I started as a very conservative person, marrying when I was only 19. That was a very long time ago. Stayed married and faithful for 15 of the 20 year marriage. I was very straight laced until I began playing music out in bars and getting paid for it. I have no formal training other than a highschool graduate and decided after my youngest child started kindergarten that I would start playing singer/songwriter stuff and try to get paid for it. Well, I met this young guy who claimed that if I listened to him he could manage my carreer and I would go far in my carreer. Eventually we did start sleeping together, I guess here is where I should mention my husband was sleeping around already, and since i hadn't really had sex in probably a year, I got kind of obsessed with the whole thing. Nex thing ya know, I am going through divorce and trying to make it with my new manager. now we are married and he is a very hard person to live with. our morals are not the same. he is a porn fanatic also.
2006-09-25 17:34:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This relationship started off on the wrong foot from the jump. If you know it's not going well, and hasn't, do both of you a favor and get out. Especially for your children's sake. You are setting an example, and your children need to know what a healthy relationship is to model themselves after. They inevitably follow in our footsteps. You put a lot of time into your first marriage, probably trying to "make it work". That doesn't work unless both parties are putting in 100%. In your heart, only you know where this relationship is going. And since you wrote this, I'd say it's not going anywhere. Don't waste anymore of your life on a bad deal. Stay single for a while, at least until you figure out why you keep picking the wrong men. And see a therapist for God's sake, sounds like you need help with your self esteem. Good luck to you.
2006-09-25 17:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by T P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you sow is what you reap! I'm no bible thumper, but that seems appropriate for you two. However, if you have no children, then get out of the marriage if professional counseling is not in the picture. Because of your history, neither of you are trustworthy, but a divorce doesn't have to be costly if you can come to some truthful agreements and conduct your affairs like intelligent trustworthy adults.
2006-09-25 17:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow do I know exactly how you feel. Exactly. You found out like I did that the grass is NOT greener on the other side. I hope your not as unhappy as I am. If you are, I feel your pain, I really do.
2006-09-25 18:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question. Can I live with this person for the rest of my life?
If the answer is no, then what are you doing with him? You should be out there looking for the man that you DO want to spend the rest of your life with.
2006-09-25 19:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that was stupid. And the best thing to do after making a stupid mistake? Fix it. In your case, get out of this marriage.
2006-09-25 17:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks to me like you do not choose good men. Leave this one and stay away from men or be with one you arn't attracted to because he would most likely be a good guy.
2006-09-25 17:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by ooopancakeooo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess sometimes the grass isn't greener on the other side, no matter how much it it might seem to be.
2006-09-25 18:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you jumped into the relationship and marriage with the new guy before you were healed from the other divorce.
2006-09-25 17:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle : 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cheat on your husband with him and you criticize his morals. You are a piece a work sister.
2006-09-25 18:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You chose your bed now you have to lie in it
2006-09-25 17:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋