My friend's boss addresses her as "hey beautiful" when he calls in for messages or asks her to do something. She feelsl uncomfie and doesnt know what to say.
2006-09-25 19:23:18 · 28 answers · asked by Eileen S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Is it appropriate for him to be callng her that or is s he paranoid.
2006-09-25 19:24:04 · update #1
no its not
2006-09-25 19:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Courts tend to find that merely telling an employee that she is beautiful or addressing her as "Hey, beautiful!" does not constitute sexual harassment.
Without anything more, it isn't considered sexual harassment. It IS, however, inappropriate, as we are to assume a certain level of formality and respect in the workplace.
Your friend really needs to tell her boss to stop if it's making her uncomfortable. It's entirely possible that he is a goon who just can't see the error of his ways. If she is not comfortable speaking to him in person, maybe she can leave a written message for him.
2006-09-25 19:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Apple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it's not sexual harrassment. Only when your boss use extreme or beneath the line words, that's the time when you can call it a form of harrassment.
2006-09-25 19:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the context. But if he said "Sure" that signals that he would be a willing participant, which indicates that it wouldn't be harassment, since part of the definition is "Unwanted sexual advancement". What disturbs me most is that you would be willing to motorboat his moobs. That just seems wrong!
2016-03-27 10:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very gray area. especially if he is a grewat deal older than the female. Men who are now in their 60s often refer to to females whom they feel protective of as beautiful or sis or hun. There is NOTHING sexual about these terms. as a matter of fact they are showing a great deal of respect. Lets quit looking for excuses to sue someone and start looking for ways to better out jobs and the enviroment around us. Please and Thank you and a smile also go a long way.
2006-09-25 19:33:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it's a kind of harassment, but that don't mean your friend couldn't tell her boss about her uncomfortable feelings.
Her boss might even think she likes being called this way if she doesn't say anything.
2006-09-25 19:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by Wenjie Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that your if your friend isn't comfortable with his approach to her, she should tell him something like.." I would prefer if you called me by (her name ).....he could just be giving her a compliment or maybe he is a nick name type of person and that is what he has chosen for her. I do have to say that if he gets more comfortable with her physically or even verbally then it is defiantly harassment.
2006-09-25 19:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by Latasha G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual harassment is harassment or unwelcome attention of a sexual nature. It includes a range of behavior from mild transgressions and annoyances to serious abuses which can even involve forced sexual activity. (Dziech et al 1990, Boland 2002) Sexual harassment is considered a form of illegal discrimination, and is a form of abuse (sexual and psychological) and bullying.
It has been suggested that the term "sexual harassment" was coined in 1974 at Cornell University, (Patai, pp. 17-19), however, it was the United States Supreme Court confirmation hearing of Clarence Thomas, and Anita Hill's testimony, that brought the issue to national attention in the U.S. For many businesses, preventing sexual harassment, and defending its managerial employees from sexual harassment charges, have become key goals of legal decision-making. In contrast, many scholars complain that sexual harassment in education remains a "forgotten secret," with educators and administrators refusing to admit the problem exists in their schools, or accept their legal and ethical responsibilities to deal with it. (Dziech, 1990)
2006-09-25 19:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by mongo_wood 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if he gives his rightful opinion that you are beautiful, No, however if he calls you by the nick name 'beautiful' and you have asked him not to ,perhaps.
he could say hey ugly,hey fish lips,hey bottom feeder,etc
or if you treat a common compliment with such detest he might find out and fire you for being a person without common sense as no good company wants stupid employees over reacting.
2006-09-25 19:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by steveshoardhouse 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on his tone. If it makes her uneasy, then she should ask him to stop. If he persists, and he does not sound demeaning, I doubt she should make a big fuss out of it. Calling someone "beautiful" is a lot more flattering than some other things he could call her.
2006-09-25 19:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by DLUVDAIMPERIAL 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just tell her to ask him to call her by her name. Its a little inappropriate, but as long as he isnt touching her or hitting on her or something, its not enough to report him on, and risk her job. Just tell her to say "Thats really flattering, but my name's ------. I wouldnt want the co-workers to think we were dating or something! haha" Tell her to make a joke out of it at first, and if he keeps on she can get serious.
2006-09-25 19:27:15 · answer #11 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋