okay i was in bed and heard my parents arguing really loud i then heard that my dad is cheating on my mom i was crying for about an hour and now im on here i cant fall asleep too my dad is a nice guy and i wouldnt picture him doing this but im still so sad help!!!!!!! im thinking tomarrow at school to talk to the guidence counsoler it seems like they are getting a divorce
2006-09-25 17:38:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know what to say to make you feel better. I feel for your mom, because let's say it was you and your husband was cheating would you want him back in your house even if you had kids. Then you need to ask your father how committed he is to that relationship. Is he just not in love with your mother anymore? It might be best that they seperate or they should seek a counselor and try to work it out. It just depends on if she could ever trust him again. Trust is a very big issue in a marriage. You could talk to them and tell them that you overheard them arguing and ask if they would be willing to answer some of your questions. See if they are willing to discuss it with you. They might not want to burden you with their personal issues. Yes, even though you are their child, it's still a personal issue most parents might not go into detail about it not wanting to upset the child. Again these are just my ideas and not necessarily what is right or true. If you need to talk, talk with your counselor or with close friends. It always helps to talk to friends.
2006-09-25 18:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by Alessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are human, just like your dad. They might have had problems before that you did not know about. Keep in mind that your parents will have to decide what will be better for both of them (which may be living separate lives) but the most important thing is that it is them who needs to sort out their differences and you have nothing to do with it. It does not mean they love you less or anything like that. Do not try to understand what makes these things happen to people, just accept that it does happen. One day when you are older perhaps you will but right now, your priorities should be yourself and what will make you a fine successful person in the future.
2006-09-25 17:55:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can just imagine how hard that must have been, but you should try to talk to your parents about it. You are a part of their life and they need to let you know what's going on. If they don't talk to you then that's when you should talk to the guidence counsler. But try your parents first maybe they can treat you like an adult and actually fill you in. Even if it's good or it's bad you need to hear what they have to say. Just remember they will always be your parents and you will always love them no matter what.
Good Luck!
2006-09-25 17:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by littlecloieinttown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear you are having a hard time dealing with what all your parents are going thru...I know alot of this stuff we adults go thru seems like it doesn't affect our children, and that is so not true....It does affect you...I went thru the divorce of my parents, and then they remarried a yr later...being an adult doesn't mean we have all the answers...We would like others to think we do, but we simply don't!!! Like the 2nd answer you received none of this is your fault, so please don't feel that it is...I hope you have a close relationship with your parents, so hopefully you will be able to talk to them about how you feel....Talking to your guidance console is a great idea...I wish you the best....try to get some sleep sweetie....God Bless..
~PEACE~
2006-09-25 18:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by no_doubt! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The above advice is excellent! Try talking to your parents about how you feel. Calmly, as any adult would, tell your dad how disappointed you are in his infidelity and how you want him to stop. How he should apologize to your mom and promise to never cheat on her or the family again. If he persists, he risks loosing his family. Suggest some family counseling for everyone to get through this crisis.
2006-09-25 17:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry dear. I have already said a prayer for you.
My parents divorced when I was nine years old and it was very hard for me. Lets just hope divorce will not happen in this case. Maybe they can get some help and they will have a better marriage than before.
2006-09-25 17:43:06 · answer #6 · answered by historybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sweetie It may not come to that. People make mistakes. My mom cheated and left my dad when I was a freshman in high school and it devestated me, but they worked it out and are still togeather. Maybey they will talk through this. Just remember no matter what This is not your fault.
2006-09-25 17:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go to your counselor but also be honest with mom and dad and talk to them they don't want you hurt even if they have problems they both love you and try to keep your head up you are very smart and you will be alright going to an adult for help is the best thing good luck..you never know mom and dad may work it out
2006-09-25 17:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by Alli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to someone you trust is a good idea. I don't know how much your counselor can help directly, but they can point you in the right direction to get help. Just remember that nothing that's going on with your parents is your fault. This happened with one of my kids and it was hard to convince her otherwise.
2006-09-25 17:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Strike2? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before you do anything ask your parents about what is going on tell them you heard them fighting, and you are concerned about what is going to happen to your family. and by the way just because your dad is a great guy don't mean he can't or won't cheat on your mom. then again your mom maybe just paranoid and is accusing him because she is insecure about something else
2006-09-25 17:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by smitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋