I HAVE BEEN TALKING TO THIS GIRL FOR ABOUT A MONTH AND SHE CAUGHT FEELING FOR ME SAYING THINGS LIKE SHE LOVE ME BUT AS A FRIEND BECAUSE SHE WANTS TO TAKE IT SLOW
BUT YESTERDAY WHEN WE WERE TALKING SHE SAID I LOVE YOU AND I DIDN'T SAY IT BACK BUT AFTER THAT SHE SAID SHE NOT'S GOING TO SAY THAT ANYMORE BECAUSE I DIDN'T RESPOND ..........THEN WE HUNG UP AND I TEXT HER ON HOW I FEEL THEN SHE SAID LEAVE HER ALONE !!!!!!
I DON'T GET IT CAN ANYONE HELP???
2006-09-26 01:41:17 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's a little hurt and embarrassed because she expected you to feel the same and you didn't respond in kind to her revelation to you.....Relax, Take it easy, and give her some time to process her actions, feelings, etc. If she really loves you she will be patient and should be okay. If not, then it appears to more of a control thing, so look out.
(STOP YELLING AND/OR REMOVE YOUR CAPS LOCK! OKAY!?)
2006-09-26 01:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you did nothing wrong. If at that moment you didn't feel you loved her you shouldn't have said it...if you were being pressured into saying it (and it seems you were) then you shouldn't have said it. If your girl dosen't understand this then she'll get hurt somewhere in the future. My guess is she felt really vunerable when she said she loved you...she wanted to be reasured you felt the same way and when you didn't she was probably scared, or mad, or hurt...she's just upset 'cause yesterday didn't go the way she had dreamed about it would since she first heard the story Cinderella. It's not your fault at all!! You did nothing wrong...I would be worried if you had not responded for weeks but that is not the case. This girl just has some growing up to do...
2006-09-26 01:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and formost you have been talking to this girl for only a month. Second how long have you known her and are you sure about your feelings for her . I think that you were not ready for that stage of the relationship yet and she caught you off guard. Saying I love you after talking for a month is a bit much to me anyway. Maybe her feelings for you run deeper that she led on in the first place. Let her cool off a little, then sit her down and talk to her about what happened and how it made you feel if she really cares about you she'll listen. She can't make you say what you don't feel, honesty is key. Take care and good luck.
2006-09-26 01:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by friend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear kid gloves, handle her with the care she seems to want. Make a go when things calm down. Look her in the eye and tell her what you feel. Don't do it where there are other people. Tell her you were shy that last time and that you were afraid she will respond negatively, that you did not want to lose her etc and she most probably will understand.
2006-09-26 01:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by kombo6m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl was expecting the same response from you and when you didn't give it, she was embarassed. So....leave it alone. You NEVER tell someone you love them unless you are sure you're in love. She sounds like she's been a bit pushy. Just let it go and move on. That's what is best for you. Godloveya.
2006-09-26 01:44:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, probably best if you had responded, even if you didnt say you loved her back, you should have said, i thought you wanted to take it slow? She probably feels like your only saying you love her now is because she said it and now shes angry and you want to make her happy. Maybe write her a sweet genuine sincere poem about your love for her. Reassure her with all you can.
2006-09-26 01:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think shez embarresed cuz u didn`t respond back. i think u shud make it clear that it was her who said that she wanted to take it slow. it was her who once said that she loved u only as a frnd. so how wud u know that wot did she mean this time. but if she still ignores u, then let her go. u`ll not regret later in life having a relationship with such a childish gal. if she really loved u , she wud`ve given u another chance.
2006-09-26 01:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by ams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems a little early to say she loves you. Sounds like she wanted you to express your feelings when she did. I would be careful because she sounds a little confused. She may need to mature some more, but don't stress yourself out. She'll be around for a while even if you don't say it back. Give her some time.
2006-09-26 01:47:43 · answer #8 · answered by B U Tiful 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's hurt that you didn't say it back. But if you don't feel the same way, then you did the right thing. You should never say "I love you" unless you truly mean it. Plus she's also feeling humiliated and rejected. You can either give her a couple days to calm down or move on. It's your choice.
2006-09-26 01:46:13 · answer #9 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
she is hurt.let her be for a while.she is being a little sensitive.something tells me you are both teens.she is just trying to feel her way around with you.it may seem cute now but in the end will become controlling behavior.don't get caught up in it.when the swelling goes down she will call you
2006-09-26 01:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by miraclehand2020 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋