I wonder because I like to be nice to people. But it seems that when I'm nice to girls, by talking to them, laughing, enjoying conversation, once they realize I'm married, it could be considered a bad thing to do. Some may feel I'm flirting. But I treat everyone, guys, girls, old people, young people, all with the same niceness. When I used to flirt when dating, I get right to the point & make it very clear that I'm flirting, & with an obvious purpose. But many may think I'm flirting by just being nice.
& I don't want to have to feel I should treat women any differently than anyone else, I feel I should be nice to everyone all the same.
Has anyone else had this problem? And what is the line between being nice and flirting? Explain your situation with it, I'm curious to know.
It seems as if this all varies from person to person, and so someone out there is gonna feel that your flirting, and someone else may think your just being nice when you really ARE flirting.
Thoughts?
2006-09-25 21:58:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
cupidgirl - Hahaha. Thats funny and true.
2006-09-25 22:24:57 · update #1
silversta... - Thats what worries me.
2006-09-25 22:25:56 · update #2
Warrior - Hahaha, well said.
2006-09-25 22:27:34 · update #3
leviosa - That makes sense. And sorry about that answer I gave at the end. I just wanted to put out my thoughts and then hear what you guy/gals thoughts were as well.
2006-09-25 22:29:14 · update #4
Hope Dollar - the "put on your ring" and "shift back to avoid invade of personal space" remark is classic. I forgot some guy take off their rings. It'd be hilarious to do a dramatic football dodge the tackle move when a girl gets too close. haha
2006-09-25 22:32:48 · update #5
Well... if a girl or woman is attracted to you, your being nice might look to her like you are flirting. You know sometimes it's just wishfull thinking. You should be aware of that, I know you don't mean it bad but well... it can be a bit confusing to women, don't you think?
2006-09-25 22:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by silverstarlightfairy99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem; some men think I am flirting when I am only being friendly. There is a difference though; YOU know when you're flirting. If the other person thinks you are when you aren't then that's their problem. Saying things that can be interpreted in a sexual way is flirting; being nice isn't.
2016-03-27 10:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
There is what we call "Moral gestures"
1.Instead of hugging women, just give a hand.
2. Use a language that will make them know that you are not really interested in them.If you use words that you know women fall for, stop using them.
3. Laugh or smile like a grand-dad to a grand-daughter...Your laugh should not be suggestive!
4. Maintain a distance when you talk to them.
5. Put your ring on.
6. Do not behave like an unmarried man.An married man is not suppose to be having dinners and breakfasts with other ladies.If it's business, ask someone to join you or let someone handle it or do it in your office.
An married man is not suppose to keep saying words that he knows ladies would love to hear from a man to other women.
7. Avoid touching them.Those who try to invade your personal space, just shift aback.
8. Let the women around you know that you are married.If really you have no seductive motives in your heart, let them know that you are married and you love your wife.
Hug!
2006-09-25 22:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Hope Dollar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are fortunate to possess good communication skills and a level of comfort that allow you to be sociable.
I am accused of flirting a great deal.
I think of flirt as being nice - but overly complementing someones looks or desireability and availability for social dating.
Being nice: Victoria, that dress brings out the blue in your eyes. It looks very nice on you.
Flirting: Baby you look so hot in that dress...I need to dowse myself in ice water just THINKING about you *wearing* that dress. You look good girl!
2006-09-25 22:04:21 · answer #4 · answered by Warrior 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for some , it is hard to distinguish between the two. i don't have that problem because nobody ever flirts with me, but a lot of people are really nice and i'll take that any time.
2006-09-25 22:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres a fine line between being nice and flirting when interacting with the opposite sex.Just keep the smiles to a minimum.
2006-09-25 22:01:46 · answer #6 · answered by clove83zm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you post a question and seems you also post an answer.
yes, i think it varies from person to person. like if your a handsome looking guy, most of the girls would like to have your attention and if ever you talk to one of them nicely as you can, they may think you're flirting with them. and because they want your attention, they usually assume that you are flirting with them.
2006-09-25 22:07:55 · answer #7 · answered by leviosa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
who cares what people think- be who you are. of course, women have this problem a lot. you cant even make eye contact w/ a man w/out him making his way over & trying to hit on you.but then if you dont interact , you're a b****.
2006-09-25 22:01:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You and your conscience alone know the difference. If you don't have any ulterior motives for being nice like that, carry on.
2006-09-25 22:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by peaceman 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the difference is the intentions is all
2006-09-25 22:01:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋