Someone who has done you wrong that effected your entire life. How do you forgive that person? is it possible to do so with out giving in to that persons intentions?
2006-09-26 02:25:10 · 10 answers · asked by Holly G 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Here's a tip: Think about that person who has done you wrong and is still hurting you, and ask yourself "Does this person ever think about what he/she did to me?" In almost all cases, when we don't forgive we are continuing to give power to these people who hurt us, even though those people don't even think about us 99% of the time or better. It's not what life throws at us that defines who and what we are; it's how we deal with the things life throws at us that defines who and what we are. See, it's up to YOU to decide whether you're going to let whatever this person did ruin the rest of your life. If you don't want this to poison you forever, just keep telling yourself "I'm not going to let this person hurt me anymore." Whoever hurt you is an imperfect human being and did something very stupid/cruel/heartless/childish, take your pick. I'm not trying to minimize or invalidate your pain, but what happened is in the past and you can leave it in the past if you want to. Continuing to hold a grudge only hurts YOU, and if you hold onto it you'll invariably turn into a very bitter person. Do you really want your anger toward this @$$hole to consume your soul and suck all the joy out of your life right up to the day you die? Put this behind you and let it go for YOU, not for the person who wronged you.
2006-09-26 02:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not everything can be forgiven, and not everything should be. A person has to do what sits best with their conscience, and their own feelings - you can't sacrifice your own emotional well-being just so you can say you have forgiven someone, there's no real value in that, that's just posturing. If it isn't going to be a "real" forgiveness, don't do yourself or that person the disservice of faking it. You don't have to forgive that person, particularly if it is sticking in your throat. Sometimes it is not possible to do so without being victimized again, in a sense.
That's not to say that your relationship with the person cannot continue, or that it cannot change - you just have to redefine it according to how your feelings have changed. If that is not possible, it's best to end the relationship completely.
2006-09-26 02:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you need to cut someone out of your life in order to move on. It really depends on the situation and the wrong being done and your own personal comfort levels. If you feel like this person is abusive to you or harming you in any way, don't stick around trying to save them or your relationship. Get them professional help or get the hell out.
2006-09-26 02:34:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always forgive just don't forget, life is to short to spend it on being angry we all make mistake some worse than others forgive move on to the next challenge in life.
2006-09-26 02:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by honeygirland 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh, I've been in this situation many times. You just have to ask God to give you peace about the situation, and the the person regardless of what they've done...That doesn't mean you have to like their ways, but the Bible says that we're to love everyone. God Bless!
2006-09-26 02:28:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a Christian in order for me to be forgiven I have to forgive.When I think about what people have done to me I find it hard to forgive them.Jesus said whatsoever you have done to the least of these my brethren you have done it unto me . So anything someone might do to me they have also done it unto Jesus . Now if He desires to forgive them , and He does , I should surely forgive as well . It's one of the opportunities I have to be like Jesus and I don't want to pass it up. Amen
2006-09-26 02:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by don_steele54 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes you can, be polite to that person whenever u meet him, don't ignore him. But at the same time don't go out with tht person and don't let him get too near you
2006-09-26 02:28:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you have to say is.... I forgive you.
you don't even have to speak to that person ever again if you don't want to. its not easy I know but if it means your mental health then do it and move on..
2006-09-26 02:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there...and I think the only thing that would make me forgive is revenge......
2006-09-26 02:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by bettylou29691 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
oh yes....give him/her a last chance.if that person again does something wrong then don't forgive him/her.
2006-09-26 02:33:39 · answer #10 · answered by iRock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋