Hi I asked the ? about entering into the hetero relationship where my friend tested positive. I guess what I am looking for is more feedback regarding trust and past sexual behavior. I do not know how difficult it is for a man to get it from a woman as he says is how he contracted it. I am well aware of safety and protecting myself. I am educated and open minded but also aprehensive. I have spent a great deal of time with this man and really like him but not sure. Thanks, that is more of the advise I am looking for.
2006-09-25 22:59:39 · 8 answers · asked by Jen 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I don't think I saw your other question. However HIV is NOT a gay persons STD. Straight people can get HIV. STD's are transferred by body fluids mixing. Therefor anyone can get HIV. Even blood transfusions can cause a person to get HIV as well as using a dirty needle.
If you are going to have a sexual relationship with a person who is infected with any STD I highly suggest you talk to your doctor for advice. On here you are sure to get lots of people who say don't do it no matter what. So a doctor is the best place to get advice and tips from.
2006-09-25 23:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. well I'm an nurse and i do treat alot of HIV + patients. i can say its not difficult to get the virus in a hetero relationship at all. as a matter of fact the number of people contracting it that way is on the rise. you can take every precaution available and still contract the virus. sorry. for u and him. its not a sure thing that u will get it but condoms will tell u on the label that they are not 100% effective against anything. he probably did get it the way he said. and i think u can trust him about that. i think its tragic what this virus does to people . its a horrific way to live let alone die. some live for many years before it turns to aids. some don't. either way u have to live so careful about any little thing and these people cant afford any carelessness with their health.I'm sure this guy is probably great but unless u have your whole heart invested here id say just stay friends. there is always that chance. don't just cut the guy out of your life because of this but rethink the relationship carefully . good luck.
2006-09-26 06:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by skylinbaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can get HIV no matter if you are male or female. It doesn't care what gender or age you are.
As to if you should have a relationship with him.....that is only a question you can answer. I would bet 99% of people would not. HIV is scary. Me being educated on HIV would have a very hard time with that if I was interested in someone who had HIV. I think my first reaction would be no. I would suggest you stay his friend. Talk it over with him, search your soul. That is the only way you can find the answer to that question. You will decide when the time is right. I find if I pray about things that are really tough, the answer does come. Best wishes to you. You will know in your heart.
2006-09-26 06:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should take things slow. He can still be a friend but u should ask urself, would u as well as him mind if both of u cannot have any sexual contact when the relatioship get more intimate?
U r an educated person, hopes u take time find out more about transmision modes of HIV before u both go further.
Besides, as a couple, u should be emotionally, physically n financially ready to share his chalenges to live to the fullest as HIV positive person.
Hope u the best in true love.
2006-09-26 06:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by fify 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are concerned about his past this may also be an issue of trust. I dated an HIV positive man for a while. It doesn't take away from who he is. You seem very aware of the health risks involved and are seriously considering comitting to him. Ultimately the decision to take the relationship to the next level is up to you. If he is genuine and if you know he is the one you want to be with then go ahead.
2006-09-26 06:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you? because if you're young i would say don't do it. you have your whole life ahead of you, and you may find someone that you don't just like but one that you are in LOVE with. it's not worth the risk to have sex with someone with hiv that you really just LIKE. besides that it sounds like he's being a bit selfish for getting you involved in his sex life. i hope that you don't take this the wrong way, but nothing is 100% safe from getting hiv except abstinence. keep it on a friends only basis.this is your life your putting at risk
2006-09-26 06:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be very careful, If you trust an believe him then go for it but if any doubt dont cause you will be hurt in the long run
2006-09-26 06:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by Rhonda O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while its good that he was honest with you , why would you want to take a chance?? its not only your health but what if a child was born out of this relationship ? accidents do happen. i say stay friends with this man and give him all the support you can , but please think of the future
2006-09-26 06:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by MissMonk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋