I live with my dad and he thinks I won't be moving out for awhile. Well my boyfriend found this nice place with cheap rent and wants me to move in with him and I really want to too. How do I go about telling him cuz I know he'll snap, especially since its with a guy in a 1 bedroom apartment (but I'm 18, so its not wrong)? My parents did the same thing, move in together at a really young age. And my mom had my stepdad move in with her after only knowing each other for a few weeks, and my dad lives with his gf that he know screws him over. So they shouldn't freak.
2006-09-26 01:22:41 · 12 answers · asked by teneff88 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just tell him, but ask him if it would be OK to move back if it doesn't work out. Don't burn any bridges
2006-09-26 01:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are gonna freak because a) they are your parents and it's their right and b) they probably want you to have a very different life than they had.
You mention you are 18. Did you finish school? Are you working? Can you support yourself without any financial help from your Dad? If you have a car, is it in your name with you paying all the costs? How about your cell phone...do you pay the bill or does your Dad? If you can't afford to pay all your bills on your own, then you should rethink the idea. Once you decided to move out, you have no right to expect your Dad to continue paying any of your exspenses so be sure you can take all of that on.
As far as telling your Dad, the best thing to do is be honest and direct. Be ready to answer any questions he may have about where you'll be living, how you'll pay all the bills and, if possible, have a budget all written down to show him. Also have at least an idea in your head about what you will do if the move doesn;t work out ("I can just move back in with you." should not be your first or only answer to that question!) And I would avoid using any of the arguements you listed above as a way to justify what you want to do. It's about the same as saying "But Jenny's Dad said she could go!" Have the answers to the questions you know he'll ask, let him have his say and then make the choice based on what you feel you truely want to do, are ready to do and weather you can handle the responsibility of living independently.
2006-09-26 01:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your obviously going to want to go about this in the most mature way possible. Have all your facts and points ready and explain how your going to manage rent, food, bills, entertainment and if your still at school tell him how your dedicated to finishing but think its time for you to go off on your own and explore different things like moving in with your partner. All parents are upset when their child moves out so try and include him in every way possible. Hopefully your boyfriend and father get along, that would help.
2006-09-26 01:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by ♡MaNda♡ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a word of caution. The most important people in your life are your "PARENTS". Your boyfriend wants you to to move in for some of his own personal reasons for which you leaning towards. Are you self secure and do you have enough mental, psychological and financial support if things do not work out. You are only 18 and think that this is some sort of a improvement in your life. This is a wrong step you are taking in the wrong direction. Pay attention to yourself and your future and not lean on someone.
2006-09-26 01:27:47 · answer #4 · answered by US 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My daughter moved in with her boyfriend at 17 1/2, she just told me then moved. Just let your dad know you'll keep in touch and drop in to see him. Your a grown woman and are free to do as you wish. Your dad will get used to it after a little time.
2006-09-26 01:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey u grown folks now. if u truly feel this is the right thing to do. i say go for it. dont move in just cause its ur boyfriend. move in cause u want. as for ur dad. u got to let him know ur not a lil girl no more. if he cant understand that then he has somegrowing up to do. plus he has his girl in his house. so it shoodnt b a problem. but i say do it if u trully beleive its the right decision. n just sit down with your dad n talk to him like a mature adult. no yellin though. unless u need to get ur point across.
2006-09-26 01:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by pitbull 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom dad I'm moving in with my boyfriend
2006-09-26 01:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by bprice215 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm, maybe they have lived and learned and just want a better life for you? I pray all the time that my kids don't have to live like I did because they make MY mistakes all over again. Why rush into something with this guy?
2006-09-26 01:27:17 · answer #8 · answered by spedtrap 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you will be moving out.
2006-09-26 01:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by E15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter whether they will "freak" or not.
You have to face life full on.
Tell them, don't be mean or anything, just factual.
2006-09-26 01:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by timc_fla 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋