Ok, its like this. i have a boyfriend for 2 yrs now. one day his girl employee (one of my friend) told me that she notice that my boyfriend likes to flirt around. so one day i asked him why hes doing it and he told me "IT DOESNT MEAN THAT BECAUSE I LIKE FLIRTING IM GOING TO CHEAT" im confuse i dont know what to believe, is it really not possible for him not to cheat on me even he likes flirting? he admit that to me and said - thats my personality if you want me to change that so i will not be me, he said. he never cheated on me upto this point in time (but im worried that he might if he continue flirting), i just dont like the fact that he likes to flirt coz for me its a start of bieng unfaithful, wont you agree? i told him that im not comportable with it and he said he cant change coz that what he is. i need help that can clear up my mind and understand that he will not going to cheat even he likes to flirt.. please serious answer only. tnx in advance.
2006-09-25 23:38:56 · 13 answers · asked by Maria 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he cheated on his girlfriends before me, and he told me that those times, hes not inlove or he never loved all of them and he even cheated on them if front, he said to that he never say to them (eache gf's he have that he love them or just to say i love you back everytime they say i love you) he said to me hes the type of person that if he do say he means it thats why he naver said i love you to all those past gf's coz he never did. and as for me as his gf (were planning to get married after finishing my second degree as a nursing probably 2 yrs more) his serious with me and i can see that, he said that im the 1st person he says or having said "I LOVE YOU" and he tells me that im his 1st love. and his inlove with me. (i just dont really like the way he likes to flirt, and i just notice that now. but i do know he likes to talk i mean he's talkative to everybody, hes not shy type of person. he makes friends everywhere. what do you think guys?...
2006-09-26 00:12:12 · update #1
Flirting is not cheating. It's part of his personality and one thing you can't change is that. He will eventually just hide everything from you if you try and change him, that's if he don't leave you first. If you don't like that about him maybe you might want to rethink things.
2006-09-25 23:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by mom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Flirting is just a natural thing. Everyone does it whether they know it or not, while others are just more obvious. Flirting is just words. It is harmless fun. It doesn't mean he's going to cheat. The only times I have a problem with my bf flirting is when he does it in my presence (that's disrespectful to me) and when physical contact gets involved. I don't mind to the words, but I don't want his hands on anyone else. Plus I flirt all the time especially at my job, but there is no way I'd ever cheat. Trust your man. He means what he says.
2006-09-25 23:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 00:03:52 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right, just because he flirts doesn't mean he will cheat. My boyfriend is the world's biggest flirt but also the world's most trustworthy bloke. Well in my eyes anyway! I sometimes find it hard to watch, especially because by nature I'm not flirtatious, but I have realised that it is part of his personality and not something I can change. He is very sociable, affectionate and fun-loving. Therefore he loves to chatting to people, making them happy and making them laugh. People love being flirted with and to be honest its kind of like a social skill. Its not a definite sign that someone wants to sleep with you if they flirt with you.
I fell in love with him because of who he is, so why would I want to change that?
You just have to trust him. It is possible for them to flirt but not cheat.
2006-09-25 23:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you been together for 2 year and he has been doing for the whole 2 years and have not cheat yet then stop worring but if this is something he just started to do then give him a taste of his own medinic. you flirt with someone in front of his friends who you know are goin to go back and tell him and give him the same line he gave you if he question you about it. but other then that keep explaining to him how if make you feel when he do things like that.
2006-09-25 23:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by besos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...he is right, just because he enjoys flirting, does not mean that he is going to cheat...but...if this guy is making you feel uncomfortable in that relationship, wouldn't you be more incline to choose someone that is willing to show you this affection and not other women. Trust seems to be an issue here, and it sounds as if you have reason to mistrust, always go with the instinct hon, trust yourself, and be Happy!
2006-09-25 23:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you spell insecurity? think of it this way. don't you feel good when a man notices your hair? or says something to indicate he likes you?You obviously liked it when he said them to you.. At least he's making people smile. that's a good thing. If ya not ok with that than maybe ya should of hooked up with Bin Laden or Charles Manson. But on a serious note here's the key. " Serve him a warm pie for dinner and he won't go out looking for food"
2006-09-25 23:49:38 · answer #7 · answered by yahbonez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no guarentees he won't cheat whether he flirts or not---trust and communication keep relationship going...flirting can lead to trouble if the other person takes it too serious; hopefully he is responsible enough not to mislead someone. If you're very bothered by it, you shou;d find another whose personality and characteristics are more compatible with your comfort zone.
2006-09-25 23:49:16 · answer #8 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys don't flirt and do cheat and are very sneaky about it- some flirt and never cheat- some do-do you have any reason to think he has cheated- has he ever cheated on anyone??? Sometimes their history will tell you- don't bug him it will drive him away-and you can't change him- it's not your job- you have a decision to make-put up w it - or dump him-D
2006-09-25 23:46:20 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to find a new boyfriend - he's cheating on you. a leopard doesn't change their spots, neithe does a cheater. i'm sure it seems like it's too hard to end the relationship, but it's better to end it then to let it go on, you'll be happier in the future. good luck.
2006-09-27 12:54:36 · answer #10 · answered by no money 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋