I'm a Gay man and I've been seeing and having sex with a guy who also sleeps with women. He does not feel as strongly as me as I do about him but he does look for me and we spend time together but he cannot catergorize our "relationship" as I do. I feel he is my Lover because we've been together for 4 months. What are we?
2006-09-26 00:25:20 · 15 answers · asked by Texican2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, I think you are being used. I think you need to find someone who will put you first. Why should you be the one in the relationship to suffer. It sounds like this guy is having his cake and eating it too. 4 months on the grand scheme of things is easier to move on from than if you were to let this continue.
I'm not of the opinion that there is only one person in the world out there for each of us. I believe that there are many out there with potential. Just cut this one loose and get out there and find the one who is right for you... one that will put as much effort into your relationship as you do.
Good luck and I hope that things work out.
2006-09-26 00:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by HSK's mama 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you really know in your heart what is really going on? I believe you must, or you would not ask. Are you not just tolerating this situation because you still want relations with this man? Knowing this makes you a "User" as well, using him for the way he makes you feel. He uses you and the girl for even more feelings.
When your heart says "What's up" and your not sure how you feel, the User in you takes over and viola, your with him again.
Walk away like a "man" dude. Cowboy up cause surely, your partner seems to be doing just that, only not exclusively with you.
2006-09-26 07:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by Michael K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys haven't set ground rules about your relationship (and any relations between two people is a relationship) then you really can't be angry at him. He is obviously not ready to settle down with you, or anyone. You can only allow yourself to be used. You know he is sleeping with other people, including women, and this can pose a serious risk to your health. Condoms do NOT work 100% for anything.
Only you can make this decision as to what you are. You have to be honest with yourself though. He does not think of you as his boyfriend in a serious relationship. He thinks of you as friends with benefits.
2006-09-26 07:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
commitment is the key word here, you are he isn't. it really is that simple. you want an exclusive relationship he doesn't , not even with one sex. you don't need me to lecture you on the safe sex side of this either, if he is sleeping with men and women well you know as well as I do the trouble that can cause. you need to talk to him tell him how you feel explain you are not willing to share and need to know where you stand. he may also be trying to figure out his own sexuality here, so that you have to take into account also, you have to decide if this is the case and are you willing to wait around whilst he makes up his mind.
2006-09-26 07:31:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay this is my take on the situation. your " boyfriend" as you call him is just that 'a boy who is your friend'. he is not serious about you, do not get too deep into this. he wants you for a friend in times of wanting and no girls are passing he will be there other than that he does not want you.
get out now before you get any deeper.
forget about men there are beautiful women out there who would love you the way that you deserve to be loved.
good luck babes.
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2006-09-26 07:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by b b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is what it is brother! If hes sleeping with you and other people hes not taking you very seriouly! Is he still hiding that he's gay? That could be part of the problem! Until he's sure where he stands, he certainly does'nt know where ya'll stand!
2006-09-26 07:33:36 · answer #7 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats an easy one to answer.are you 100% gay? if so, he's not so he won't be able to settle for just you he will also desire other women and men.let him go he's confused and don't know what he is and hasn't made up is mind yet.find someone who will be true to you and you only.you are a convience to him and thats all.good luck
2006-09-26 07:38:54 · answer #8 · answered by THE SHADOW 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like friends w benefits- and he is putting you and his females at risk for syphilis, aids, herpes, and a host of other diseases, Did you know that you can get syphilis of the throat? and herpes around your rectum?? Not too romantic -is it? He will do what you allow= be careful and take care- D
2006-09-26 07:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious?
He is a cheater and stay away from him he is using you as a doormat when he can't get someone else.
I wouldn't put up with this, be strong and move on.
2006-09-26 07:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋