My ex bf of two weeks came over saturday night. I had plans but when he called and asked to come over I cancelled my other plans w/ another guy and my ex stayed w/ me. Now we're back to talking but he asked me yesterday why I never told him about my plans w/ another guy. I explained the who thing but he got kinda upset. The whole issue w/ our breakup was because he was saying I lied to him. But I even told him last night that he gets upset when I tell him the truth too. What in the world am I supposed to do? I'm not going to lie to him...I've seen where that can get me, but when I tell the truth I get the cold shoulder. I just can't win.
2006-09-26 01:34:55 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its a hard thing to do. for guys like my self dont like it when our girlfriends lie to us. but at the same time when told the truth it hurts. so we tend to give the cold shoulder n things of that nature. we dont know how to express our thoughts or feelings so we tend to get mad. but either way its gonna happen. so ur best bet is to try to get him to b more open about how he feels towards things u tell him n have him open up more n feel comfortable n not jealous
2006-09-26 01:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by pitbull 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, i know what you mean cause this has happened before to me and some of my friends. The boys will never understand us and your never going to win. If you lie, they get mad and ditch you, but if you tell the honest truth, they give you cold shoulder. I dont understand some boys. There are some where you can just tell the honest truth and yall make-up. But it seems as if this isnt the relationship! I say you just give it time, or him, and then try talking to him about how you tried to tell him the truth and explain your feelings to him. I am used to giving out by advice, a lot of my friends come to me. I guess I am just good at giving the best advice i can. I hope this works out for the best and yall soon become back togehter, or at least really good friends!
2006-09-26 01:42:47 · answer #2 · answered by Britt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't think about this,but they actually allow you to lie to them! When telling the truth bares more consequences than a lie why not lie? Always tell the truth,even if the other person doesn't like it. It can't come back and bite you on the *** later!
2006-09-26 01:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was jealous, of course, he didnt like that some otha dude had plans wit his former girl, he still like us, and maybe thinks of u as still his, he dont want no otha dude, wit u. Good luck, u need to let this dude know that he's your EX, and you're no longer his responsibity to be worryin' about, he lost that privellage when you all broke up. so stop lettin' him call the shots, u dont owe him no explanations. If you wanna make plans with guys u should be allowed to do so, without any problems form him. how ever if u still like yo ex leave da otha guys alone, it would be messed up to go wit guys if u still hung up on yo ex, and if that's the case, u needsta talk to him.
2006-09-26 01:38:03 · answer #4 · answered by Here2Help 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-02 02:23:16 · answer #5 · answered by plunkett 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would it matter if you lied or told the truth? Doesn't seem like he'd believe you anyway. This guy is a waste of your time. A jealous immature loser.
You can win! Close the door on this jerk and nail it shut.
2006-09-26 01:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve broken his trust, only him seeing you be as truthful as you can will change that. Give him some space, he's still obviously hurt and betrayed from you the first time. He sounds over emotional also, that could cause for major stress in a relationship.
2006-09-26 01:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communication with a man at times can b pointless.I always say dont go there, unless you really have to.Chin up, you told the truth.Its not like you were sleepin around on him.Maybe he is the one with trust issues if you`s broke up about him sayin your lieing.It is something you will have to decide it is obvious you was ready to move on so maybe you should just kick your b/f 2 the curb for your obviously a very trustworthy person. =)
2006-09-26 01:49:52 · answer #8 · answered by cowgirl angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, he is your ex and you owe him no explanation so for your plans or anything else for that matter. For some reason, you can't win with this guy so why bother? You cancelled your plans with another guy but it still wasn't good enough? Stop trying to please him and concentrate on making yourself happy. Cuz there's no making him happy, regardless what you do.
2006-09-26 01:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont htink its jealousy... i juss think that he wants u to be happy n if bein with someone else does that then quit canceling dates wwith the other guy........but if u really like ur ex still leave the others alone n talk to him n see what happens make the right choice try summin new or go back to the ex.
2006-09-26 01:39:12 · answer #10 · answered by penguin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋