what do i do when my bestfriend and g/f are fighting and im in the middle elena (bestfriend) is saying im whipped and shes controling me but i love amy (GF) shes my world but i dont wanna lose either of them amy doesnt want me talking to elena and elena refuses to talk to mee when im wioth amy i dont no wha to do
2006-09-26 01:43:30 · 29 answers · asked by nate c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell them to grow up! The only person their hurting is you! Tell them if they both care about you as they claim, then this needs to stop!
2006-09-26 01:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only u know what will make u happy. if elena is truly your friend she will respect your decision to be with amy. if there really is a problem in the relationship maybe you don't see it right now but when you do you're gonna need your friend to help you get through the mess. the 3 of you don't have to hang out so really you can keep both just come up with a compromise. when you're with amy don't talk about elena and when you're with elena don't talk about amy. enjoy life and don't stress out because 2 women can't see eye to eye
2006-09-26 08:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like everyone has some growing up to do. These ladies need to realize that you are not theirs to control. You date who you want and you talk to who you want. If they care about you then they will respect your decisions. You have the right to have both in your life and if they don't get it, then neither one is worthy of your respect. Why are they fighting? Jealousy? Maybe Elena wants you for herself and Amy realizes this. You need to make sure Amy knows that you are the girl you love and she doesn't have to worry. AND you need to always make times for your friends, do not let a GF dominate all your time...... Get to the base of why they can't get along, that will be the best place to start.
2006-09-26 08:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by Why do you ask? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wooo, Dude! You have a huge case of jealousy on your hands here. First I would say that having a female "bestfriend" isn't the best thing for a relationship with your girlfriend cause most guys want to bone any girl they're around, and your girlfriend knows that. I'd say to both of them that it's their problem and you're not going to be put in the middle....period. They are being over protective to you and being selfish. If you really love this girl, then Elena needs to take a hike. She's jealous, honey. godloveya.
2006-09-26 08:48:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If (Elena?) your B/F is truly your B/F talk to her. There is 1 of 2 things hidden here. Either 1) Elena secrectly digs you more than friends, or 2) as a real B/F she sees something you can not and only has your best interest in mind. Forget your girlfriend a second and talk to Elena.
2006-09-26 08:50:38 · answer #5 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SITUATIONS SITUATIONS... Be strong.. Tell those girls to take a chill pill. And believe it or not it's never going to end.. You have to know how to separate the two.. And your best friend she wouldn't feel that way if you wasn't telling her every little thing that goes on in your relationship.. You should no now that women are very opinionated.... So be careful on what you share with her, or you might get the response that you were not looking for.. Your the one who have to be with your G/F so don't stress other people opinions to or about her.. And a best friend looses her positions when you get in a relationship cause your lover becomes your friend and confident.. And that's what you b/f could be afraid of.. I'm sure if your best friend had a boyfriend she wouldn't let you come in between that.. So do your g/f a favor and stop letting the b/f be such in influence. Or your going to loose your g/f..
Good Luck.. With you and both of your ladies.. Cause that's what it sounds like...
2006-09-26 08:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by The'Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be each is jealous of the other. i think any g/f that wants to control ur friendships arent reli worth the hassle, g/f come n go bt friends a forever(or near enough). relationships are fickle just have to muddle through. find out from other friends (neutral parties) and see what they have2 say about ur g/f and best/f. Without knowing what the whole situation is im jst guessin bt im thinkin ur whipped. Girls have this way of twistin our minds, our IQ drops significantly wen we're aroung them, keep tht in mind
2006-09-26 08:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by skitz122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If Elena was really you're true friend then she would respect your relationship and support you regardless if she likes Amy or not. If you're friend is not being supportive why is she still in your life?
2006-09-26 08:48:39 · answer #8 · answered by aak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to Amy (her story) then ask her :what can i do for you? if she said something try to make the two friend's theories near to each others.but if she did not say anything ,explain to her that she would not do so to you ,and tell her that you will solve this and she had to listen to you. AND DO TO ELENA THE SAME.
2006-09-26 08:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by icyyylove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much of this fight is jealousy over you? You need to speak with them both very frankly and let them know this is not fair if they don't like each other fine they're not sleeping together they don't have to get along but you will not choose between them and if it comes down to that they will both have to go..
2006-09-26 08:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by Katlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋