I've been with this guy for almost 2 yrs. I'm 24 and he's 20. I was also his first EVERYTHING!! Now he has a problem with me talking to ex's. There an ex for a reason, right!!
He also thinks that I was a slut when I was younger because of the age I was when I lost my virginity and the # of guys I've "been" with. Not that many btw and I was 14, with the guy a year and total of 3yrs.
So is it his lack of experiance thats the problem? Or is it he cant handle my past because he doesnt have one?
2006-09-25 20:44:01 · 17 answers · asked by racha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hear alot of you saying dont tell him about all of my past. He's lived 2 doors down from me for 10 years. He saw my past. I didnt have to tell him anything. He knew before he asked me out.
2006-09-26 19:55:49 · update #1
we are born, we have a past, even if that past if only one minute..... you are who you are because of that past, good , bad, or indifferent..... ppl change because of things past...... it shapes and molds us.... so dont let anyone tell you that a past is something to be ashamed of.... even the bad from it makes us better IF we learn from it and grow..... what is there to handle ? can it be changed ? can it be taken away ? NO NO NO... so you need to ask this young man one thing...... Does the past take away from who he sees and loves ?? God bless
2006-09-25 20:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two problems. You were attracted to those guys once and still could be at some level...I’ve gone back out with exes and so have lots of people so that’s on you as far as that goes. I don’t know about just talking or what but if he has a problem with it there may be a good reason why.
With him having a problem with you past that’s what it is the past if he can’t let it stay there then he needs to be there to. That being said he is probably more than a little bit threatened by the fact that you have more experience and he might not be as good or something.......get a couples guide to awesome sex or something similar and go through it with him if that’s the case...you need to sit down and talk about both of these problems with him.
2006-09-25 21:11:43 · answer #2 · answered by Bill O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is one of the fall backs to not waiting- anyone you have had sex with is there to be compared to him-he may think about that -also you all are sharing the same bacteria, viruses and disease- not very romantic is it? Usually girls are much more mature than guys and develop earlier-Since it has been 2 years- I would think he might be over it- maybe he feels like sex is something so very intimate and special- it should not be taken lightly or like a hand shake-it can't be undone- learn from your mistakes- and don't tell every detail about your past.D
2006-09-25 21:02:02 · answer #3 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's one of the biggest carnal sins in the relationship game, NEVER NEVER tell a guy how many you have slept with or any of the gory details related to it. They can't deal with it. Its kinda along the same line as fathers never want to hear their daughters are sexually active. They just can't get the image out of their heads.
STOP telling him stuff. You may still be able to save the relationship.
2006-09-25 20:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure about your relationship, he knows you are much better at sex than he is and he responds to this threat to his ego by trying to put you down and feel bad about yourself. Sex is not a "bad" thing. It's a great thing, and why the **** should you not enjoy it? Tell him his attitude is immature and out of line, not to mention unattractive.
You are no slut, but if you were - it's none of his business.
2006-09-25 20:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Rock On I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your past is not that big of a deal. He is insecure because you have more experience. He thinks you are comparing him to others. If he can't get over it, you may have to move on.
BTW, take it from someone much older (me), your current boyfriend never has to hear about your past. It is none of his business.
2006-09-25 20:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can't handle your past because he obviously doesn't feel special. You've already shared the experience with a bunch of other people before you did with him.
2006-09-25 20:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I presume you are in India.
: - )
If yes, I think men in India at 20 are very immature and still kids.
So,
firstly you should'nt have told him about your past, as he is not mature enough to handle it.
secondly, possible he is possessive and scared of his swaping places with your ex..... in your life.
so, if you love him and want him.... give him a long handle and have patience.
PLUS
Introduce him gently to your ex... and try and make them, if not friends, aquantiances atleast, so that he no longer takes your ex as a threat.
: - )
2006-09-26 01:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by Explore_Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same problem with me sweeti...but my exgf was a slut....and i changed her.i hated it when she talked to her exez..cuz it made me think...im here 2..you can tell me anything..why does it have to be your ex?
you love this guy i know...but most guys are like this..his still young and because you were his first..he is really protective over you. in time he will understand...you cant always push him cuz that will lead to fights..hes gotta find it himself to grow up..knowing that your past is your past..you both cant change anything...as long as you both love each other and wont hurt one another than you guys will live happali evah aftaH
2006-09-25 20:55:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants a future with you, tell him to let go of the past. It only messes up the present.
2006-09-25 20:48:37 · answer #10 · answered by danaluana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋