Though i am fully satisfied with my sex life but my partner never cooperate whenever i express desire for anal sex. i have tried a few times but she complains of having pain and ultimately i have to walk out. she also has a minor problem of piles and says that because of this she can not enjoy what ia want. what do i do to make her feel comfortable and for having enjoyable anal sex.
2006-09-25 17:45:29 · 20 answers · asked by Power Ranger 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
First off, the more you insist, the more angry and resentful your girlfriend will feel towards you for not understanding. So back off. Then,while you are pleasuring her, try just placing a finger down by her anus. Not to insert, but to just play. Slowly, over time, using ONLY your finger, gently insert into the anus a little bit at a time.... Use LOTS of lube and if she complains that it hurts then stop... Use the finger for a long time before trying anything larger. Anal sex is fun, but not for everyone either because of physical problems or mental hangups. This not something to hurry if you really want anal sex with her and you love her.
2006-09-25 18:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by msfyrebyrd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some men and women enjoy anal sex, and others do not. Anal sex can hurt if partners do not take certain steps. The anus does not produce enough lubrication for comfortable anal sex, so it is important to use an artificial water-based lubricant — like K-Y jelly or Astroglide — for anal sex. (Using an oil-based lubricant, like Vaseline, can damage latex condoms.)
It is also important to stop if anything hurts and communicate with your partner about how you feel — sex play that is painful or uncomfortable should not continue.
As with first vaginal intercourse, first anal intercourse is more comfortable with finger play before the penis is inserted. But not all people enjoy anal intercourse. Those who don't enjoy it should not be embarrassed and should not force themselves to accept it.
Many people however, do enjoy anal sex and think it's perfectly normal.
2006-09-27 14:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
N-O-T-H-I-N-G. If it hurts, there is NOTHING you can do that will make her comfortable with this. Also, if she has a health issue, you shouldn't even be pushing the issue. That's not fair to her.
If everything else in your sex life is good, something as small as this should not be a problem for you. She will never want to do this with you due to the pain it obviously causes, and if you try to push this on her, she might stop letting you have sex with her at all.
2006-09-25 18:00:27 · answer #3 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be satisfied what you are having right now , & stop asking for anal sex as this will cause pain to your partner . If you do not think for yourself , think for your partner .
2006-09-25 17:50:41 · answer #4 · answered by tay i 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How about enjoying regular sex and realizing that if she doesn't like or want anal, you should learn to respect her choice. There are some things that just don't do it for certain people and there are some things people are comfortable with - respect her and that she doesn't like or want anal sex.
2006-09-25 17:47:54 · answer #5 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Why you want to have one if she doesn't want and enjoy?
Don't push What you want to her! That's selfish! Did you ever ask her what she wants or she enjoy having sex with you even??? You should try it your self first by stick banana up in your a**!! Why cant you have enjoyable normal sex! Be more considerate!
2006-09-25 17:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by sunflower222 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to start small. I mean, way smaller than your finger. You can't just shove your manhood in! That would be extremely painful and she'd probably scratch your eyes out. Go slow..... very slow..... it may take months for you to gradually be able to use bigger toys and then maybe later she can accomodate you. Be patient and understanding and patient!
2006-09-25 17:51:46 · answer #7 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Back off. How would you like a rod up your butt.
If this is very important to you, more important than her feelings of not wanting it, do you both a favour and let her be and find yourself a willing partner.
2006-09-25 17:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If she doesnt wanna have anal sex then dont convince her but if shes just scared make sure to use alot of lubrication on ur penis and her anus (butthole)and its quite enjoyable so go for it and tell her that everything gonna be ok (lol) no but just like I said just go for it
2006-09-25 17:50:23 · answer #9 · answered by 2992 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Let her stick a banana up your rear end.
You'll learn to respect her pain then.
Anything that causes unwanted pain to one person is not not the way to enjoy yourself.
2006-09-25 17:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by Rusty 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋