after 32 yrs of marriage, my dad cheated on my mum. After 4 yrs of dating,7 mths to my wedding, i discover that my bf's a player.
Why do men, the very ones that we trust and depends on cheat on us?
2006-09-25 19:39:39 · 23 answers · asked by hilda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Men need more variety and more frequently, They dont cheat their partner intentionally
2006-09-25 19:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by soofi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both men and women cheat, in approximately equal numbers. So don't start thinking that all men are cheats. They are no better and no worse than women.
People cheat because there is something wrong in their relationship, and they are too weak to do the right thing and break up honestly. Just because your mother - and you - were happy, doesn't mean that your men were happy. Two people can have very different views of the same relationship. In particular, a wife can often be oblivious to problems, because the fulfilment she gets from her children more than makes up for anything lacking in the relationship with her husband.
In your father's day, people stayed together in marriage no matter what, because society looked down on people who divorced. So the fact is, your Dad may have been suffering in silence for years and years, and has only just got desperate enough to do something about it.
As for your own relationship, there are a few possible scenarios.
One is, your bf is a player at heart, and has never been true to you from the start.
Another is, that you were never really well suited. People often fall madly in love because they are physically attracted to each other, and that has nothing whatsoever to do with how well matched they are. When the initial physical attraction wears off - which takes about 2 years - they may actually have very little in common. One or other partner - or both - must make big compromises to keep the relationship going, and it's only possible to do that for so long before they wake up and think "If I stay with this person, I'm going to have to compromise for the REST OF MY LIFE."
The timing of your bf's cheating suggests this may be a factor.
2006-09-26 03:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because their egos have decided they want something different Unfortuantly the women and their children are the ones that get hurt There are very few men who will stand by and stay true to a woman In my case my ex cheated on me and got married two months after our divorce was final While we were separated and i had to wait two weeks until i got the money to move out he moved his new girlfriend in (the one he is married to) I dont know why men do this some take all our hearts chew them up and spit it out Just remember that its not your fault and if your forgive but not forget you can move on and be a happier person without the cheater in your life you deserve better AS for your mother i am sorry that it happened to her I hope you can both get through this
2006-09-26 02:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by evillynn8098 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a man will try my best to explain it There this urge in us that males us wanna hump every pretty girl but when we meet a girl we like we fight it or push it to the side when we meet a pretty girl who we really do love. that urge is still waiting for it's chance to arise. After we are with the girl for awhile everything becomes too normal and some times we get weak a fine girl flirts and that urge laughs and says "about time".
2006-09-26 02:50:26 · answer #4 · answered by Stargrave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear this. You must remember the most important fact on this:
IT HAS TO DO WITH THEY'RE OWN INSECURITIES!!
Don't let this get you believing that all men you trust will do the same. It truly is men like that ...that give the good ones a bad name...
Hope you look for the more confident type in the future...and one you truly can be friends with first...
GOOD LUCK and GOD BLESS!
2006-09-26 02:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by JEM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are Pigs, my husband cheated on me after 3 years of marriage, Vows mean nothing anymore to people without morals...
2006-09-26 02:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because men you don't trust are never given the chance to cheat on you.
2006-09-26 02:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People said, Love is just like fishing, if you don't put any bait, you will never catch a fish, but does not meant the better bait you have, the bigger fish you will catch. Some people even ended losing their best bait but at the end did not catch any fish. So, to enjoy fishing, just put your bait and don't expect to catch any fish. To love is an fortune, for someone who don't treasure it, it's their loss, other will appreciate it one day.
2006-09-26 02:53:07 · answer #8 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not every men do like that.Only your dad n your b/f who do this 2 u n your mom.But u are more lucky than your mom b'cos u know it early than your mom.U know why b'cos men always like fresh n young women.So u have 2 fine out what really happen.
2006-09-26 04:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fidelity is difficult for men to keep, also depend on circumstance; Men feel boring and want something different
2006-09-26 02:47:23 · answer #10 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋