2006-09-25 19:43:28 · 8 answers · asked by Tiffany G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Forgiveness has more to do with who you are than who is right. Your forgiveness should be given not for the sake of anyone but you and your heart.
Just because you forgive someone does not make they're wrong right...it simply means you forgive them at they're time of wrong doing..doesn't mean you will accept this forgiveable/unforgiveable action to continue
GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS
2006-09-25 19:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by JEM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like we have more than a disagreement over opininions or facts here, but that we are speaking of some action that is involved also. When you are deeply hurt by something someone says or does, that can be the hardest time to forgive, It is really pretty simple to forgive someone you do not care about for something that does not matter to you, no matter who is right or wrong. It is your desire for an apology that is hanging you up.
Yes, you can and do forgive people who are wrong. There are not many instances when we forgive people who are right. I sense a battle of wills going on maybe, perhaps a bit of a power struggle. Why is being right the criteria here? Why is an apology so mandatory? Usually neither one is. You are simply willing to forgive the other party no matter what, or you are not. That is the case plain and simple. It is when we are hurt deep down that it ceases to be plain and simple. I would say that you need to decide how deeply you have been hurt. If it is worth going separate ways over, then by all means do so, or this will probably repeat itself. In that case you will in time forgive but not forget.
That kind of forgiveness centers around self preservation. It is a form of forgiveness though a bit limited. On the other hand, if what has hurt you really should not have, or is something you are being overly prideful about-something that when you look back on it a few days later, really was not worth going separate ways over, then I would advise that you just swallow your pride, admit to yourself that it is not such a big deal after all and forgive and forget. Forgiving and forgetting is the brand of forgiveness that comes out of true love for the other person. It is the best kind, but you will have to be the judge of which case it falls under.
2006-09-26 03:07:28 · answer #2 · answered by beverly p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you can.... you have to realize that sometimes it takes people time to come to grips with their mistakes and it's not always on your time schedule. Don't be rude, don't be selfish and don't be tackless. Do your part in making what you can right, forgive them. I'll say that part again, FORGIVE THEM and then just back off until they come back to do their part. They may or may not - either way you've done the best you could and your heart is free from the bitterness and burden of carrying it around. One thing I've learned about life is that, it's not all about "me".
Why did they hurt me?
Why did they lie to me?
I deserve an answer!
I deserve better!
When you can step outside of the "me" - you find a great peace.
2006-09-26 03:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by skevans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly forgive must be sincere face to face and mind. If you never done bad you have right deserve an apology till the person admit or never forgive.
2006-09-26 02:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by yilan s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, hold out for your apology. Prove u r right and say u feel that u deserve an apology.
Its not fair.
2006-09-26 02:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by chanD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once in a blue moon. But Im stubborn and hold my ground. In addition, it depends on how serious the issue at hand is.
2006-09-26 02:56:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You either forgive them you don't, you can't have conditions.
2006-09-26 02:45:34 · answer #7 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, we can if our hearts permit us to;
2006-09-26 02:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋