me and my hubby r short tempered. the style of his criticizing me starts from dirty language and shoutings. when he does this, i keep my patience for sum 15-20 mins. n if hez still on, and its not my fault, i wanna defend, and when i start defending, he grows wild. on sunday, he lost his temper and beat me for an hour. he is fat and strong, the way he beats it really hurts. that too i nfront of my kid. he then realises his mistake and tries to take me to lunch and buy me stuff. still ioif i feel little bad and am unbable to come out of it, coz i am physically and mentally hurt, he loses his temper again. he insulted me, my parents, and beat me o nthe road, pinched me and asked me to say sorry or else he cud do anything. it wasnt big fault. but i was so badly hurt, i said him sorry. he then stopped. bought me and my kid icecream.cried a little and said that he cant control his temper.so i shudnt provoke him and argue with him. nor make silly mistakes.this hapns every 15days.wat do i do?
2006-09-25 18:56:56 · 14 answers · asked by smiling_smiles2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my hubby told me that if i left him, he wud not give me kid watever happened. he cud do anything for it. i am very worried of my kid.
2006-09-25 19:10:51 · update #1
thank u. i thot i was making a mistake by telling this to any1 and taking a step 2 leave coz i dint want my daughter to grow with 1 parent.but i m now building up enough courage to think its ok to take this step.
2006-09-25 19:37:26 · update #2
i think you should call the asylum...
2006-09-25 18:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by Inquirer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Apologize Ahead Of Time For My Language, But I Don't Give A F*ck What This Guy Does To Try To Make Up For His Mistakes, He's Wrong, And Needs To Be Corrected. I Understand If He Did It Once And Repented Forever, But Constantly? No. F*ck That. Not In My Book. Move Out, And Find A Better Life. Even If You Don't Want To, You Have To. Do You Want Your Kid Growing Up Thinking It's OK To Do What Your Husband Does??? Obviously, The Guy Doesn't Care! He Has No True Shame Or Even Shows Any Sign Of Changing His Ways. If He Really Cares About You, He'll Seek Rehabilitation In An Anger Management Class. Your His Wife, And You Have All Rights To Take Such An Action As Forcing Him To Get Help Thru The Authorities. Otherwise, Seek A Higher Power That Can Protect You And Your Kid, And Help You Out This Situation.
2006-09-26 02:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Can't Make A Good Avatar!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to take flight and get out of this abusive relationship, ASAP. It will not bring any good to your life; in fact it could result in your death. If you have a daughter you wouldn’t want her to grow up and end up in a similar relationship but if you stay in this clearly abusive situation that is very likely to happen. If you have a son you wouldn’t want him to think its ok to abusive beat up woman would you?, but again something that could likely happen. Unless you set the example and get out now.
You can leave with your child in the middle of the night or pick your kid up from school and check into a hotel under an assumed name , even go to a family member. After such you need to contact an attorney so you can
Get a restraining Order for you and your child, Press charges and file for a divorce and soley custody of your child
I know its hard but there are places that can help you, you just have to be brave and take the first step.
2006-09-26 02:29:24 · answer #3 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was abused for 16 years. my husband did the same thing. when he realised what he did he would be so sorry and would try to make it up to me.The last beating was the worst, he kicked me all around the bedroom like I was a piece of **** and threatened to kill me. I had done nothing wrong, he was just drunk and on pain pills. The neighbors heard me screaming and called the police and he was arreseted. They put a resraining order on him and wasn't allowed to call me or come near me. This was 6 years ago. I am single and I'm very happy now without a man in my life. There is peace in my home now!
2006-09-26 02:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by susan_112147 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is easy no matter what you have choices and the choice is not to be beaten and abuse mentally and phsically and not in front of child all you are teaching the child is this is it is o.k to hit and then get things you want. I was beaten and abuse enough was enough I went to a battered women shelter and it save my life now i help others and I own my own business. DOn't stay unless you want to not come out of this do what is right by you child if anything else
2006-09-26 02:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be blunt, but if you don't want to be a punch bag for the rest of your life then you have to leave him, one day he may start on your kid. Are you willing to stand by and let this happen?? Get out go to your family or a shelter, nest time he may kill you, he is unable to control himself. Your husband has no right to touch you, please for the safety of your child get out of there, while you still can!!
2006-09-26 02:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a marriage counselor and a psychiatrist, and the police. What a mess. We cannot help you here. Seek profesisonal help NOW before it's too late, which it sounds like it almost is. And expect that DCFS will pay you a visit too if you report this.
2006-09-26 01:59:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl lock his *** up,he is going to kill you in front of your kids,that *** houl is not worth staying with,do you really need him,get out go to a shelter girl after locking him up, if you stay your going to die.you won't be able to in joy those sorry gifts.if igot out with six kids you can to.you don't need no one to disrespect you and kids &parents.call 911 when he goes to store or to sleep,he dont care,he got another ***** that why he is acting like is your fault,so he wont feel guilty.please email me at marialntn@yahoo.com.im up ok.
2006-09-26 02:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by marie d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. do it for yourself and your child. go to the police. do not let him do this to you, you only live once so why would you want to spend your time with someone that doesnt care about you or your well being? stand up for yourself, do something about it before it gets out of hand and he kills you.
2006-09-26 02:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by ashbee1669 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize you love this man, so you need to decide if you are strong enough to leave him. If so, then you need to start saving money. One day, he WILL hit your child, maybe when you're not watching. Your life will be better when you're with another man who does not hit you.
2006-09-26 02:03:19 · answer #10 · answered by neff_crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two either need to go to a therapist or break up.
And remember,
Your kids are the one's paying for everything.
2006-09-26 02:00:53 · answer #11 · answered by heather47374 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋