had before are going to be restricted or eliminated. As in any relationship trust is key. She hasn't learned that yet at 15, and that is why you have to teach her. I would explain everything to her every step of the way, danger, consequences...everything that could happen.

Answer 4

You need to file a complaint with the police department, first of all. They should have called you and had you come pick her up, not take the word of a child on where she is staying.

Second of all, take everything away for a month, minimum. No cell phone. No computer. No internet. No reading anything besides school text books or required school reading or other educational material. No TV. No IPOD, no other toys. Strip her room bare. Take away her "cool" clothes and leave her with 5 plain shirts, 5 plain pairs of jeans/pants, 5 bras, 5 pairs of underwear, and 2 pairs of sneakers. Put everything else in storage. Put locks on her windows. Take away her house key. That way if she sneaks out again, lock her out, so she has to knock on the door to be let in. Next time, tell the police department to book her overnight and you'll come pick her up in the morning.

Gaurentee this will straighten her up, and you don't even have to smack her.

Answer 5

I would ground her for AT THE VERY LEAST one month... no cell phone, internet, hanging out with her friends (with the exception of an after school activity like Spanish Club or Cheeleading or whatever else she might do but she has to come home immediately). After that month, I would still give her a month or two of coming home at a very early curfew.... if her current curfew is 12, make her come home at 10, no exceptions. Also, wherever she is, there needs to be an adult and when she arrives you should speak to them and let them know she has to be home by 10. You will really have to lay down some rules and stick to them. I would also talk to her about the situation... try to stay calm, but get her to talk to you abotu what happened. Nothing good happens after about 11 at night.

Answer 6

Well...... 15 days grounding. A day for every year of her age. Plus I would assign her some community service. Like handing her a trash bag and having her clean up the road around your home. Or having her wash all the windows. The grounding would include no phone privileges. computer limited to school work only (supervised) and spending an hour each night with the family, if she doesn't currently.

Answer 7

With the world we are living in now, it is really scary for a 15 year old to be out that late. I would ground her until she is old enough to know not to do it again..(that would be a very long time!) She may not understand now, but she will be grateful in the long run, once she realizes that you only did it because you love her and believe me that day will come! Good Luck and Take Care!

Answer 8

at least 2 months with no privileges, and the police should of bring them to you in the first place....during those 2 month she would be doing most of the chores around the house...i would talk to the police..and if she was out after curfew again they would take her to the station no matter what and they should call you...and i would see if the police could make her wash the cars like i had to when i was out after curfew and got caught to many times ..taugnt me a lesson...i had to wash all the cars .in our police dept.

Answer 9

what would be the point in grounding her when she will just sneak out anyway?

I would punisher her by making her spend a weekend away with you somewhere in the country. No phones, no TV just you and her. This way you have to talk to each other. Might fail but at least you might have a chance of getting to know her a bit more, it is very difficult at that age to know what is going on in her head.

Answer 10

2 weeks at least, nail the window shut, take the toys away (by this I mean, computer, phone, ipod, etc...) then make her do chores around the house each day and no allowance for it either. Also, to school and home, nothing extra after school unless it is school related ( band, sports etc) and then make her write a 2-5 page essay on why it is wrong to lie and sneak out late at night. Good luck.