i know this guy and he hit he girlfriend and he told me that he loves her but not in love with her
could he be after me he always staring at me
and ages ago i slept with him because i was so drunk to u think he could be after me i feel like hes stalking me in a way cause hes always being nice .but the thing is i blame myself for him hitting his girlfriend i dont know he he hit her cause i told him i will not go out with him
2006-09-26 02:19:11 · 15 answers · asked by yates1239 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
iam already in a abusive relationship now i dont need another do i
2006-09-26 02:25:46 · update #1
It's not your fault.
But I would stay away, far away. If you think he's stalking, tell him straight out that you aren't interested and to leave you alone. (try to have someone with you when you tell him that). I hope you won't have to take legal steps. But remember, if he hits his girlfriend, I would be very careful.
2006-09-26 02:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to your question. You are not responsible for anyone else's actions. Just because you told this guy that you would not go out with him, does not give him persmission to hit his girlfriend. There is NEVER a reason for a man to hit a woman. And more importantly, you should not care if this man is staring at you or wants to be with you. YOU should not want to be with him. He's a man that's violent and doesn't know how to control himself. Do yourself a huge favor, and stay away from a guy like that. And remember, his actions are his own responsibility.
2006-09-26 09:26:28 · answer #2 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a nice guy! Not tell him there are laws against stalking and call his girlfriend maybe his hitting on you will finally be what it takes for her to leave him and be safe. Most battered woman don't stay because they are scared of their partners they stay because they believe the hitting will stop eventualy so perhaps if she know infidelity may also become an issue she'll leave as far as it being your fault give me a small break this is not about you it's about this poor girl whos only fault is dating a jerk.
2006-09-26 09:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this guys problem goes way beyond you. He learned to excuse himself for unacceptable behavior: hitting people. He hasn't matured to where he can use words to express himself and he hasn't learned enough self-control to keep his hands off of other people. Let him know that he will never have any chance with you. You respect yourself and cannot tolerate anyone who does not do the same. (Don't tell me other people don't talk badly about him. They do.) He has the basic lessons of appropriate social interaction to learn and he is far behind his age group. If nothing else give him some years to grow up and be observing his behavior. Watch him and you will learn just how a man can disrespect himself. Who wants a guy who hasn't even figured out you don't hit a girl? Second graders know that.
2006-09-26 09:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number one, if a guy is hitting his girlfriend then he needs to go to jail. Number two someone isnt stalking another person because they are being nice but because they do stalker-ish things like always being around unwantedly or contantly calling and doing weird stuff. If you dont like this guy then stay away from him. Dont answer his calls or hang out with him. Just dont have contact with him and if he starts to do the stalker thing call the police.
2006-09-26 09:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not responsible for another person's actions. If he's hitting her then 1) it's his fault for not being able to control his anger and 2) it's her fault if she lets him do it. You can't control what other people do. What, did you put a voodoo spell on him and command him to beat the crap out of this girl? Short of that I don't see how it's your fault. I would stay away from him and if need be involve the authorities if you're scared. As for his girlfriend, she needs to find a way to help herself or else his violence may be the end of her. Take care.
2006-09-26 09:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a very high opinion of yourself don't you? He's stalking you because he's being nice? He hit his girlfriend because you told him no? Sorry but get off your high horse! The world doesn't revolve around you. How about staying away from this guy (he's obviously bad news) and get back to reality?
2006-09-26 09:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run like hell. You may have been drunk on that one night, but what exactly is his exuse. Abuse is physical and emotional. The physical is quick; the emotional leaves scars forever. Stay way way away from this losser. His girlfriend needs to do the same thing.
2006-09-26 09:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by mob65 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy who hits his gf is not worth it. U should stay away. U could be next abuse victim.
Besides, he is not a faithful lover. For me, this kind of guy is the last on my list. Heed my advice. Say no n stay away girl. There r better guys out there, who can make u happier.
2006-09-26 09:30:23 · answer #9 · answered by fify 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from this guy he uses his hands in a hurtful way and that's not a good thing Men who hit women arent really men anyway and why would you want someone whos less then a man in your life
2006-09-26 09:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by poconewyorkwanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋