My bf and me were together for 3 months. We have been good friends and colleagues before we got into the relationship so I've known him times ago.
2 days ago we went to a nightclub with some friends. Everything was great, we were having fun until the cubist girls appeared up the stage.
I was dancing with him & he was kissing & huging me & he looked like he was really enjoying it. All of a sudden, when they begun shaking on the stage he stoped dancing and stared at them like he had never seen half naked women before. I felt very bad and told him to let me know when he was finished with staring at them. I left him there and went on dancing with my friends. We didn't talk to each-other anymore that night. The next day I called him and we met. I apologized but he said that I didn't have to. He just told me that this was not working and he wanted to break up. We broke up & I feel terrible. Was it all my fault, or was it just an excuse for him to break up??I can't stop blaming myself
2006-09-26 01:29:49 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok first of all.. its NOT your fault..
no way
if he wasnt the one that wanted to break up, id say its natural for boys to get excited over half naked women lol or that sorta stuff.
but then he wants to break up!?
no way girl.. he'z just a player
he wasnt into loving you or anythin and was just lookin at you as a toy.. sooner or later he would have cheated on you trust me!
just leave him and don eva think of him..
be friends still if u want to.
just because the relationship didnt work doesn mean you cant be friends..
but anyway breaking up was the right thing to do and its definitely not your fault!
get on with your life and forget about it
2006-09-26 01:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. I went thru the same thing and I have been blaming myself for years now. BUT he was not a saint either. Now he sort of came back into my life and apologized for what he did when we were together but even though he used that as an excuse, we still blame ourslves. Guilty is like ****, it is no good, so, forgive yourself, I would have done the same that you did, we are all humans. True that sometimes we should pretend we were blind, guys don't like when we feel jealous, but it is done, it is over, move on with your life and set him free. If he is meant to be yours, dear, he will come back. What is written, nobody, nothing on Earth can break apart. Good luck.
2006-09-26 08:39:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.Cook 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only things you may have been wrong on were making a big scene over his watching tramps wiggle, then apologizing for it the next day. Men look. Part of their nature. He wasn't comparing, he was just staring. So what?
I'm sure he took your reaction as a sign there would be future trust issues. Know when to pick your battles.
On the other hand, it doesn't sound as though he was looking for a permanent thing.
2006-09-26 08:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by auld mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, its both your fault.
Boys will be boys. They just dont get over it. They need to see 'it'. Its natural. You cant blame them for that but when you told him to stop, he should've stopped. Then you got too harsh on him but he was wrong in breaking up because of that. You two had a physicality between you(kissing and hugging) and trust me, you wont like it when you break up. Just try to forget the incident or the concequences will be worse.v Be together and let that relationship spread magic as it used to do
2006-09-26 08:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by vishal_willpower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any and all women would be upset. Hell if the tables were turned as would the guys. Just a fact of life. But that night he made a decision that he wants to be single or he saw that the grass just might be greener on the other side. You had nothing to do with his decision and you didn't do anything that cause it.
He share the truth with you.. He isn't ready for a relationship or he doesn't want one. so accepted it and move on.
2006-09-26 08:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is overreacting. You had every right to say what you did--unless he wasn't really staring...
Men aren't blind. We, as women, have to understand that they are visually stimulated creatures and being committed to us isn't going to change that fact. He probably thinks that your comment is a precursor to major jealousy problems down the road. If he's had a severly jealous girlfriend in the past, he may simply be trying to nip a problem in the bud before it starts.
Let it go. He is going to have to learn to give people a little bit of leeway when it comes to that sort of thing and it isn't going to be an overnight change.
2006-09-26 08:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by A.R. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were in a club with naked dancing girls why would you care if he looked at them? You're broke up, get over it and move on, you can't live in the past.
2006-09-26 08:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Bryce I 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is alot of bad advice being told here
Every man likes entertainment. You should be entertaining your man in the same way in private. Don't sweat the small things. You were both wrong in the way you reacted. Try to make up and both say your sorry.
Else email me and I will make you happy.
2006-09-26 08:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that caused it! I think maybe it was already on his mind! Better to find out now instead of later. Look at it as a lesson in life and move on! There are alot of cute girls around,you just need to find a man who thinks your the cutiest girl around!
2006-09-26 08:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not your fault....he was probably looking for a way out and those half naked girls gave him the excuse.
2006-09-26 08:34:10 · answer #10 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋