I am a married women with a kid of 7. I am falling in love with other man, and in relationship for 8 months now. I want to quit from him because I finally found out that he is not as good as I thought, I dont love him anymore. I got pregnant by him, and want to keep the baby because I am expecting another kid, and my husband too. I told my lover once that this might be his. My husband, bless him, he is such a nice person, and always take care of me. I know this is my fault being in a relationship with another man. I really want to raise the baby, will there be a problem in the future? I feel regret, I promise to myself that I wont do this again, I will love only my husband. Have you ever experience the same problem? Can you give me advise? For your information we are from the same race, and the blood types are not conflicting.
2006-09-25 22:02:30 · 13 answers · asked by marchia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I got pregnant by him, and want to keep the baby because I am expecting another kid, and my husband too???
2006-09-25 22:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is your doing. Wow, you drop a lot on your husband and he step up to the plate like no other. Your husband is GOOD MAN.
I'm sorry but your promise to love only your husband and you wont do this again. That don't get it. You need to find out WHY you went outside of your marriage and work on that. get some professional help. If you still conclude that you are just not happy in this marriage. Get out. don't let your husband bond and assume being a father with this child. If that isn't an option then have the other man (father) give up his right and have husband adopt.
2006-09-25 22:37:59 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That was a terrible thing you did. You really need to ask for God's and your husband's forgivenness. Adultery, a big sin. There is no gain in cheating no matter how you see it. Even if your husband is cheating on you, it is not enough reason to do that. What if you had contacted a std? By the time you pray, I tell you, nothing is impossible for this our great God. Forget about what is happening in the world today. God is still God.! You just said your hubby is such a nice person and you still went ahead to cheat on him. If he finds out ,he has all the reasons to do anything to you according to the bible. Again, this baby might grow up to hate you. Report yourself to God and your husband and pray! There is nothing you can do about it. it's too late to abort which is also not right. Dont allow yourself to be fooled again. Just look at yourself. It's so terrible that you dont even know who is responsible for this pregnancy. Your so called lover will only end up destroying your marriage and go scot free. Be very wise.!
2006-09-25 22:28:44 · answer #3 · answered by Christy E 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a wonderful husband maybe you should tell your X lover that you were mistaken that the baby is not his-since your husband will after all be taking on the responsibilities for your child look at the child as though the baby belongs to your husband-that way it will not seem so much like a lie! Don't see your XXXXXX Lover again! I see no problem as long as your husband is so good to you!
2006-09-25 22:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
health issues first - if you don't need a transplant or blood transfusion for the child - all is peachy keen
honesty issues - it's never a good idea to lie to your partner. That's why they are called 'partners'. If hubby is less than a partner, of course (i.e. someone who simply takes care of you) then lie like a rug and raise lil Timmy as hubby's. If he's a true partner - you need to be honest with him and handle the consequences.
2006-09-25 22:11:52 · answer #5 · answered by denniscatchain 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wont condem you because the damage is done n cant turn back the hands of time i know if you could you would yet i dont have advice for u coz i dont advocate for arbotion neither would i tell u to tell ur husband what really happened so just kick your lovers behind n assume the baby is your husbands.
2006-09-25 22:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all i would get in writing from the man who got you pregnant,that he doesnt want anything to do with baby,and you both agree on this,also get it notorized.Now if your husband is aware of this baby is not his,i would go and raise it like it was.Also i would go and worship the ground your husband walks on because not many husbands would be so loving .
2006-09-25 22:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by shepardman1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really ****** up didn't you?
Just another cheating, deceiptful person who carries no guilt while getting porked by someone other than your husband.
Too many people like that in the world.
2006-09-25 22:07:56 · answer #8 · answered by Obsean 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
R U sure it's from ur lover and not ur husband?! if it's so, abors and have another kid by ur husband!
2006-09-25 22:36:27 · answer #9 · answered by marjan m 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dont believe you will hold up to your promise to yourself, you have a sex problem and it will happen again, the crystal ball says so
2006-09-25 22:08:40 · answer #10 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋