What do you think about getting married young? What do you think about pregnancy before marriage?

Question

Tell me the good and bad side to both questions.

Answer 1

I got married at 21 and hubby was 25. We've been married almost 2 years and we couldn't be happier. I think if you are mature and ready to accept the responsibilities that come along with marriage and are mature about the relationship and are really ready for it, then there is nothing wrong with marrying young. Many young men and women are more mature than men and women twice their age. However, if both partners aren't mature and ready to give the relationship/marriage all the attention and care it needs it will fail. No matter the age, marriage is a full time commitment/job, that needs to be cared for and nurtured.

About the baby thing. Well I don't see any problem with a person having a baby before they get married. However, getting married to a man/woman you don't love just because you have a child is a horrible reason to get married. The marriage will never last and will crumble when both partners realize how horrible of a mistake it was. As long as you can take care of the child and are responsible enough-financially, emotionally and physically- then there is no problem in being a single parent.

Answer 2

I think getting married young is ridiculous and not only lowers the standard of living for the girl but puts a slight disadvantage to the child should she have one- a jobless, uneducated mother may be a mother but certainly in my opinion, not the ideal role model.
I think if getting married and having kids is your first priority in life then your priorities need to be reexamined. What the hell happened to an education and a career?
What happened to the women's rights movement? What was the point to all of that if the end result is only to find that every girl's highest aspiration is to become Suzy ******* homemaker? I feel that this almost trivializes their struggle. If I were one of those women I would be insulted.

I could care less about whether or not the couple is married. Marriage is a ceremony that has no more meaning than you choose to give it.
If pregnancy is an issue then screwing off a large amount of money for a party, a dress that will only be worn once and a pretty but merely symbolic ring is almost sickeningly stupid. That money could have been more usefully spent on diapers food and clothing.
I also fail to see the point in doing so before a pregnancy as a wedding does not magically make one a fit partner or a fit parent. This practice has been perverted because it sends the message to others that everything is suddenly moral and ok because you performed a 15 minute ceremony.
A wedding doesn't put food on the table, a wedding doesn't put diapers on a child and a wedding doesn't pay the rent. In fact, it detracts from those things and does nothing but waste time, money and serve the interests of those around you. Screw their moral beliefs, for the same reasons I've already submitted- you show better morals by spending that money on a helpless child rather than a reputation which serves no more useful purpose than the marriage would.

Of course, you could always try the arguement of legal matters but for a lot less than the price of a wedding can have the legal papers drawn up by an attorney to achieve the same result.

Answer 3

If your young and you want to get married that’s great. Want to start a family before you get married and you can provide a stable live for the child all the power to you. My cousin and his wife were pregnant before they got married and now almost 7 years later they have 3 great kids.

I think sometimes for people who marry young and this isn’t everybody and certainly it would apply for some people who are older, but some marry to quickly before they truly truly know their spouse. This is a person they are promising to love forever as long as they both shall live, good and bad times etc. That is a serious serious commitment and I think today people not just young couples take it to lightly.

If you look at it if your say 18 or 19, even earlier 20’s, you’ll probably be completely different once you’re in your late 20’s to early 30s

I found an old study its 5 years old some of the data maybe be outdated it basically says that most Young marriages end in divorce. That the older you are at the time of your vows the more likely your marriage will last. That’s not to say people cant marry young and have it last, The Hanson Parents (Zach, Ike and Taylor) Their parents got married at like 18 and 19 and they are still together. My mom also knows a couple that dated when she was in high school who got married right after they graduated and are still together today.







http://www.webmd.com/content/article/32/1728_80368

Answer 4

I don't believe getting married young is a good idea because you need to experience life and get an education to equip you when you do decide to get married and have a family. Have fun. Marriage between young people usually ends up in divorce.
Having a baby before marriage is really hard on the child because a child needs the security of both a mother and father. When you have a baby before marriage the child ends up paying for the parents selfishness. So sad.

Answer 5

The good about being married young: you are open-minded, willing to please the other, willing to make it work, very much in love, still naive about marriage...
The bad: the fun tends to slow down, you will be amazed how much you have grown up and hubby is till playing PS2 games all night with his buddies. Hubby still wants to party and you want to start furnishing your place, maybe buy a house. All of that cost money. That brings me to preganacy. A baby changes EVERYTHING. My husband and I married young, very much in love. We are still togther after 6 years and have gone through a lot. Finances are your #1 concern. If I were you, I'd hold off on the pregnancy. Ages to get pregnant 25 and up. Any younger, you might have issues unless you are both financially secure. For marriage I would say 25 and up as well. Do not rush into getting married.

Answer 6

If you read other peoples questions, you'll see that getting married young is not a good idea. You haven't finished growing and getting to know yourself. You and the other person are constantly changing and being young makes it a little more difficult. Not to mention having separate goals, etc.

As for pregnancy before marriage. Why bring a life into the world if you're not even committed to each other? You would agree to have a baby and possibly ruin a life, but not commit to the person you created a life with? I think it's a$$ backwards.

Answer 7

Kids need every opportunity to have a good life. If you are preg before marriage then the kid has two strikes against him already.No marriage and single parent raising him.If you are preg then do the best you can for the child and yourself. If you are very young adoption is the best answer if you do not have a good support system to hlep you. Getting married young is just dumb! I know . If you are preg, do not get married because then you will be making a second mistake.Get your hs. educ. and then a trade or college educ before any marriage is thought of. Work and travel and see the world and meets lots of ppl. You may not have met you life's mate yet! You may just have puppy love and it will never work!! If it is true love your mate will still be ther wehn you are educated, employed, saved $, have a home and are well established, mature and ready for a family. If you marry too young you will not be able to go for your dreams and goals because you will be scratching out a living on little educationa and little to none skills. If you try to go to college and have a marriage and work to pay the bills, you will not have time for your marriage or the baby and you will both grow apaprt! Please do not get marriaed young. If you have made a mistake and got preg. either keep it, adopt it out,but do not get married because you are preg. You are not ready for two major life changes at a young age. I wish someone had talked to me like this. I got married, had a baby and my dear hubby decided he was too young to be married and wanted to party! I was left with no educ. and a baby to raise with little to no help from my ex!Be smart about your future. Every decision you make now will affect your future kids and spouse! Will they agree with what you afre doing now? Now is the time to prepare for the future! Best wishes!

Answer 8

I got married at 19, my husband was 21 and we both had good jobs by then. We got married because we felt we were ready for marriage and its responsibilities. We've also known each other for 6 yrs prior to that so it's not like we just met and got married. I'm now 21 and he's 23 and our marriage is just great.

As far as pregnancy before marriage....well, the only thing I can say is it's not something I nor my husband agreed with.

Answer 9

I know that getting married too young is not a great idea. In my own experience i was married and divorced twice before I was 25 Both marriages endly badly with me being emotionally messed up for a long time I think it depends upon how mature each person really is how well there communication and trust levels are then its up to them

As for the second question I know that being pregnant before marriage is considered socially immoral but if you and you significant other are ready to make the commitment to raising a child together without being married Hey its your decision In my case My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and have a two month old son together We are working together to raise our son and really dont have plans to get married any time soon But it is up to you just dont make a mistake because the only person who will really get hurt is the baby.

Answer 10

married young

good: have an early start for a family n avoid pre-marital sex or any unwanted mistakes if the partner is not commited or legally bind, n ability to develop maturity as marriage molds u into an individual with responsibilities and obligation

bad: may not have met the right person to get married to n end up divorced at such a young age, lost of some degree of freedom too soon in life

pregnancy before marriage

good: hmmm..i can't think of any..n i dont condone such act...abstinence, if thts too difficult, use pills or condoms to prevent pregnancies

bad: Nowadays, even in our liberal society many people still look down upon illegitimate children. I dont encourage u to do so as religiously, social etiquette-wise its just wrong..