He has gotten on the sites that have the local live girls. He has even checked out eharmony. I found this by accident, but when I ask him about it he tells me I am wrong for confronting him and it is driving him crazy. We are just fine as long as I don't ask questions, but that is not what I want in a relationship. I like open and honesty. I would rather know the truth.
2006-09-25 17:44:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you have answered your own question. You obviously want different things out of the relationship than your partner does. Cut him loose and get on with finding someone you CAN trust.
Good luck :-)
2006-09-25 17:47:51 · answer #1 · answered by the_fatmanwalksalone 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a big issue in any relationship. I have caught my husband in so many lies it is ridiculous. I did not confront him until I had actual proof of what he was doing. If he is looking at local live girls you should make it plain to him that you don't want him doing that. Because that causes suspiscion in your relationsip and stress. He has no right to be looking at other women when he is with you. You are the one person who has every right to know what he is doing at all times. If he cannot give you an explanation or even a good conversation about this he is probably hiding other stuff from you. Find out the truth, get the proof, and make a decision.
2006-09-25 18:03:30 · answer #2 · answered by rkb12584 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him then leave him. In every relationship their has to be trust before their is anything else. If their is no trust thier is no relationship. The two of you have to be honest with eachother if not your never gonna be happy just hurt all the time. And I know from experience that no one wants to be in a relationship where your always unhappy. So you need to do what you know in your heart is right.
Good Luck!
2006-09-25 17:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by littlecloieinttown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you actually need a bunch of total strangers to tell you what you need to do???? You really already know the answer. You are "fine" as long as you don't ask questions, that is not what you want in a relationship. You want an open and honest relationship........hmmmmm. Is that what you have? Good luck.
2006-09-25 17:50:10 · answer #4 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him for his passwords for his online accounts... or figure them out yourself...then talk to people pretending to be him and see what you can find out... it doesnt really fit into the open and honest thing... but this is what i would do... then break up with him, and you'll have a real reason to give him... instead of just saying "i dont trust you"... you can add a "because... blah blah blah"
2006-09-25 17:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a necessary ingredient to a successful relationship...... without it, you have nothing but ill feelings all the time.
If he cant admit his obsession, and feels the need to continue lieing about his computer habits, then leave, youll have a peace of mind, and if he should wake up from it, then it was all worth it, right?
2006-09-25 18:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From where I'm sitting there really doesn't seem to be much of a relationship on his part. Why you can't see that I dont' know. The truth is right in front of you but you don't seem to want to see it.
2006-09-25 18:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What this man is doing is harmless. He obviously enjoys the pictures. It in no way means he enjoys you less. Unless he physically touches another woman, quit letting this bother you. Most husbands viewing these sites are searching for different ways to show love to the one woman they have at home.
2006-09-25 18:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by neff_crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to go....do you want to continue to live with someone who won't tell you the truth...someone who is closed? you are not wrong for confronting him...you are not wrong at all....a relationship should be open.
2006-09-25 18:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by intelligentbooklady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to TRUST him. He is your husband and is assumed loving you. He loves you, he is honest to you, otherwise how he can be worthy of the word LOVE. So, I believe your question is not matter of honest, but matter of love. Think my words over and think your question again, you will find the answer by yourself.
2006-09-25 18:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by Billy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋