My parents have been off and on fighting for about a year. Two years ago we moved into a brand new house that I now love. We also have two dogs that I could never live without. My mom is the one who will have to move out, but she can only afford apartments and I have had bad experiences in apartments. I love my dad, but he is a little strict, but I understand him. My mom is just a little to care free. She always thinks my dad is mad at her, she's almost paranoid about it. My main concern is the dogs really. I can live in an apartment, share the holidays, whatever. But I need the dogs, they are my mom's though and she said if she moves out, the dogs are going with her. Please help me, I just don't know what to do now.
2006-09-25 18:11:39 · 9 answers · asked by cornmessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay for one thing, I can't move out yet, I'm only 14. I mean this has happened before and I was able to stop them for a little whil, but now I think it's for REAL. I know I could visit the dogs, you guys do prove a point there.But my mom has to move out because she doesn't make the payments on the house. I mean it could go to court but my mom could NEVER afford that house with the job she has now, and she won't quit.
2006-09-25 18:28:05 · update #1
Start praying for the marriage. Tell your parents how you feel about it when they fight. Let them know you love them and want to keep everyone together. You may not know the reasons they fight but you can let them know how upset your are. If they do break up, try to do what is best for you where you will be the most stable and happy. Maybe your mom will let you keep a dog and you can bring with you when you visit her. Best wishes with all of this.
2006-09-25 18:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dogs are an extension of your family, and your mom. You don't want to let go of that. But I'm afraid that it will happen. It would be best, if you could afford to move out on your own. You might find a place that will allow dogs. But the dogs are not as important as you are. If your dad is strict, and is willing to let you stay there....I would, and then save up money to find a place of your own. And maybe live near the dogs.
But again, the dogs are just a part of the issues you are having with your Mom and Dad. It sucks when people grow apart. But they don't love you any less. And when people can't agree sometimes, the people in their lives are forced to make decisions on what is best for they, themselves. Hang in there.
2006-09-25 18:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Sad-Dad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing to remember is that none of this is your fault Can't they act like adults and see how much you are getting hurt by all the fighting did they ever go to counsiling for this? You wont be able to stop the fighting because its their fault I hope that they just dont start using you against each other Its plain to see that you love both your parents and your dogs I hope everything works out for you Keep your chin up and pray that it will get better in time
2006-09-25 19:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by evillynn8098 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The choice is yours, most apts. won't allow dogs especially more than one. Don't base your decision on your pets, Where will you be happier? (pretned there are no dogs involved) mom's place or dads'? who do you get along better with? and be aware, if they do split up, they will use the dogs, to get to you. (some parents do, your may or may not) either way you can always visit the other parents and the dogs, the dogs will be find, you need to do what's right for you
2006-09-25 18:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by JackieH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you mother be the one who would have to move out of the home if your parents spilt up? In most states the home is "community property" and if there are any "minor children" in the home the wife usually gets the house in the divorce or one of the parties are ordered to buy the other one out of their share of the home. If she does move out and takes the dogs that's just too bad for you. They're her dogs and she is entitled to take them with her. You can go visit them.
2006-09-25 18:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax. Nothing has happened yet. If your Mom does move you can always go and visit her and the dogs. The dogs won't forget you, so relax and take one moment at a time.
2006-09-25 18:17:28 · answer #6 · answered by Bexcy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the biggest problem is that the decision may not be yours to make and there really is nothing we can do about our parents fighting. There are times when adults act more like children than what children do. The best you can do at this point is maybe try talking with them and make your feelings known to them and then hope fore the best
2006-09-25 18:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look u must try with them from time to time
try to make just a bridge of understanding between ur father and mother
try to act as beautiful girl and soluate ur parents problems with offering soluations to them
u can tell them that ur life will be destroied if they get divorced and u need them with little cry they will stop fight
2006-09-25 18:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pray
2006-09-25 18:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by darkangel1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋