My g/f cant stand kids of any discription. But happly looks after her sisters kids. When ever I mention kids not suggesting that we have kids she makes puking sounds and pretends to vomit.
Will she grow out of this and is this something that most women do when they are 23. I does concern me as I would like a family not yet but at some point and dont want to waste my time if she is not going to have kids. Do you think she will grow out of this.
2006-09-26 01:56:22 · 14 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey I am not asking her to have kids with me yet, or put her life on hold.
2006-09-26 02:04:39 · update #1
Do not marry her thinking she will "grow out of it". If you want to marry her, you BETTER go into that marriage knowing full well there is a very real poss ability you will have no children. Otherwise, if you are banking on her changing, you will wind up pressuring her and eventually resenting her, or she will resent you if you make her feel guilty about no kids or worse yet, making her have kids.
I give her credit for admitting she doesn't want kids, regardless of what others think.
2006-09-26 02:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she sounds pretty immature to me to be doing fake puking at the mention of kids. Some women really dont want kids but I dont think they act like that about it. I have a feeling once she hits 30 or so her clock will probably tick but maybe not-point is you never know. Some women know right away they want kids-others dont know until they get them. There is no certain answer because a woman can change her mind-You need to talk to her -a serious discussion to find out if she is firm about kids making her puke-if she still does the puking thing even after you tell her you want her to be serious and honest-I would take that as a sign to move on....
2006-09-26 09:03:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she happily looks after her sisters kids, its probably cuz she knows the kids will go home...if she doesnt want kids, thats okay too, if you want to be with this young lady, you will either have to go along with it, or work through it. Maybe she doesnt want kids right now at this point in time... do you have any idea what HER OWN childhood was like? Maybe she is afraid that she will fail as a parent, watching someone elses kids --no risk to her own parenting skills on a daily basis. You want to know if she will grow out of the childish behavior of puking noises when she doesnt want to confront something ??!! Maybe not, if she is getting the results and reactions that she is looking for.
2006-09-26 09:17:28 · answer #3 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now I think the way she reacts towards them when you mention them is a bit immature and therfore it probably is something she will grow out of. But talk to her seriously b/c I don't have kids and I've always had this idea since I was 15 so some women are very serious about the idea of not wanting to procreate. Therefore, talk to her about it and tell her that you really do want children in the future!!! Good luck and wish you well...
2006-09-26 09:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want kids.......... yet. You're probably making her feel uncomfortable when you "mention kids" and her vomiting noises are a way of making a joke out of it and moving on! She's obviously not at a stage in her life or in your relationship where she feels comfortable thinking about children. It doesn't mean her thoughts won't ever change, but like most women these days, its probably not something she even wants to start to think about until her late 20's / early 30's.
2006-09-26 11:36:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's only 23, good chance she will grow out of it. Then again, she might not. You need to have a very serious discussion with her if you want to see a long term future in this relationship. If she believes she will never have kids, you're going to have to decide whether she can give you enough love to make up for the fact that she never had your child.
2006-09-26 08:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She happly attends to her sisters kids for that main reason: they are family. A lot of women don't want kids. Also leep in mind that she's young. As time goes by she might change. Especially is you instill her that she would make a great mother.
2006-09-26 09:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 51 and I've been out with quite a few women in my life....... I never wanted children at all until I met someone in my late 30's then all of a sudden I really wanted a child with this person, I can't tell you why, it just had to be ...... and we had a girl who is the most wonderful thing that has happened in my life..........so I guess it has to be that special person before you really know !
2006-09-26 09:03:45 · answer #8 · answered by Robert B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she`s still young,most 23 year olds are not thinking thinking about kids a that age,have a very long talk with her and try to figure out weather she is likely to change her mind in the near future
2006-09-26 09:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by CHARLIE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 23 you should allow her man. seriously. she is still young. why has she got to put her life onhold for something she is probably scared of at such a young age. yeah i agree, she should be able to talk about it maturely and it sounds as if your having a hard time trying to talk to her about it. tellher what you really think. stop posting questions on here and ask her. will you ever want kids with me. if not, i dont want to waste time. after all, if youdont you will be wasting time and it sounds as if you dont want to waste time. if you dont talk to her about it, youwill regret it.
it does sound as if she is hiding something though, maybe she found out at a young age she cant have kids, and as for herlooking after her sisters baby, well she can give them back anytime,thats the beauty of it. so she is not tied down, therefore, she probably enjoys or dont mind looking after her sisters children.
talking is the key problem within relationships, dont let yours breakdown yeah. goodluck. **)
2006-09-26 09:02:35 · answer #10 · answered by london lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋