She still whines about the silliest things! It really gets on my nerves. I notice that she only does it around family, & not her friends. Is there anything that I could do to help her stop doing it at all?
2006-09-26 01:24:48 · 18 answers · asked by candib 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If she is 9 then you should be able to talk with her and let her know that she is not a baby. You have to be a little more observant and find out when she whines. Is it just because, or after you tell her 'no', or when she wants attention, etc.
Let her know that her choosing this type of behavior saddens you and when it comes to her getting more freedom, responsibility, etc. you might have to rethink those things if she can't act her age.
All in all it is her choice, but if you stay on her and redirect her actions everytime she whines and let her know it is unacceptable then you should see a change.
It is going to take some work on your and your families behalf though.
2006-09-26 01:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents always told me i whined until i was like 11. I really do not remember it, but i have a niece that whines all the time. It does get on my nerves. I always tell her i will not answer her or do anything for her until she talks to me like a big girl and stops whining. It seems to help. Do not make a big deal out of it or give her attention when she does whine. She will outgrow it!!!
2006-09-26 09:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by housewives5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an 18 year old sister who just whined (and temper-tantrumed) her way out of having to stay in the dorm so she could live at home (and continue to be a big whiney-baby) I think you have to stop a lot of it early in life, so I hope you havent waited to long. I would definetly get on top of it now to save you from what my parents are dealing with! Show her how to approach things that she wants with-out whining...reward her by giving her what she wants (to a reasonable extent of course) when she simply asks instead of whining about it. and vise-versa...If she is whining, don't let her have her way...shes at a very impreshinable (s/c) age right now and if its not stopped now, she will carry these traits long into life! good luck!
2006-09-26 09:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many reasons kids whine for nothing and it can get on your nerves, is there a new baby around, she feeling jealous of anything? Maybe she is feeling lonely about something or just being a whiny brat, I have one that does that when he wants attention, you will find what will work for you and your daughter, but in the mean time do what I do when i get fusterated, count lol sounds funny but does work and sometimes when I do count my oldest will start counting with me and say I think I feel better too lol...
2006-09-26 08:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by Destiny D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ten year dose the same thing...when she does I tell her it doesn't sound nice and that I am more likely to take notice of her if she can speak nicely... I have to keep reminding her every so often though...I also ask her if she does this with her friends to which she answers NO, My response; then why do it at home, we love you and give you what you need, we don't appreciate your whining in return. I know how frustrating this is as I don't think kids these days know how good they have it...Good Luck
2006-09-26 08:36:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should whine back at her so that she can see how annoying it is, it is something she chooses to do. Oh and I recently saw something on TV about a set of learning DVD's in this regard. But before you spend the money try mocking. Good luck.
2006-09-30 06:17:16 · answer #6 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so does mine!!!! mine is nine too.
not as much though. i told her i would refuse to communicate with her if she could not talk to me in a reasonable tone of voice.
she acted like she didn't know what i was talking about so i whined to her the way she did with me. then i showed her a better way to approach me. i told her if she could not approach me respectfully then i would ignore her.
at first she whined even more (if you can believe that!) but i was persistent and ignored her. she would get mad and start yelling and stomping her feet. if she got too out of hand then she got a time out AND got ignored.
now, i still have to remind her when she starts whining but it's no where near what it used to be like. and as days go on i find that i have to remind her less and less.
this is working for us!! yeah.....
good luck.
2006-09-26 08:46:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my kids whine to get what they want, I tell them sternly that this is not how it is done, also if you do not stop doing this, I will smack your bottom. And a lot of times, I do have to smack his bottom because he does not stop. This is how he is getting his attention from me, but at the same time, understanding that he can not always get what he wants.
2006-09-26 09:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by pits_me1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is ignore her when she acks in this way I've done it with my daughter that is about too turn 10 years old
2006-09-26 08:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by wildone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive got 18 and 19 sons and they still whinge and whine !!!
But not in front of their friends,,only me .........your kids will always be your kids no matter what age they are ...sorry!!!
2006-09-26 08:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋