2006-09-26 00:32:49 · 55 answers · asked by Weed 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should give what ever you can afford, You being there for them is much more important. Maybe you can also write them a letter or poem inside the card with money, Give them something to remember they wont remember how much you gave them anyway, but they'll always have what you wrote them.
2006-09-26 00:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by MS.KNOW IT ALL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother-in-law was very generous. She gave us $1000, held a BBQ at her house for the rehearsal dinner, and took care of the flowers for the wedding.
When she gave us the $1000, she did it in a really great way -- she took us shopping! We had a really fun day together. We picked out a washing machine, a dryer, two bookshelves, and an armoire. It was exciting to start our life together in a way that allowed us to share it with family. Give what you can afford, but do it in an active way that shows that you support the marriage. The point of gift-giving isn't to compete or to put a price on love; it's a gesture of good-will toward the couple. Whatever you give, give it in a way that shows your son and daughter-in-law that you really want to support their decision, not that you are giving money because it is the socially accepted thing to do.
2006-09-29 09:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by ConfusedWife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not being rude but it kind of depends how well off you are. If you are rich I would say in the regiopn of £500. If you are normal perhaps about £200-£250. If you are poor £100ish? Your son will obviously understand as he knows your circumstances. But as a parent I think you are supposed to make a bit more of an effort than the other guests.
2006-09-26 00:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by kerrykinsmalosevich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give what you can afford and are comfortable with. Don't let this become a contest with in-laws. Keep in mind what you have already contributed to the wedding. This will not be your last chance to give them gifts.
For my 2nd marriage, i think my parents gave us $500, my mother-in-law gave us $5000, or more. I honestly do not remember. They just have different bank accounts and different ideas about money. I know they all love us and that is what really counts.
2006-09-26 00:42:46 · answer #4 · answered by bttrswt1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is also getting married. I plan on giving him money. Since I did not have girls and did not have to come up with the thousands to put on a wedding, I am giving him enough to have a great honeymoon and lots of spending money. About $10,000. The bride's parents don't have it so easy. The wedding will cost over $25,000. Life is good when you have boys.
2006-09-26 00:36:28 · answer #5 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much can you afford? That's really the question. When it comes to giving money for your son's wedding, there is not specific "etiquette." It's really just about what you can afford. If you could afford $1000.00 then that's what you give. If you can afford $100.00 then that is what you give. I am sure your son and future daughter-in-law will be very grateful for any gift you give them.
2006-09-26 00:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think this depends on if you have contributed to the wedding or not. What is the money for? How much can you afford to give? Don't put yourself into debt because it's your son.
2006-09-27 01:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you don't just give them money - otherwise it might not be spent on something special. Why not comrpomise by offering to buy them something they want in the price range that you can afford. Asking for money as a wedding present is rather rude.
2006-09-26 00:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by bovie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how much you can afford. If you are broke, then don't break yourself, but if you have some money, then I would say £50-100... if you have more to give, then spread it out. Little bits at christmas, little surprises when they need it more
2006-09-26 08:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by jayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that depends on you.
Me and my wife asked for money from our parents when we got married. My parents gave us £2500 for our honeymoon and her parents gave us £1000 spending money. Mind you her family paid for most of the wedding and my parents paid for the rest. I think we were quite lucky really. I certainly was not expecting them to be that generous.
How much do you want to give them? I guess It's a combination of what you afford and what you are prepared to give.
2006-09-26 00:49:59 · answer #10 · answered by PETER F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋