IN THIS WHOLE TWISTED SITUATION WITH MY HUSBAND BEING ACCUSED OF RAPE AND MOLESTATION, I FEEL SORRY FOR MY 2 BOYS THEY IDOLIZE THERE FATHER AND THEY DO KNOW WHAT IS GOING ON, THEY ARE 17 ANS 15 AND IF ALL THAT IS IN THE DARK DOES COME TO LIGHT AND HE DID DO THESE VIEL THINGS TO MY SISTER, WHAT ABOUT MY KIDS, SHOULD I HAVE HIM LEAVE IF GUILTY AND MOVE BACK HOME 1500 MILES AWAY WHICH WOULD BE VERY HARD FOR THE BOYS TO VISIT HIM, BECAUSE I DON'T WANNA MOVE BACK HOME MY WHOLE HAS RELOCATED HERE IN THE SOUTH, BUT HIS WHOLE FAMILY LIVES UP NORTH, WHAT DO I DO, WHAT IS BEST FOR MY KIDS IS MY ONLY CONCERN AND I DON'T WANT THEM MAD AT ME, FOR MAKING THERE FATHER LEAVE AND GO AWAY..... YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. I DONT EVEN WANT HIM TO LEAVE BUT I CANNOT BE WITH A MONSTER IF HE DID IT.
THANKS TO ALL AND YOUR OPINION.
GOD BLESS US ALL.
2006-09-25 18:06:22 · 5 answers · asked by angel b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my kids do know what is going on and there is alot of tension with everyone and they disagree with what is being said and are taking his side I just dont want them to be mad at me when the crap hits the fan
2006-09-25 19:33:54 · update #1
also my husband has never laid a hand on the boys if anything they get away with too much with him he worships them both and would die for them that is not a issue with him hurting them
2006-09-25 19:36:01 · update #2
and also analize this for me my sister has two girls who have been practically raised by my husband and they have never sia dhe ever touched them and love him and dont believe what my sister is saying either..... now dont they say once a offender always a offender, but in this case I dont know
2006-09-25 19:39:11 · update #3
I think the first thing you should do, either with your husband present or not - is tell your kids what is going on. They are old enough to understand everything, in fact they are almost legal adults. They have the right to know whats happening with their family and why you might be leaving their dad. You need to give them time to deal with this and realize that their dad might be having to move out.
If you do end up leaving him, then arrangements will have to be made to have the kids visit him on holidays/summer vacations, many parents do the long distance thing if necessary.
2006-09-25 18:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your children. see what it is they want. if they want to stay and your husband is charged he will be put in jail. explain to them what he did was very wronge and he will always be their father but let them make the choice as to go or not . you are not making their father leave if what he did is true then he was the one who left them. just make sure if they want to stay and still have a relationship with their father let them know how wronge it is to hurt women and to always respect them. hope everything turns out for the best.
2006-09-25 18:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by believer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and experiment with leaving your kids with him and ask them if he did any harm. If there are issues, then stay away. Yet, I would never even approach a man accused of rape and molestation, yet alone my own kids. Simply, becareful. Hes done it before, he can do it again.
2006-09-25 18:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey you should think about what he did to your sister, then you should think about yourself. You have no reason to protect your kids perception of what their father is, I understand why u'd want to but they are old enough to know, and they'll undestand.
2006-09-25 18:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by c_mitu89 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ASK YOUR KIDS how they feel and then let them decide because they too have their feelings.
Ni matter what even if he is no longer your husbund he will always be their dad. so let them decide. good luck dear
2006-09-25 18:18:55 · answer #5 · answered by chocbabe12 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋