Okay so my boyfriend and i have liked each other for 3 years before i finally got up the courage to tell him how i feel, this summer. we had 7 wonderfully amazing weeks together before he had to go to america for 4 months. he's now been gone for 5 weeks and the first 4 have gone by with sweet messages, calls and emails every other day. Now i haven't heard from him since last week (Wednesday). i sent him an email on wedensday, friday and monday and haven't gotten a reply from him up till now. He gave me the password to his account when we first started going out so last night i dared to check his mail, because i thought something might have happened to him. I saw all my emails read, but none replied. Now i don't know what to think or do.
PS: the only way of communication is email and phone (which i thik he turned off beacuse of the roaming charges).
Any ideas or explanations anybody?
2006-09-26 00:35:17 · 18 answers · asked by blithe_vow 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he went to america to see his family after he hadn't seen them in 4 years.
2006-09-26 00:49:06 · update #1
you didn't say why he came to america...if he is here for studies or job then he is probably caught up in what he went there for. give him some time to get settled and adjusted don't assume that he does not want to be bothered just give him some time and if he does not contact you within the next send him an email or leave him voice mail and let him know that you are thinking about him and hope that everything is ok. but if you pressure him too much it may push him away. before he left did the both of you establish how often you would communicate.
2006-09-26 00:47:15 · answer #1 · answered by chocolatefancier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but this doesn't sound good to me. When I was in college and studied abroad, my boyfriend did the same thing. He was sweet as pie right before I left (we had our best semester together ever!) but once I was gone, it was like "out of sight, out of mind." He never e-mailed me, and when he did, it was very short and terse. I am a firm believer that if you want to make time for something, you will. Don't let your guy use the same excuse that mine did, "I'm too busy," because it takes very little effort to write a short e-mail every day. If he cares, he will. If he can't handle being apart, then there's your answer. He's emotionally incapable of being in a mature, healthy, lasting relationship, so it's time for you to dump him, get through the pain, and move on with your life. This is exactly what I did, and I am pleased to say that during study abroad, I met the man I would married and we have been living happily ever after. GOOD LUCK! Don't sell yourself short or put up with anything less than what you deserve.
2006-09-26 07:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by nido_tr3s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him time and stop checking his e mail, that is an evasion of his privacy. Wait till you talk to him and find out what the problem is. Since you know that he has received your e mails do not send anymore. He will get in touch when he wants to speak with you, and it may be painful but think about it this way... if he really loves you he will come back to you, and if he doesn't then he was never yours and you really are better off without him.
2006-09-26 07:43:37 · answer #3 · answered by fareen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but maybe he has realized that he is just too busy to have a girlfriend. I have been told that so many times . all these guys out there have so many women to choose from that they think it is okay to dump the one they are with . You know I actually had one,one time tell me women are like buses if you miss one another one will come along 5 minutes later. But anyway call him and find out what is going on . Dont sit back and wait for him call him. Good Luck.
2006-09-26 07:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he read ur mail but hasn't rply to u, maybe he thinks you are bothering him too much by sendin mails non-stop.. i think the best way to do is, ermm, try to ignore him for a week or so, meaning no phone calls, no sending emails or any other sort of communications.. and see what happens next..
if there's still no response from him, then it means that he wanna forget about u..
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2006-09-26 07:39:40 · answer #6 · answered by d d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's having second thoughts.if i were going with someone for three years and had to go to america and be there for a while i would be checking my emails every chance i got and would deffinitly reply to them asap.he has no excuse for not replying,he can't be busy 24 hours a day.but don't jump the gun maybe he has a perfectly good explanation,just play it by ear for now and see what happens.i would deffinitly ask him why he hasn't replied.good luck.and don't let him know you checked his emails.
2006-09-26 07:53:00 · answer #7 · answered by THE SHADOW 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship exists if two are trying to communicate.
Stop bothering him for a while and time will tell then if no reply get on with your life you don't need to sit around waiting.
Life is too short.
2006-09-26 07:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should send full details message about you,tell him the truth.Ask him to send email as soon as possible about his life in America.And do it daily during one month if you not receive any reply.Don't think any thing wrong about your relationship before having his replies.
2006-09-26 07:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by abotraka777 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FACE IT....You are dumped and he has someone else. Maybe the sex was not as good or adventurous as you thought after all and the American chicks do give way way better head. Also it sound to me like you could do with losing a few pounds and stop being so clingy and possesive or you will find this pattern repeated all through your sad and pathetic existance.
2006-09-26 07:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋