i am 24 and my girlfriend is always asking me to have sex with her. but i'm stuck, i don't what to do? can ypu guys help me? please..
2006-09-26 02:21:51 · 16 answers · asked by alqo 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Don't do it. The fact that you are even asking this question for advice is proof that you don't really want to. Maybe you're not ready, or it's against your religious beliefs. Whatever the reason, your heart and mind are definetely telling you that you should not have sex atleast at this point in your life. If you do, just think how much you will regret it. And in the future while you are feeling all this regret, you'll be thinking "all this guilt for something that wasn't that great and didn't last but only a few minutes. Regret will last FOREVER, as well as whatever disease you may catch or life you may create. Protection isn't always the answer. I mean yes, everyone should always use it but it IS NOT 100% EFFECTIVE, like abstinense is. If your girlfriend doesn't understand, then maybe she isn't the right one for you. Do you really want to give up your virginity over someone like her, because it's likely that if she is already pressuring you into this now, what else will she do in the future that you don't agree with? More than likely, you guys will probably break up eventually, if not over this, then something else. So when you do finally meet the right girl, don't you want to be able to tell her that she is your first? And since she is the right one, she will probably be able to tell you that you are her first too, because the right girl will probably share the same values and issues that you have. But then again, talk to your present girlfriend, tell her how you feel bottom line and maybe she will understand. Be sure to tell her also to stop pressuring you. Also, the person who answered you above about the AIDS crisis is right, listen to him too.
2006-09-26 03:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In these modern times - the pandemic of AIDS is really played down and no one really considers the risk.
No one knows the exact number of people infected who do not know they have it. And these carriers spread it to others quite ignorant of that fact.
Then you have the ones who know they have full blown AIDS and are so selfish they infect others without warning them, just for self satisfaction. So these people infect others as described above.
Factor in this has been going on for at least 20 to 30 years - and its a no brainer that having sex with people you don't know or even those you do know is like playing Russian Roulette with a loaded gun and only two empty chambers.
You can listen to the ignorant morons who told you to go ahead and have some fun and throw caution to the wind., but be prepared to pay the piper if you draw the short straw and die in a few years for your indiscretion.
Listen to foolish advice or wisdom. Make your choice and live with it.
FYI
Dont even ask the numbers of people who used "SO CALLED" protection that ended up pregnant anyway, ended up with AIDS anyway and other sexually transmitted deseases. The numbers are larger than you think. Absolute Protected sex? Think again. There is no money or life back if it doesnt work.
2006-09-26 09:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are unsure if you want to pursue with having sex, dint do it. You are a very wise individual if you are still a virgin. If you know you want to and are not sure how to start, grab a porno from your local sex store, and watch it to get some ideas. But at this point, you are better if you do not until you find someone that you care about truly to do this with. I have had sex with many people, if there is no connection there, it is not that exciting. Yes, you do need to use protection, this is the number one answer. Just be sure that you know you want to do this. This is something you have to decide for yourself. Do not let people pressure you into it.
2006-09-26 09:59:48 · answer #3 · answered by pits_me1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I've had sex with someone, but I think you question isn't really that.
Explain to your girlfriend your reasons for not wanting to have sex and ask her to not push you into doing something that you don't want to do. If she persists, than you need to look and see if you should really be with someone who doesn't respect your desires not to engage in the act of sex.
Hope this helps. Good Luck.
2006-09-26 09:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by SmileyGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say don't do it. If you're 24 and still scared of it, then its best to not risk the chance of passing on your rusted genetics. Do mankind a favor and remain a virgin for life, I seriously think our society is screwed up enough without you adding to the problem.
2006-09-26 09:53:00 · answer #5 · answered by taterhog mung-flower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, yes I have. A number of someones in fact.
If you want to shag her mate, go for it. Just be safe, wear protection, and be ready for the emotional consequences.
Good luck.
P.S. It's good, you know.
2006-09-26 09:37:20 · answer #6 · answered by Kristy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its up to you if you want to or not??? If you feel like your being pressured then dont do it - tell her your not ready for the big step
2006-09-26 10:53:41 · answer #7 · answered by mexican4u77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what is it about having sex that seems to scare you?
2006-09-26 10:02:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead it'll be fun because its the first time BUT if its against your religion then wait if she continues to press the issue it might be time for a break
2006-09-26 09:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by ajdyoung 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask her to start without you.
2006-09-26 09:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by Nimbus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋