Has anyone ventured into the "Swing-Lifestyle", that is willing to comment/share their "experiences"?

Answer 1

We've been in the Lifestyle now for several years. There are so many experiences and things that have happened and wonderful people we have met that it's just too much to write here.

We will tell you about a couple of our experiences. One of them occurred in Cancun at a swingers resort. We ended up down on the beach with another couple and it was a perfect evening. The four of us were there, naked, bodies rubbing against each other, touching, soft moans, the moonlight shining on our bodies, light music from the resort, the smell of the salt air mixed with sex, a gentle breeze, and the waves crashing behind us. It was like an orgy for all of our senses.

Another occurred at a local club. I sat down on a sofa and started talking to two women. My hubby started talking to the other husbands who were standing next to the sofa. Eventually, another couple came and joined us, the woman on the sofa, and the man standing. And another came, and another. Eventually there were 8 women on the sofa. And the closer we got to each other, the more clothing came off. So, eventually, there were 8 naked women on a sofa sitting very close together touching each other. And things just got crazier from there.

If you'd like to talk to us about more of the things we've done, we'd be happy to tell you and if you have any questions, we'll answer them for you.

Answer 2

we started out about a year ago. first evening was in a club in paris and although we didn't play with any other people we had a fanstastic time together. both of us where buzzing about it for days afterwards and we have been back a few times more.

its a little bit surreal - like watching a movie that is happening to someone else. not sleezy at all (although some places are if thats what you are after). We cant imagine how any couple would not enjoy a place like this.

we also find it nice to see older couples still enjoying there time with each other and playing erotically. Its nice to see after so many years they can still have fun so something for us to look forward to.

you have got to find the right place or people to swing with. We have tried a few other clubs and they dont have the right atmosphere or type of people. I think this is the most important thing. but there is never any pressure to do anything and if you dont like the place you just leave.

Answer 3

I might be willing to but not on here !

Answer 4

I'm hoping that you are asking this question because you are curious about starting into the lifestyle but are unsure of how to go about it or what to think of it....

I just literally wrote the following answer, in response to another question, and then after I was finished, I realized the question I was in was mediocre and notvery heartfelt, and I just didn't want to waste my thoughts, which I really worked to put into text, on that question. So I searched and found this question, and although its not exactly what I was typing in reference too, it very well might hold a lot of key information you are looking for, and if I can help someone out thats serious, all the better. Thats what this place is about. Here was my answer to a question about threesomes/swinging which was specifically in reference to a single female joining them. I chose to answer the question as a holistic summary of going into swinging of all kinds in general. That question never got my answer......
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Its relatively tough to pull off, and even tougher to do it successfuklly where a good time is had by all three. Finding a woman who

A) You find attractive
B) Your partner finds attractive
C) Finds You Attractive
D) Finds Your partner Attractive
and
E) Is willing to have sex with the both of you

.....is a daunting task to say the least. My wife and I were 21 when we made the conscious decision to try getting into "The lifestyle" as its known within the more organized groups designed to be meeting hubs for swingers. It took us 2 full years of studying and fruitless (and less-then-entirely-confident we'd ever make it happen) searching before our first MFF (male, female, female) experience practically fell into our laps....

I'll save you the details of the story on how we even made things "go down" that first time, because its nearly unbelievable, and really long to type. But, long story short, ever since our first time, (which we were successful enough in to gain some confidence and in turn use that confidence to our benefit,) we have been pretty well immersed in that lifestyle. Sometimes more so for a year or two, sometimes less so, as far as actively seeking out other women and couples, but we've been doing it long enough to tell you a few things. These are as close to facts as opinions get, so listen up if you're serious. This is not going to be the quick-make-it-happen solution. This is how you do it right, and prepare properly so its actually something you can enjoy when it happens..... There are quite a few things to consider... They are:

A) Do your research first. Not just a day or a weekend spent horny looking at semi-porn semi-informative material. I'm talking start today and maybe in 6 months you'll have a good idea of what to expect and how to go about doing it the way that best suits you. Join a message board, or a swingers site, or both. Get books on the lifestyle, ask questions in newbie sections of partner swapping sites. Find out everything you can.

B) Use a website to network, meet people, make friends, ask questions. We have tried 4 different ones, and the most important advice I have is this; find a GOOD PAY SITE. Free sites are loaded with nothing but a waste of your time. If you're more eager to hang onto the extra 20 bucks a month most good sites cost, then its not that important to you. And thats preceisely the type of people you meet in free sites. I highly, highly recommend www.lifestylelounge.com as a superb resouce for information, people, and a lot of fun stuff to get into while you're learning the ropes, the slang, the etiquette, etc. It's by far the best of the 4 pay sites we have used over the years. Stay away from Adult Friend Finder. Just trust me.

C) Now for the stuff that you need to think about a little harder, with your head and not your sex-hormones. You need to be secure in your relationship. Big time. You need to have utter trust in each other, and a confidence about YOURSELF and your importance in the relationship that will endure through and conquer the propensity towards jealousy that so many people think won't be there, but actually it is in all its green eyed glory the first time something starts happening, or more frequently, after its over. Somebody enjoys themself too much, somebody doesn't, somebody felt left out or like they were the third wheel even though they were in bed with their own partner.... Consider all this stuff and every little nuance of your relationship with all people involved to decide if its a good idea.

D) Enjoy the time you spend researching the lifestyle first, and seeking another woman to take to bed with you. The research and reading and interaction via the web with others, the anticipation, and racy little thoughts you can share with your partner are 50% of the fun before the first time it happens. Share your deepest fantasies with your partner about what you want to watch another person do to THEM. Its very important that everyone know that there is a very real fantasy that involves their partner being satisfied by another person. If you can't get off thinking about your partner with someone else while you sit idle for a few moments taking in the act, you might as well back out now. Once you've shared your fantasies with each other about what you want to see them doing with someone else, then its OK to share your own about yourself and other people, or all three or four of you doing something together, etc.

E) Never be ashamed, never make someone else feel bad, never do anything insulting, and never make a derogatory comment about anyone while getting to know, or getting naked with another person. Anything not implicitly sexy is a turn off, and compliments and playful, sexy talk is good but keep the really filthy stuff to a minimum until you are as comortable with the new person/people as you are with good friends.

F) A larger number of men then will admit get performance anxiety from time to time, but its especially common the first time they embark on this new experience, because they feel so much pressure stepping up to the place with several people waiting. The only way this can be overcome is gentle reassurance about it not being an issue, and doing something over-the-top sexy and calming to avert their mind from the only thing they can think of.... Their flaccidness. This isn't something that happens to every guy every first time, but its a safe bet to say guys might not even get it if they knew how many of their peers were having the same issues. They know its temporary, but that doesn't help "at the moment"...

G) Be respectful, all the time.

H) Don't set "rules" on who can do what with whom, always play in the same room together, and other then basics like "use protection" don't set limits or prohibit the free exploration that you worked so hard to achieve. Limits suck, they don't work, they were meant to be broke, and if one person is really into them, and the other secretly hates the idea, when the hormones get flowing the truth will come out.

I) Communication is absolutely, positively, undeniably EVERYTHING to making this work.

J) Let your friends know your interests, (but only if you trust them implcitly. )You never know who might be dying to hear you share something like this verbally because they've been shy. Our first single female fling together was an old high school friend of mine I ran into out of nowhere after 5 years, and 3 weeks later we were all enjoying complete decadence. This was the last girl in the world I'd have thought would be into what we were seeking.

K) Finally, prepare for two reactions from friends; jealousy, or jealousy with a smug attitude because they are convinced your relationship can't hold up to the pressure of what you are attempting to undertake. And they have every right to assume that, (although they could hold the smugness) because statistcally, if you two start to have sex with a third person, or more in bed with you, you will be breaking up some time, and won't be a lasting relationship. Merely statistics of course, but its very, very rare for a couple to withstand all the emotions and rumors and thoughts that accompany what you want to do.

Finally, hopefully you aren't scared to death by what I've said: If you make it happen somehow (if you have no friends off the bat and are real serious, pay site is the way to go... read the site FAQ, etiquette, etc before you barge in asking questions) enjoy it. Its not many folks that get to say thye did it. Everyone wants too. But the numbers with whom it happens are far smaller. Sex with a group, even a group of just 3, can be unbelievably exhilarating. If it happens for you, enjoy it.

Peace.

Answer 5

apparently not..