My boyfriend doesnt express (say out what he feels)? what can i do?

Answer 1

Your question is a bit vague so it's hard to give an informed response.

However, I'll hazard a guess and interpret his lack of expression to mean he does not express or open himself to you emotionally.

If my guess is right, you can do one of 5 things

1. Badger him about it a lot - this will only serve to make him more quiet or

2. Let him be an understand that we all express ourselves differently, in our own time & way.

3. Let him have a taste of his own medicine. Be like a mirror, reflect only the image in front of you, show nothing of your self for a while & see how he responds.

4. All of the above

5. None of the above, get yourself a more expressive man!!!!

Answer 2

c not all human being response and express thr feelings d same way.. let me make this clear 2 u that some people think that words makes feeling useless i mean when u say u lose d real meaning cz not all people knows how 2 exactly expresshow they feel.. u love him, n dont think if he doesnt express his feelings that he doesnt love u .. that totaly wrong.. im sure he has his own ways of expressing, n i guess its more into action not words.
trust me sometimes people who express r likly 2 b happy more than others who dont so dont think he is careless or donst have feelings,

u also dont over express n just let him c how it feels when u dont get his feelings

Answer 3

Hi Im intrigued by your question because it gets to a problem I'v been thinking about. Are men and boys different from girls and women because of something they are born with or is it how they are raised. One of your answeres took one position another the opposite. So which is it? I think the only way to really tell is look at very feminine gay guys and group them into how they were raised. Look at the ones who were treated like most boys but still became feminine and look at the ones who were raised in a sissy fashion, ie treated like little girls. Than maybe we can get a clearer picture if its nature or nurture.

In the case of your boyfriend why not accept him as he is if he's nice to you. If you and he love each other and stay together, he will eventually feel comfortable enough to share his feelings with you. Also if its the little things like flowers for special occasions, etc you can use my mother's strategy. That is remind him of the event and remind him that flowers are always appropriate. If you get married and have a daughter like me (lol) than maybe your daughter will hijack her father on mom's special occasions and help dad make mom feel special and romantic. I did that recently for my mom and dad and they had a special evening. Dad bought mom flowers and some beautiful jewelry, and some really sexy lingeire for an after date treat. Yours truly lit a fire under her dad to make that happen. I hope that if that special after treat resulted in a new sibling its another girl and NOT another brother. One brother is enough for any family.

Answer 4

He talks a different love language to you and the more you press him to express it like you do, the more he will clam up. He might be the sort to internalize thoughts and only verbalize them once he has solved them, you best just leave him alone in his cave, he'll come out when he's good and ready talk to you. Don't be clingy or needy of him, don't press for answers or press for a hour long conversation it will just aggrivate him and make him pull back from wanting to open up to you. Find out his "love Language" and then use this to get more of him.

Answer 5

the male species was taught at an early age to hide how they feel. guys who expressed emotions are taught that this behavior is not "becoming" of a man or that it is not a "manly" thing to do. lets face it, parents raise their sons and daughter differently. girls are always encouraged to cry or let their feelings out and boys are taught that expressing emotion was the behavior of a sissy. when a son falls, scrapes his knee and starts to cry mother says "hey don't cry you're a big boy, boys aren't supposed to cry. but when a daughter falls she says "oh come here princess let mummy kiss it and make it better. THAT'S THE TRUTH. it starts from home.

Answer 6

There is this amazing book called, "The Five Love Languages" read it and find out how you two can communicate with each other. Men don't think emotionally and they are not as open as women are. You have to keep that in mind. God made us emotional creatures. He made us different. Patience sometimes doesn't work with men because they just aren't wired to be all mushy spill it like us. However it's manageable if you figure out how each of you "work".

Good luck.

Answer 7

1) Ask questions to help draw his feelings out.
2) Go to a professional for communication concerns.
3) Find a new BF who isn't afraid to feel & express his emotions

Answer 8

I don't think that there is a straight answer. I always found the easiest way to get someone to open up is to ask questions. But careful on the way you question, don't make them accusingly. Tell him how you feel and then see what his response is. He may be embarrased to let his feelings show, you know how some men can be.

Answer 9

dump him and get another boyfriend. make your life easier.

Answer 10

leave him be,, when he wants his feelings shared dont you think he will share them?