2006-09-25 23:37:09 · 47 answers · asked by Maria O 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They may have not written their vows themselves and perhaps they were just reading other peoples' words, not really feeling or understanding what they were saying.
2006-09-25 23:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people like the 'status' of being married rather than living within the framework of their marriage vows. I know couples who are not married that can remain even more faithful, respectful etc. compared to their married counterparts.
Being married is no guarantee to loving and being with each other for life and living happily ever after. Marriages can and do break-up even when two people do their best to honour their marriage vows, its just more that the love has gone between them and its not enough to sustain the marriage partnership. In that circumstance, well you cant fight against the force of love and nature if its telling you otherwise.
2006-09-26 16:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some people get so into planning the big wedding and get caught up in all the planning and romanticize marriage. Marriage requires a total commitment from both people involved. You take vows to love, honor and respect each other in good times and bad. When the going gets tough people just give up too easily and walk away. Commitment takes work from both parties. Also in a marriage you must learn to compromise and some people just aren't willling to put that much into it.
2006-09-26 00:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they got married for the wrong reasons... It's hard to honor vows that are based on love when they really aren't in love... They are often in love with the idea of being in love.... a very different thing.
Finding the right person and getting married for the right reasons... greatly increases the chances of a committed relationship without the breaking of vows...
2006-09-26 13:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of people are too selfish. When they get married they think of the fairy tale ending. Happily ever after, but then when real life hits, they tend to forget their vows. They think that the puppy love, where you can't get enough of each other, should last forever. It doesn't. I still love my husband with all my heart, but I don't have the puppy love for him anymore. It goes much deeper than when we were first married, but some people think that when the puppy love is over then they must not love their spouse anymore. People expect their partner to make them happy, or they didn't think it would be hard to live with another person. Too many people have the "life's too short" attitude and if they're not happy, they tend to think it must be because of their spouse instead of looking within to see why they are unhappy. Just because they leave the relationship doesn't automatically mean they will be happy. I think that's why there's so many multiple marriages and divorces. Too many look to other people to make their lives good instead of looking within. When things are good it's easy to stay, but if there's a problem then marriage is hard. There are happy times and not so happy times, but as long as you work through it together, you should be ok, but it takes lots of work and lots of communication, dedication and patience. And you have to be willing to stick it out during the rough patches. It's too easy to quit.
2006-09-26 01:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do honor my vows, even though my wife has had two affairs, both workplace related, one with a manager.
That was four years ago, with much hard work, we are still together and she is a changed person.
It would have been easy, perhaps justified had I taken my problems outside the marriage, but I am not morally built that way.
2006-09-25 23:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because the last two or three generations have been raised to do what feels good and what is fun, not to honor their commitments. They have not been taught honor, commitment or the idea of hard work and perseverance. They have been raised to believe that everything is equal and that everyone is the same as everyone else, that everyone is special and no one loses because everyone wins. They don't even let children win/lose in a sports contest. They and the children that they are raising do not know the idea or feeling of failure and opposition.
In a nutshell-they have been taught that if it isn't fun anymore then just quit and move on to something/someone else.
2006-09-25 23:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by whatelks67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting responses here... you asked about 'marriage vows' and most of the people who answered spoke only about adultery and/or divorce.
If the phrase 'marriage vows' only brings to mind 'forsaking all others' and 'til death do us part', that is definitely part of the problem.
What about 'to love and to cherish'? Or 'to honor and respect'? Or 'to have and to hold'? (which is marriage-speak for sex, btw)
I guarantee if there was more loving and cherishing and having and holding and honoring and respecting going on in marriages, then 'forsaking all others' and 'til death do us part' would be a helluva lot easier to accomplish.
2006-09-26 00:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by sueflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human nature - there are a lot of sh#t heads out there.
Saying that there are also a lot of people who do love and honor the partners. I've known mine 22 years, lived with him for 14 years and been married to him for 4 years and I trust and love him now as much as when we met and vice a versa. So don't give up hope there are some good people around you just have to find them.
2006-09-25 23:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by geegee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who do not honor their marriage vows have no self control or that the want their cake and eat it to, who know what goes through peoples minds to do such acts
2006-09-25 23:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age vows are nothing but words said because of the occasion.Dishonoring vows seem to be the "norm"
2006-09-26 03:44:32 · answer #11 · answered by JUSEve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋