disagree about sexuality to be very good friends and not let their differing opinions get in the middle of it? Or do you think that that could never happen? If you are homosexual, would you be friends with a straight person that did not agree with you about your lifestyle, but otherwise was friend material?
2006-09-25 22:57:13 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
For a friendship to last both parties need to accept the others lifestyle completely. After all it is part of who they are as indiviudals and part of what shapes them. As a homosexual I could not be friends in the truest sense of the word with an individual that could not accept all of who I am. Passing acquintances at best, or even friendly, but not friends to the end.
2006-09-25 23:04:37 · answer #1 · answered by God 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You mean could I be friends with a bigot? Well let's see - how many black men are friends with KKK members?
My friends totally accept me and my orientation. I wouldn't be able to develop a relationship with anyone that questioned my love for my partner, the fact that we live together, and intend to be together the rest of our lives. I also wouldn't accept as a friend anyone who denies our rights as human beings, or our constitutional right to marry.
When will straight people learn it's not a 'lifestyle'. Do they think being straight is a 'lifestyle choice'? If you made a choice, at what age did you decide you DIDN'T want to be gay? On what did you base this decision?
2006-09-26 10:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends that dont agree w/ my sexual orientation...they arent my best friends because I obviously cant open up to them about everything...but we hang out a lot and have a good time...just because someone is a homosexual, doesnt mean they flaunt it around all the time or wave the rainbow flag everywhere we go...we are people just like everyone else...
If 2 people are friends but disagree on sexual orientation, religion or whatever else...they learn to respect each other and not throw anything in their face...
2006-09-26 11:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by inevitable2277 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do not have to except one's lifestyle to be a friend to them.After all it isn't the lifestyle that you are befriending it is the individual. There is always a means to find some common ground. I don't have to agree with a homosexual lifestyle nor do i expect them to agree with me on everything.
Those of the heterosexual lifestyle can be friends with opposing lifestyles without getting involved with it. You are embracing the person not the lifestyle. So yes it is possible.
2006-09-26 09:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by bro_ken128 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO. Because I wouldnt associate with someone who lived a lifestyle I didnt approve on. But you have to educate yourself and understand homosexulaity is not a life Style it is a sexual orientation. Not preference an orientation. Life style I disagree with is Drug Abuse. If some one was heavy into drugs I couldnt really be their friend. CUz its brings a bunch of dramam with it. That is a lifestyle choice, i dont agree with.
2006-09-26 08:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by david s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that's a matter of personal preference. For me, it would depend on how invasive that person's opinions were. If they were the type to constantly try to impose those opinions on me, than I could never be friends with them. Also, there's only so far that friendship could go if they were unwilling to hang out with my significant other because they disagreed with the way I live my life, since she's a really big part of it...I would imagine that would put a damper on any friendship, regeardless of sexuality.
2006-09-26 09:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by tsdeck5 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As a gay man I have many straight friends that clearly do not agree with my lifestyle and we have many heated discussions on the subject. We also have heated discussions on many other subjects but still remain good friends. Friendship should allow for fundamental disagreements - if we all thought the same and agreed on everything there would be no reason to have friends at all, it's the challenge that strengthens such ties.
2006-09-26 07:40:28 · answer #7 · answered by paul h 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, not anymore. I don't care about their life and they shouldn't care about mine.
When I was young I would probably have "taken it" but I'm not young anymore.
On the other hand, we don't seem to face that issue. Jonathan and I have been lovers for 15 years in January. We have a wonderful life, we don't fight and we still have lots of sex. Our straight friends, even those few who come from traditions that have taught them that they should detest our "lifestyle." find themselves envying our happiness instead, and I feel a certain amount of pity for them.
So, if someone detested what I was, I wouldn't befriend them -- but if they were quiet FROM THE BEGINNING and could stand being with a pair of very happy gay men when they traveled with us without making a fuss, then no prob -- but experience tells me that when bigots get to the point of being comfortable with us -- they aren't bigots anymore -- they've started to think for themselves, inevitably.
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2006-09-26 16:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how willing each side is to live and let live. I have lots of friends where I don't agree with everything they do, and some of the things we disagree on are pretty big, but if both sides are willing to let that go and accept the person without the issue, then yes, it is possible. Cause you see, people are friends with other people, not with a sexual orientation.
2006-09-26 06:14:08 · answer #9 · answered by Arlene06 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If someone is your "Friend" life styles don't matter-even if they are different.
A straight friend of mine, who is married to a great guy, has done her best to understand the gay life style and even though she would never give up being straight she does not disapprove of GLBT.
Mind you-this woman started really learning about GLBT in her early 60's and lives in the Bible belt. Her husband also approves.
2006-09-26 08:44:10 · answer #10 · answered by dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋