are there any witches that can help me to just get my husbands attention and let him see all that is good in me again, then he will remember and love me all over again. he is hanging around these losers who are all single and have no respect for women. i am trying so hatd to save my marriage. is there anything i can do? please, no silly questions, i am totally, completely serious.
2006-09-25 22:29:15 · 22 answers · asked by mercedes1 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Mythology & Folklore
by the way, if i talk to my husband he will start yelling and telling me he will leave me. i treat him good, better than good, he hurts me all of the time, mentally
2006-09-25 22:37:13 · update #1
and i am not fat. i am a pretty girl.
2006-09-25 22:39:34 · update #2
A Witch is not the answer. It seems to me that you are suffering from low self-esteem and he is preying on that. It takes 2 people to save a marriage.
I think you should seek out counseling for yourself. You may not like this but you are being abused by this man. A spell to manipulate this situation will only do you more harm in the long run.
Blessings )O(
2006-09-25 23:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by Epona Willow 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Mercedes - It may be hard to accept but sometimes you should just call it quits.
It sounds like the unfortunate situation is that you want to be loved by someone who does not really love anyone except himself.
He may have seemed sincere before but if this is the way he acts now, then you need to face the fact that he simply lacks the constance and commitment you are looking for in a husband.
As a "witch", I can tell you from experience that any spell would only make him "seem" to love you. Saddly It would be just the magic - not Him... you see it would only be the spell making him into your puppet and in spite of the fact he may well deserve that - You deserve better!
You deserve a man who -really- loves you and is willing to commit to you and your marriage and be your husband 24-7 not just when he's in the mood for sex or someone to dump on in order to make himself feel less inadequate.
My recommendations;
1. Write it all up - every thing that he's done, places and times and events.
2. Dump him.
3. Get a good lawyer, give them a copy of the stuff you wrote down, and sue for as much as you can get in the divorce.
4. Learn from your mistake and grow wiser.
5. Find someone better.
2006-09-29 01:30:39 · answer #2 · answered by Michael Darnell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, there are no stupid questions other than the one that goes unasked.
I feel for you. Unfortunately magick isn't the answer here. Magick shouldn't be used to change someone else only to help you change yourself. And from what you have said the problem doesn't lay with you but him. If he is unwilling to communicate then you have a serious problem as that is the most important part of a relationship. Unless he is willing to change I am afraid this will not end well. Either he will have to treat you better or things will only get much worse. You are going to have to either find the strength to move on without him or you will have to put up with more of this (which I don't think will be good for you). Either way you will need strength to deal with these changes that have occurred in your life.
If you do want something magickal to do, you may wish to cleanse an area for yourself and burn some frankincense incense (solar influence for self confidence and personal success) and seek the power within yourself to help you through this troubling time.
Blessed Be )O(
2006-09-26 07:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by Stephen 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand why you'd want witches to help you. Either you can do this or not. Though I have to admit, I don't understand why you'd want to.
It sounds like he's going through a 'phase' but it also sounds like he'd rather spend more time with the losers than with you.
I have to disagree with idea of sexy clothes and perfume and cooking whatever he wants. If you already treat him like a king, why would you want to bend over backwards to please him just to have him yell at you?
He's mentally abusing you with the yelling and threatening to leave you and you shouldn't put up with it.
It may not be good advise, or not what you want to hear, but leave him. He's mentally abusive, be it a phase or a change in personality, it's still abuse.
Move in with a friend or relative for awhile and see how he acts. Some times they don't realize what they have until it's gone and it might open his eyes to the reality of the error of his ways.
But there's always the possibility that's that exactly what he wants and he's using the threats to achieve it.
2006-09-26 05:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am sorry to have to tell you that no amount of witchcraft will actually get you what you want -- if your husband is really treating you like a second class human being then the question you should be asking is why are you letting him -- my advice is stop giving him permission to drag you down. he is hurting you and you are permitting it. Stop permitting him to hurt you. You don't need spell work for a solution to human problems. You just need to take a smart ladies advice (Eleanor Roosevelt said Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. )
2006-09-26 07:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by d2bcathie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do not need a witch in this case hon. first of all he either loves you or he does not. you say you treat him like a king and he still treats you like $hit. Well, how about YOU consider leaving HIM . Just for a day or two the first time, to get his attention. See how his cocky, macho as$ reacts to the thought of losing you. In all honesty, you also should think about the fact that MAYBE, and i am just saying maybe, is there a chance that he wants out of the marriage? no hon, a witch will only make this situation worse, trust me on this . You should seek the answer to this question from within yourself. I wish you luck. Blessed Be.
2006-09-26 06:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by MAGICKMAN1055 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Sorry Luv!
((hug))
You have been given some good advice...but...
keep in mind you can only do so much. You can't "make" someone feel something they don't feel. No matter how hard you try...
Do what you can to fix things and try to stay objective about the rest. If he insist on treating you this way, saving your marriage may not be an option.
Good Luck!
2006-09-27 11:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by starrzfan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
witches? or B*tches?, hmm, sorry hon. the only one who can get your husbands attention is the person in your mirror. You have to counter what he is learning from his friends, maybe point out the fact that maybe the reason they are still single IS because of they way they have no respect for women, and if he starts to disrespect you like they posibbly do with other women, then he will be single too!
2006-09-26 05:34:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My Ex-husband did the same thing your experiencing with your husband.
I had to make choices, realizing I was doing the majority of the work in the relationship & no matter how hard I tried to make him happy, he was verbaly abusave.
I wound up divorcing him after 10 years of dealing with the abuse.
I can't tell you how much happier I am now.
About a year after the divorce, he appoligsed & begged me to come back. I haven't gone back & have no intention of ever living like that again.
Hope this helps.
2006-09-26 08:08:21 · answer #9 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Please re-read your question & think what it says.
Noone deserves that treatment - nor to want to continue to put themselves in such an abusive situation.
You need counselling to find options for yourself and your children if you have any. You need to check out a safe place to go with your children if you decide to leave him - either to a family member or a home for abused women - check your phone book.
Try to open a bank account in your own name & put aside money for yourself so you will be provided for if you must leave.
Good luck. G-d bless you.
2006-09-27 23:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋