Is this a turnoff for females?

Question

A guy with fully masculine characteristics yet with actions that could be deemed unmanly. By this I don't mean someone who's interested in the things that females tend to be interested in, but someone who doesn't have the domineering mind that most men have. For instance, someone who hates getting into fights, doesn't want or have a "badass" attitude, makes a point to be extremely nice, etc.

Answer 1

I'm 31 and I'd have to say like in 90s when I was dating, yes the badboy image was a must. But I dunno, this day and age I think women much rather have a nice guy who respects them and respects themselves. Being a badazz is nothing but a man showing his own insercurities so he feels he has to be domineering to make up for his own lapses. I think women of this year want a strong sensitive high self esteemed man. We are tired of being treated poorly but men just t rying to boost their own egos because of their lack of self esteem. We don't need or want a man who threatens to beat another man's azz for looking at us, thats definately not a turn on anymore. A caring heart, a warm heart and a man who cares about us and all people in general is. That doesn't make you a sissy, that makes you a gentleman. And yes we will always get a thrill thinking about that badazz but you know what, they're the ones who never win now not the good guys. We've seen what these badazzes do, where they end up usually jail and where their wives or girlfriends can end up, sometimes dead. We want a dependable loving man we can count on, not one to give us a 5 min thrill and years of heartache.

Answer 2

Any well-adjusted, mature, intelligent, woman does not have interest in some sub-human moron who has a "domineering mind" (i.e., no mind), wants to get into fights, and thinks that a "bad a..s" attitude is not an indication of a low IQ or mental problems. Trust me on this one

The behaviors/thinking of the kind "fully masculine characteristics" you describe are not a flattering or accurate description of masculinity or "real men". These characteristics are the traits of an immature, poorly adjusted, ignorant, crude, individual who would hardly be considered a "real man" by any well adjusted, intelligent, woman. That's just not what "being masculine" is about.

Answer 3

Most women prefer the heavily muscled take charge macho type guy, but who cares. You only need one wife. Find someone with whom you share common interests, pay attention to her, listen to her when she talks and you will have no trouble with happiness. The macho guy is controlling, gets into fights, can't hold a job and is usually stupid. The macho man only gets the women who marry young. The college babes want a guy who is going to be a doctor or lawyer or at least has a good steady job.

Answer 4

That is totally the "nice guy" personality. Some girls dig it, some girls hate it. It just depends on what kind of girl you're talking about. It's a stereotype that most guys are "badass" and get into fights though.

Just keep in mind one of Murphy's Laws - Nice guys always finish last. But of course he was a pessimist.

Answer 5

Its ur thinking that Males are one who fights or else

But it is not true

its true that most males are dominating towards that but not all

u can take the ratio by 8:2

it doesnt mean that his nature is unmanly

Answer 6

That's what women claim they want, but what they never go for. Sorry, but women just aren't interested in nice guys except as someone to use and complain to about their a$$hole significant other.

Of course for self image sake they'll never admit it.

Answer 7

I think that is a real man - I would marry him. You are a lover not a fighter. God knows there is enough agressive people in this world and obviously humanity is not happy.

Answer 8

Most of the women I know would say you landed husband material... but what do I know?

Answer 9

i think that it wuld through up a red flag with women. a total package man. something must be wrong

Answer 10

If it exists, I would love to meet that person.