This is for those who are happily married and would NEVER cheat. You have NO DESIRE to cheat at all and you won't, but there is an infatuation you unexpectedly get from this person that you don't even want to feel. They're attractive both inside and out, and in many ways, they're another version of your spouse. And like the good person you are, you do nothing to lead the person on, and make sure your nothing but friends at the most.
Thought this was an interesting question to ask. Thoughts??
By the way, I think we sometimes meet people like this throughout our lives, but because your already taken by the one for you, you 're not going to ever cheat. I think you have an incredibly strong and real bond with the one you love if you can confidentally be yourself around these kinds of people and never cross lines. I think a real love no matter what the conditions, means you will never cheat.
This question is just to read some of your experiences on this. Thought it'd be fun.
2006-09-25 21:40:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
bee87 - Sorry, I didn't mean to lead you to think that I thought this only happened to married people.
2006-09-25 21:43:58 · update #1
Timberlie - "sigh* yes... I let go of that Greek God and went home to my Geek God." HAHAHA!!! Well said.
2006-09-25 22:13:09 · update #2
enraegedf... - Makes sense and I agree that happens to many who have something wrong in they're marrage. But thats not always the case. There are many perfectly happily married people out there who run into someone who is a turn on.
It's like saying, if you're already eating the perfect dessert, that your taste buds would never be turned on by the other grand dessert at the other table. Your perfectly happy with the dessert you have, you just happen to like the other dessert as well, but you WANT the one and only dessetr you have now. It that doesn't mean your going to go over there and eat the other. And theirs nothing wrong with your relationship with your perfect dessert.
2006-09-25 22:20:57 · update #3
mindbende... - About your last statement, agreed. It's all about your feelings from each other. I'm suprised that a piece of paper has even ever become such a big deal anyway for many people.
2006-09-26 08:26:53 · update #4
Yes this has happened to me before. And like you said the other person was another version of my hubby, and there was light flirtation but nothing happened. I never will cheat no matter what, but it's nice to have this tingling feeling related to a new attraction back once in a while
2006-09-25 21:46:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There have been two times in my married life of 37 years that there was another woman who I had feelings for. Only because she was a very tender hearted and lovable person. I have never flirted with her so she doesn't know it but that to me is proof that a person CAN love more than one at a time. One was a lady I knew in night school for a couple of years when we had overlapping classes. The other was a lady I work with. Both of them were very friendly caring individuals and were easy to like. They inspired me with their kindness and I guess feelings just follow that. Neither of them know I care for them in anyway other then as sisters because I would not allow myself to break my promise to be faithful to my wife. It must show, because there are several ladies at church who are occasionally comfortable giving hugs to both the wife and I. If there was anything sexual or physically intimidating about me, I doubt any of those ladies would be willing to get that close to me. Long ago, I developed the attitude that all women are to be treated with the same respect I want other men to give my sister.
Being faithful to ones spouse has little to do with some scratchings on a piece of paper, it is an attitude of commitment.
2006-09-25 22:16:38 · answer #2 · answered by mindbender - seeker of truth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have found through my first marriage and the one I'm in now that when I have had attractions to ppl like the one you described it was time to take a close look at my relationship because something was terribly wrong. Usually I would realize it was something that had been going on for quite a while and had slowly gained momentum. Ex. my ex was involved in bands and began going to practices quite frequently. Our sex life declined, and basically we weren't spending quality bonding time together but it happened so slowly I didn't notice how little we really saw eachother. Another incident of this attraction thing happening was at a time where I had gained some weight and wasn't feeling like I was as attractive to my ex as I wanted to be.
I think most frequently this happens when something is wrong or needs to be improved in the marriage. I just look at it like a symbol that it's time for a tune up. I always find once the "thing" is fixed the attractive person is not loking so attractive anymore.
Good luck!
2006-09-25 21:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by enraegedfreak 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
*sigh* yes... I let go of that Greek God and went home to my Geek God.
Its was either a night of passion or a life time of security.
I often kick my *** about it still...but oh well.
Ive made my bed and now I must lie in it.
2006-09-25 21:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by timberleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is tempted- we are human- but we don't have to follow through with it. We aren't animals.
2006-09-25 21:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the time but that's just life you don't have to be married to feel this either
2006-09-25 21:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have loads of times but never did thank god
2006-09-25 22:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by stephen d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes yes but never did
2006-09-25 21:42:17 · answer #8 · answered by loca16_4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is tempted!
2006-09-25 21:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can resist anything, except temptation
2006-09-25 21:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋