How long should two people date before they get married?

Question

Unforgettable, that's what you are
Unforgettable though near or far
Like a song of love that clings to me
How the thought of you does things to me
Never before has someone been more

Unforgettable in every way
And forever more, that's how you'll stay
That's why, darling, it's incredible
That someone so unforgettable
Thinks that I am unforgettable too

Unforgettable in every way
And forever more, that's how you'll stay
That's why, darling, it's incredible
That someone so unforgettable
Thinks that I am unforgettable too

Answer 1

till they run out of time

Answer 2

Societal "rules" will say 2-3 years before getting married and to an extent, I'd agree especially if both are under 25-27 years of age. I married my husband after only 6 months (knew each other for almost a year) and we have been happily married for a year now. Would I recommend it? Even though my situation turned out well, I'd still say no. You have to be 100% damn sure and we were but it's not for everyone. At 31 and 44 respectively we had been through all the bullshit and knew exactly what we wanted for life and marriage so we knew without a doubt we were right for one another. As a friend of mine pointed out yesterday there are many women who are so desperate to marry by a certain age (usually 30) they'll marry any guy who offers even if he's all wrong for her. In my case, I had no interest in marriage but it all came together well and is still going well. Long story short, I do believe it's up to the couple whether it's 1 year or 4 years. No one can tell a couple what is right or wrong for their relationship. For some, the right time without a doubt is 1 year. For others, it's 3 or 4 years. Despite society's "rules" I just don't believe there is one right answer.

Answer 3

Most people say 6 months. But, it's all up to the individuals and how well they know themselves and eachother. After being married for 13 years, I could probably speed date someone and know right away if we would make a good permanent couple or not. Thank you for the lovely song. I really like that one. I had it slated to be used in my father's wedding, but the band didn't like it, and it was skipped.You are unforgettable. :)

Answer 4

Length of time don't matter. I would have said differently in the past, but I recently married someone after knowing her for four months. As long as you know it's not just fancy that will pass once the flames of passion have gone from bonfire to cooking fire. Some people have thier marriages all arranged and never meet until they are wed. Some people date for decades and never get around to tying the knot. It's totally open.

Answer 5

Well my boyfriend got married within a couple months of announcing to me he wanted me to stay his best friend and support him in his new relationship (oh he was still fooling around with me after he found her - i just found out about her by seeing his emails) - so apparently not too long if you feel you can get to know someone online and with just a couple weekend meetings - just depends on how long you want the marriage to last. Course it helps if one of them has a lot of money and can buy him a big new house and also looks like a trophy wife.

BTW - I don't believe in marriage anymore. Good luck with yours.

Answer 6

I believe in courting.. moving towards or with intent of marriage. I don't see a fixed time. I have known 2 marriages (and still married) where they didn't ever go out on a date. They just got married.

Answer 7

That is entirely up to the two people in question. Some people know right away. Others need time, especially if they were burned in a previous relationship.

I hope she says yes.

Answer 8

i dated for a year .... got engaged ... then a year after the engagement got married
a nice healthy space between ge to get to know each other well i think

thank for for the song ... Nat King Cole is unforgettable xxx

Answer 9

I think men know, right off the bat, whether they want to marry somebody. The longer you date without making the commitment the less likely you are to get married (to each other).
And, if you live together for years before getting married, it's more likely that your marriage will fall apart-because truthfully, it was over before it even started.

Answer 10

I love that song!

And my answer is: until they realize the importance of marriage--by reading books on true marriage and/or taking classes. You must agree on children, finances, communicate well and be ready for anything--trust each other and promise to work on any issues that surface and never speak the words "divorce" or "I am going to leave you".

Answer 11

Marriage is relative to the two people that share the love. A couple needs not to be married to share a love that will last a lifetime.