Some people believe (there's a book about it) that we are supposed to wait for "the One" that God chooses for us. We are supposed to wait to start a relationship until we know that we have met the one that God chose for us, and then we are supposed to begin the relationship with the intention of marriage. So we are not supposed to date anyone until we know they are the one. I just don't get it; I've dated a few people, and I do not regret any of my relationships; I learned a lot from all of them. Don't you think it should be up to every individual how they date and who (or how many) they choose to have sex with?
2006-09-26 00:24:47 · 24 answers · asked by Spookshow Baby 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You and I are on the same page, Spookshow.
Like your avatar, BTW. Classy.
2006-09-26 00:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes my dear it is totally up to you. And I'm sure you feel as though you have learned much from all your relationships. But the fact is that with each and every relationship you acquire more baggage and more hurt that makes it more difficult for you to ever have a successful relationship. Even pagan counselors will counsel you in such fashion. 1ST Marriages end in a little over 50% divorce rate, 2nd's in 75% as well as roughly the same percentages. Sex is supposed to given as an act of love, not just gratification of the flesh, that's where you begin to acquire more baggage. When you go through relationship after relationship you begin to grow numb emotionally. Sex means nothing and the more people that you allow to take away your biggest gift of love and turn it into an act of lust the more you destroy your mental sense of love and care and giving. And you have set yourself up for a lifetime of failures. I encourage you to think about this and seek some counseling, you can turn the tide and save yourself from heartache by becoming a virtuous woman who only gives her love to someone who respects her and wants to spend forever with you. This man will be worth waiting for
And how odd that Jim Darwin would speak of moving heaven and hell. And talk about love in an almost biblical sense.
2006-09-26 00:39:07 · answer #2 · answered by Prophecy+History=TRUTH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is the one part of ourselves that if saved for marriage will be the one thing we can share with them that we will never share with another. How beautiful is that?
Also look at all how screwed up the world is now because of the pain that has been caused by families sepaerating, custoday battles, STDs, etc etc. There are clear reasons as to wht God created sex to be enjoyed within a commited relationship (marriage). God didnt plan broken homes and lives
2006-09-26 00:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by angelvic_83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in reserving sex for marriage.
To me--the word "date" means going to the movies or dinner, bowling, etc. In this sense of the word, dating someone you are not sure is "The One" is ok. I did, however, choose people to date that I thought would make a good husband until I no longer thought that and then move on. There is no sense in toying around in relationships based on nothing but having a good time--not to say that enjoying the time spent with someone else is not important.
Sex is a sacred gift to married people in order to procreate--to begin a family. This I will always believe. My belief in the sanctity of sex is only stronger when I see how it is casually used and the troubles it causes when used this way. STDs, abortion, birth control, abuse, divorce, messed-up kids, emotional pain...
2006-09-26 00:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by CatholicMOM 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It totally has to deal with the individual, I am a huge believer of everything u just said, U can date, nothing is wrong with that but its the sex part that i'm against, I believe that one has to wait for the right guy, One can be in many relationships but sex is not an option for me, Only for the right guy, I think sex is something precious, something of great value, It is something that god gave us to procreate and to be satisfied with, but in my opinion people have taken it as a pleasure alone, and not as a promise and as a bond that one has with that one partner who u wish to spend the rest of ur life with, who u wish to be intimate with, give it all to that person. But people have free will to do what they choose with what is theirs, and there is nothing anyone can do otherwise, whether it is right or it is wrong.
2006-09-26 00:53:44 · answer #5 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Date - No
But sex and marriage - Yes..
Probably I'm from Asian country, things like sex before marriage is still a taboo.. Although i have to admit that a lot of young Eastern countries generation nowadays have sex before marriage.. no sex becomes a statement to tell "ok,i like you", not "i really love you".. sex is not that important and meaningful as before.. Dating a lot of men is not bad thing.. So you know which type of man you actually prefer and you can meet a lot of different personality..
so yeah, inconclusion.. dating doesn't have to be only with one guy (as long as not dating 2 or more guys at one time..)
2006-09-26 00:36:53 · answer #6 · answered by _ni_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It never says we cant date. How would u find the one u got your wiers crrosed. U are suposed to wait to have sex. Not date. But God does have a person for u and u will find that person. But if u dont belive in God then do what u want and dont worry about any thing the bible syas
2006-09-26 00:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is what opens the door for being more intimate with someone physically. Without it, physical things should not be done.
You should make physical relationships only with the ones that you are serious about to the extent of marriage.
If later the couple decide to break up and find other people then they have that option.
2006-09-26 00:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by rose_ovda_night 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what about fate?... Yes fate ... lol ... not God ... :D
The idea that the "stars" in some way author us ... Most get the newspaper serial drivel that simply reduces us to one of twelve types ... But a fully cast natal chart has the intricacies and individualism of a fingerprint ...
Most simply know their sun signs ... Sun signs show a bit of a rough skecth as sign properties still apply ...
Yet where is Mars(what one desires) in the 360 degree scheme?...how does it aspect one's natal moon(emotionality) harshly?...or gently? ...
There was a great deal of science to the creation of our modern ephemeris ...Michelsen who correlated the astronomical data was a brilliant engineer ... Isaac Newton,Koepler,and Tycho Brahe all believed the motions of the planets were in our behaviors...Qabalists of their times... If a person has a bundle of important planets aspecting in Cancer (and the sunsign most know is actually little important in this regard)...Then likely- they will be fulfilled by seeking loyalty, fidelity and monogamy ...
Another individual with a bundle of planets in (and aspecting) a more mutable sign like Gemini or Sagitarius ... will need to roam ... will need (and be restricted elsewise) to learn about themselves as reflected through relationships with many ...
footnote: Fate was venerated but not loved by the perrenial ancients that respected it ... It was seen as capricious, and cruel and not a respecter of persons ... Carl Jung even came to believe that astrosophy contained many of the "archetypes of consciousness" that his studies came to theotise are the underpinnings of all human psychology ...
So in summary... yes- it simply must be each individual's choice ... we are made differently ... a "fidelity" absolutely needed for the peace of one individual ... may be crippling to the development of another ...
Stars and electromagnetivity are mean in what they orchestrate into the waters of our beings ... lol
2006-09-26 02:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by gmonkai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I choose who I will have voluntarilly sexual intercourse with. Regardless of what words appear on a page or are in a book written by other people.
I make my own choice.
What do I think is right? If two people love one another regardless of circumstance they should find one another no matter the obstacles to have their moment.
People who love move heaven and hell for a chance to hug and kiss the person they treasure and love.
It consumes them.
It is their passion.
It makes them send emails and text messages and voice messages,
all in the hopes they will be chosen back.
2006-09-26 00:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well now I'm married, so it's just me and her until one of us dies. This is cool wit' me, I'm just lucky to have her. I haven't actually dated anyone since High School, but I had a couple of 'friends with benefits' on and off for like ten years. I had to move away so I accepted that it was just me, myself, and my hand, then she came into my life. I think the whole 'soul-mate' thing is some kind of romantic Victorian Era left-over.
2006-09-26 00:41:28 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋